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Diane Gentile Medical Fund

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On November 26th, while on tour in Italy, our dear friend and colleague, Diane Gentile, was seriously injured when a boulder crashed through the windshield of her vehicle. She has since been hospitalized and will be heading in for surgery before flying home to consult with doctors in New York. Since the accident occurred abroad Diane’s health insurance will not cover the entirety of the medical expenses and she will be unable to work for an, as of yet, undetermined period upon her return home.

In addition to the looming medical bills, we are hoping to help offset travel costs and living expenses while she recovers. Diane is an amazing, strong woman and artist, as well as an important part of the music community, and we hope that we can band together and show her the support she deserves. No amount is too small, and every last donation is so greatly appreciated.
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A note from Diane:

I want to thank everyone for your concerns and sweet messages. While on tour in Italy, driving on the highway to our next show in Cantu, a boulder fell off a truck in front of us, flew through our windshield and knocked me out. My guitar player, Alfonso Velez, was behind the wheel and luckily, was able to get me to the hospital quickly in what was a scary and dangerous situation. Thankfully he is fine. I am having surgery here in Bologna and will be recovering for a little while. I look forward to returning home and getting back to playing music soon.
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Final Update from Diane, PT III:


"When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, Let it be
And in my hour of darkness, she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, Let it be
When all the broken hearted people, Living in the world agree
There will be an answer, Let it Be
And though they may be parted, there is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, Let it Be
And when the night is cloudy, There is still a light that shines on me
Shine until tomorrow , Let it Be
I wake up to the sound of music, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, Let it Be
Let it Be, Let it Be, Let it Be, Let it Be
There will be an answer , Let it Be
Let it be, Let it Be, Let it Be, Let it Be
Whisper words of wisdom, Let it Be.


Final thanks to all for comments, texts, reaching out, coming over, callin' up, checkin' in. You all gave me hope and through your generosity relieved my high stresses and the love connected us all. I'm going to make it and I'll be there for you. Just make sure I know how and when and give me a few more months to overcome last Friday's setback.

My email is dgen21 @ aol.com. Feel free to stay in touch with me please. If I don't get back right away it is never personal. It could be my eyesight bothering me or some job I took that I shouldn't have, or some dumb thing like that. My door is open and will stay that way.

PS - WE'RE TAKING THE GOFUND ME DOWN on July 5th. Thanks so very very much to everyone.

On the promo tip:
Diane and the Gentlemen have.....
New EP coming July 26 "Little Things" - 4 song vinyl and download on Velvet Elk Records.
New Video coming July 31 "Little Things"
EP Release show: Songs of Diane and the Gentlemen performed by Special Guests with my band, the Gentlemen. July 31 Coney Island Baby. With Don Dilego and the Touristas and Rusty Truck.

Check out JESSE MALIN'S NEWEST ALBUM SUNSET KIDS Produced By Lucinda Williams. ON RADIO EVERYWHERE The single is awesome "Room 13", now heard on WFUV, NYC. Get tickets for the show at Webster Hall on Saturday September 14, 2019.

Love Love Love as our beloved John Lennon would say..
Truly yours,
Diane
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Final Update from Diane, PT II:

It would be ill of me not to mention a few very key people who were in their own way, deeply affected by this along with me. Alfonso Velez is one of my dearest. For some reason he was put in the driver's seat to get me to safety. We were having such a good time laughing in the beautiful midday sun that afternoon. At the emergency room, he called the American Embassy and made sure I was on their watch list. I am still. He sat with me day and night for 5 days. His life was altered too. He plays every Sunday night in the West Village on Christopher Street at Bell Book and Candle to a packed house. If you are ever over there, stop by and buy the man a drink. He's got wings. Jesse Malin was so gracious to have offered me the dates. He knows how much I love Italy and knew playing there would change my life. He was right. It did change my life, not as either of us would have ever expected. He has been there every moment of the way and I feel terribly indebted to him. I cannot imagine what panic went through his head and heart while he was in the middle of tour dates knowing he just lost his GM of 10 years at his business back home, not to mention his deep concern for me as a person. We've worked together for 20 years or so. His partners at The Bowery Electric too, Johnny and Laura, also stood by me through this though they had the mountainous task of regrouping really quickly back in NYC to get me replaced at Bowery. Jesse travelled long distances and lost so much sleep to see me right away. He got dear Gillian Stoll to put up the Go Fund Me. I really love Gillian. Clearly a man on a mission. He told me repeatedly I was going to get better. His words were all I had to hang on to the first week there. And to this day, he remains my constant reminder that I will get better. My sister Julie and her husband Ron Friedman, who on one day's notice, gave up their grandkids for a whole month. They were with me every day, by my bed, walked with me through the drab hallways of Maggiore Trauma Center, washed my hair, bought me clothes, watched me sleep, and with me watched the snow fall outside of the hospital window in Bologna. They were my advocates. They got me out and took me home safely. Our relationship is bonded and I believe they understand more about my crazy life now than before and that maybe we have better understanding with each other. Johnny Romanelli, Medical Chief of Police in NYC. We've been friends since kids. He studied in Bologna. The first thing my brother Bob did was call Johnny. He knew where I was, what was happening and what should be happening. He was the voice of knowledge, reason and understanding. Hearing his voice was like hearing my Dad through the phone line. We hadn't seen or heard from each other in a very long time. He was really concerned. He would have medvac'd me to NYC if it were possible. We still love each other like when we were kids. Bob and Lisa. My kid brother and his wife who are the prize in your Cracker Jacks!! Lisa completely renovated my bedroom at home and Bob was my direct link to most of my friends and family as well as handy man for a manless woman in need of a handy man. He took me to Eye Surgery in New York and to my last surgery. He's a calm collected Libra with a huge heart. They come to my shows. You must meet them. My other sister Denise, thank you for the house cleaning. I think this might have caused her to find religion. Grammy (that's me Mum), continues to motivate me to stay forward thinking. Gram went through a hard 3 years. My brother Edward passed away 2 years ago, then my sister Elda last August. Gram was very sad and was looking forward to Elda's Memorial Concert at Bowery Electric. She has been nervous since Nov.26. I am hoping she will relax now that we have no other surgical plans. Glen Gentile, my amazing Artist cousin who was the only one who understood that I am completely nocturnal. He texted me every night for months. I know he felt a sadness about not knowing what my future would hold. He's so supportive of the music. I know the reach this incident had on so many others. It was strenuous indeed for all. I am so sorry to everyone. I am so indebted and grateful to everyone. I really am.

I want to thank the fantastic Doctors and nurses who treated me, helped me, worked on me in New York and in Italy: Dr. Baietti, Dr. Petrocelli, Dr. Lee, Dr. Lazzarro, Dr. Panarelli, Dr. Romanelli, Dr. Markey, Dr. Belinsky, Dr. Nikoledes, Sylvia Garrucci, Dr. Plokamakis They deserve praise for their true understanding, compassion, expertise and professionalism. They are very special people. Thank you to Professor Marco Torsello, my dear Italian advocate. And Olga Sartor, my representative in Italy at the Embassy, who devoted time to my well being while in Bologna. One rock introduced me to a world of new people in different walks of life, who all help people. That's amazing thought. Devoting your life to helping people.


One of my favorite Dylan songs is "Lily, Rosemary and the Jack of Hearts" There is something about this song that makes me feel so great. I love the writing. It's so spirited.
When I get blue, I play this song. I've felt a little blue the past 2 days so I started listening again. This music is to me pure freedom of spirit. When I listen to "Lily, Rosemary and the Jack of Hearts" it wouldn't matter a damn where the song came from, how it was written, who inspired it, where the idea came from. It's just simply magnificent and for 8 minutes and 44 seconds, I am anesthetized. Here's a verse:
"Rosemary started drinkin' hard and seein' her reflection in the knife She was tired of the attention, tired of playin' the role of Big Jim's wife She had done a lot of bad things, even once tried suicide Was lookin' to do just one good deed before she died
She was gazin' to the future, riding on the Jack of Hearts"

Magnificent. So visual. So emotional. So pointed. When i woke up this morning, after feeding the kitties, I walked over to the piano and began playing "Let it Be." It was in my head. Now, of course, who would want to hear anyone other than John Lennon and Paul McCartney play this song? Probably no one. But I loved playing it. I played it over about 10 times. I was told by the Dr.s no singing. I sang. I couldn't help myself. It hurt my face but it cured my soul.
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Final Update from Diane, PT I:

So Close and yet so far!! On Friday, the great Dr.'s Markey and Belinsky at NYU Langone Health did the final reconstructive surgery that was needed after the Nov. 26 Italy ordeal. To recollect: Date of accident Nov. 26 1PM. Date of first surgery Dec. 4. Date of 2nd surgery Jan. 22. Date of 3rd Surgery June 16. It took 7 months for me to finally start getting my strength back and after Friday's surgery I fell back a ways. I'm not upset though. I knew this was going to have to happen and I just have to hold on tight for a little while longer. I have no choice. Grin and bear it.

I said back then, a week after the accident, I would absolutely have to go through with the corrective surgery even though I knew It would put my healing back some. My eye lid was drooping, my mouth frowning and my cheeks hollow. I didn't want to live the rest of my life looking like this; an ugly version of myself, permanently. What happened to me was unfair in so many ways. It was my lot in this life to be the recipient of a stray 5 pound rock through a car window, a 1 in a billion random freak accident. If I could fix myself up at all, I was obligated. Let me say this: modern medicine is fantastic but once you mess with nature, you've changed the landscape. You can't go back. The grass grows different. They put a new lens in my left eye. Of course the world looks cold through that eye. It's not my natural lens, born into my body. I would much prefer the natural unaffected me, wrinkles and all but in this case, that had already been taken out by the rock. On the other side of the deep thoughts I have about this, I am so lucky I was not killed. I am so lucky I have sight in my eye. I did a thorough search on the internet about people who have had similar experiences. Every article said, "died". "Woman got hit by flying metal through car window and died. Man got hit with flying road sign through front window and died." I got hit with a 5 pound rock with steel rebar and I am ALIVE with my eye in tact and a brain, and a heart, and a soul and a very hot spirit. Thank you to my friends for helping me stay here.

So I had my 3rd surgery and it was once again, a long surgery - over 8 hours. The body hates these long bouts of anesthesia. It takes longer to get back on your feet, longer to remember things, longer to rebound back into daily life, if that's where you want to be. That's certainly where i want to be. Consciousness is very important in life because before you know it, it's gone. Under Anesthesia, you're literally in a coma for that length of time and then brought back to consciousness. This is the 3rd time for me within 7 months so I'm a little fed up. Cumulatively speaking, I've had over 25 hours of surgery as a consequence of his incident so collectively, I was in a coma state for 25 hours. That's not too cool. They bandaged my head up and sent me home. I was nauseous for about 24 hours. I am super swollen still from the surgery and my eyelids were sewn. I've had to sleep sitting up and ice every hour on the hour. Ouch. I want to scream. The pain is real and steady Hang on and hang tight, as they say. Did this once, did this twice, I can do this again.

Today is day 5 since the surgery. They took out the stitches in my eye. It felt exactly like my eyelids were being tweezed. My compadre Dave Stekert made my belly tickle when he sent me the Jason Yantz edited video for "Little Things", the forthcoming single, we shot in Mattituck. This video will always remind me of the great people I have in my life: Dennis Borowsky, Amy Imossi, Heart Montalbano, Dave Stekert, Colin Brooks, Jason Victor, Matt Basile, Nicki (everyone knows Nicki), Jason Yantz. I mean GREAT. I called Amy and Dennis and said, "Hey, I want to make a video at your house. What do you think?" Amy says "Yes definitely. Let's figure out when." I called Heart and said "I'm making a video out at Amy and Dennis's." She said "Who's doing your hair and makeup? Me!" I called Dave and said "Will you shoot another video for me? I want to do it in Mattituck at Amy and Dennis's place." Dave says "Sure. When are we doing it?" I told the band "please put a date on the calendar. oh by the way, you have to drive 100 miles out of town." The band says "sure. We'll be there." AMAZING!!!! Life is sometimes so simple and not always so disappointing.

I should probably start getting rid of the idea of "getting back" and replace it with the idea of "going forward". I can't wipe out the last 7 months and pick up where I had left off. It just doesn't work that way. I have to get better and I have to stay committed to the future, whatever that may be. It's been harder this 3rd time around. I have more anxiety, like time is running out on me. I'll know soon enough but I am pretty sure this surgery was the final round. With a big prayer to the heavenly sky I say "please oh please let this be the end of it. I want to go forward into my rock'n roll life without fear of another rock coming through the front window of the car I am traveling in. Can I get a guarantee? Oh and by the way, there are some people I need to send my new vibrant light healing energy to: Denise, Nancy, Sylvain." No cigs, no booze, no singing, no running, no working out, no sex.

Now with that said, philosophically speaking, I am the luckiest girl around. My mother is 92 years old, still very alert, energetic, forward thinking. The forward thinking is the key. How can you be forward thinking at 92 years old? Well somehow, she keeps thinking about what needs to be done tomorrow and what she wants to do next month. Yesterday, she drove herself on jam packed highways dug up by construction, in the pouring rain for over 90 miles to my home. She was on a mission.Little ole' Grammy peering over the steering wheel. She told me "I am here for 3 reasons." Her mission was 1. to access my surgery results, 2. to drop off food, and 3. to retrieve "the relic" she had secretly hid in my bedroom before I got home from Italy. She was taking the relic to another family member in crisis. "Relic"? An item claimed to be associated with Jesus Christ. There are such things. According to the Cardinals and Bishops at the Vatican, my mother's relic is an original piece of the cloth worn by Jesus Christ. It's from his Shroud of Turin. Why would my mother have a "relic"? Because her father passed it on down to her. It was his "tip" for waiting on the Cardinals and Bishops table on the voyage to America. It's that Italian Catholic voodoo thing To some it's the great con game "how to get out of paying someone for their services." Organized religion doesn't give out money. In the name of God they take it. If you have this relic you are supposedly "blessed." It's value is considered unaccountable. With her relic in her hand, and her dogged beliefs, she gave me a hug and a kiss and drove off onto her next very good mission. Maybe I am "Blessed" after all. Grammy is really Superwoman or perhaps Mother Mary in disguise. ps. the pasta was good.
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From Diane, Update 8:

Dear Lovely Beings:

So I've been thinking I'll have one last update for ya' all after my surgery on June 21 before we close this baby up and put this horror show to bed for good. I am kind of bummed about the surgery because it will be 6 hours long. The longer the surgery, the longer the consequences last. Consequences are hair loss, fat bloated belly, tiredness, feet and leg pain, lethargy, memory loss, sour singing voice. The upswing is that I should look somewhat better. My eyelid won't be drooping, my mouth won't be frowning and I'll have my own fat put back in my face to help me look somewhat more normal and less like Jimmy Page.

The worst part about this new surgery coming is that this week I actually started to feel somewhat like myself for a moment and it's been so long since I have felt like "me". I had a little more energy and was focusing on getting things done. I am not feeling so "airy", though my memory has definitely suffered. So I set myself out to accomplish and finish a few things before laying on that table again. The first thing is to finish all of the tracking on my record. Back before the accident in November 2018, I had recorded 10 tracks for my new album. I had 4 songs that I needed to sing on when I got back from Italy. Obviously delayed. But this week, since I was feeling better, I ventured over to Matt Basile's Proper Pop studio and got the tracks done. I am so very happy to report I sang 1 song each day and I am very happy with the vocals. It has not been easy and it's been a process and Matt has the patience and encouragement of a Saint. I will get mixes over the summer and this record is going to come out this fall.

I also filmed a video for the single "Little Things" on the EP. We did this in Mattituck Long Island. Just my friends and the band. It was low dow and 1 camera. My friends Amy Imossi and Dennis Borowsky were amazing and gave us their place for the filming. Dennis even appears in the video. He reminds me of Woody Harrelson. Adorable and wicked. Amy makes the best hero sandwiches on the East Coast. Dave Stekert, the director and cinematographer, is a mench. Heart Montalbano did the makeup and hair honors and guest stars in the video. The band Jason Victor, Colin Brooks and Matt Basile looked superb, very handsome, very rock'n roll. Our good friend Jason Yantz is going to edit for us. For someone who has 7 titanium plates in my very numb face, I was proud of myself for being able to deliver something of a small performance here. I keep pushing myself. Every accomplishment gets me one step closer to home.

The other things I am working on are a few new ventures that have come my way. I want to be working and want to be involved. One is a small record label. The other is booking shows again. The third is a show of very special guests (people I love and admire) who will sing my songs at Coney Island Baby on July 31st, the week my EP comes out. The EP is 4 songs that I had finished prior to the accident that will also be included on the full album in the late fall. Yeah I feel better but not good enough to sing a full set yet. i am good for about 3 songs right now and after June 21, I'll be back at that blank slate again. The fourth is a producer project that I am extremely excited about. There's more too that I am involved with like a great show called Season of the Witch i am currently working on getting together with Dylan Hundley and the fabulous players in Bitchface. With all this going on, who needs surgery? I do. I unfortunately really do. It's a drag. Reminder - so far it is 5 months since my Maxillo Facial surgery. It's been 5 months of mental confusion and lethargy. "News had just come over, we had 5 years left to cry in". Well not 5 years, but these 5 months seemed like 5 years.

OK OK - so I have these other things to report. Jesse Malin's new album is coming out in August and the single "Room 13" is out now. Lucinda Williams produced and people are saying it is a fantastic record. He is appearing at Webster Hall in September and tickets are now on sale. Jesse Malin, Derek Cruz and Alfonso Velez were the musicians with me in Italy when all hell broke loose. I think Jesse was actually at radio when the rock cut through the window. He and Derek came right away to see me. The concern and care that was given to me by them will never be forgotten and I will be repaying my life to these people forever. When I woke up the first night I was in Maggiore Trauma, Jesse and Alfonso were sitting there. I think I probably said something like "What are you doing here? You should be on tour playing shows. Do not come back. Get out there and play those shows. I am fine on my own." I am proud and privileged to know these compassionate people.They are truly shining stars. All 3 of them!!!

OK OK - more to report. Derek Cruz and Amanda Cross are getting married this week. I am thrilled for them and really so happy they have each other.

OK OK - more to report. Bad news on the health front for 2 people who are really close to me - both with breast cancer and exactly the same kind. Can't we find a way to eradicate cancer cells more quickly? I know medicine is really advanced these days, but the problem with medicine is that it doesn't treat the soul and the soul just needs to know that the cancer is gone and not coming back. I have full faith that both of my dearest here are going to be just fine. I believe, for them, it is a bump in the road and will be nothing more.

My love and faith goes out to anyone struggling with any kind of illness right now. I have one thing I tell myself. We are here living on this beautiful earth but only passing through. Where we came from and where we are heading is the wonderful unknown. This past year I had a deep sadness for losing Elda into that wildly wonderful unknown. We lost Todd Youth who plays that great solo on my song "Let Me Go". We lost Paul Malin, Jesse and Juliet's dad. We lost a friend, Tom Vaught. It wasn't the kind of year that I expected, for sure. It was a down trodden, here-we-go again of a let down year. They come around every now and then. It's part of life's cycle. Hey - if you want to enjoy this beautiful world, you have to take the bad with the good. No one gets a free pass from pain.

With that I send love and love and tears of joy for today.
Thank you for the kindness you have shown to me.
Love
Diane
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