Baby Bennett Fund
They've been open for several years about their struggle with infertility and the grief that's associated with the path they're on. Fortunately, many of us can't fully understand the hopelessness and confusion of unexplained infertility but we know enough to understand that it takes immense strength to overcome the valleys of their journey and stick together like they have.
Any monetary support that we garner here will go directly towards Lauren and Andy, so that they may choose what's best for their family whether that's IVF, adoption, surrogacy, or otherwise. If you'd like to contribute anonymously, let me thank you for your generosity on behalf of Lauren and Andy. If you know the Bennetts, I know it would mean the world to them to be able to thank you personally if you do choose to leave your name.
Lauren always says to me that they don't deserve anything, but I disagree. I believe they deserve a shot. What are their friends and family for if not for leaning on, sharing the burden with, and hoping alongside? There's always the possibility that this could just be a chance at what they're striving for but isn't that hope alone worth being a part of? I'm willing to take a chance on that and I hope you are too.
In whatever form you arrive, we're ready for you, Baby Bennett.
It has been almost a year since this GoFundMe page came into existence. We are still completely humbled by the amount of generosity and selflessness shown by everyone who donated. We aren't quite sure it is something we will ever get over as we think about it daily. In the months since this page came to be so much has happened and we wanted to give you an update on where we are at in this journey to Baby Bennett.
After much prayer and thought, we decided to pursue IVF at the Jones Institute in Virginia, about a 2 hour drive from our home in Nags Head. In October, after much research and discussion, we were ready. Finally. With our funds, we were prepared to "purchase" one round of IVF for our precious shot at having a baby. We then discovered that we qualified for a shared-risk program that, for a higher fee, would allow us multiple rounds of IVF if the first one did not work. While we were so mentally and physically ready to start our journey, we decided this would be the best path to take which delayed our treatments until January 2017.
Mid-January marked the beginning of frequent trips to Norfolk for monitoring appointments, nightly injections, countless pills, and many tears and prayers. On February 6th, we transferred two beautiful embryos and held our breath as we started our two week wait. The injections continued and made for some interesting quality time between us with Andy as the "shot administrator". Props to him for learning so quickly! With hormones raging, every night we prayed that our embryos would decide to make themselves at home and join us in person soon.
Our prayers were finally answered on February 20th. It is with such excitement, nervousness, happiness, and so many other feelings that we would like to announce that Baby Bennett is FINALLY joining us this October!
Out of our two precious embryos, one was strong enough to hold on and join our family. While we mourn the loss of our other "embaby", we rejoice in the news that our dream is finally coming true and we will hold our long-awaited child this fall.
While IVF was the hardest thing we have done to date, it was eased by remembering you and your support and words of encouragement and prayers. Without you, our hearts would still be aching. Without you, we would still be in the process of saving up for a chance at completing our family (which during the IVF process we found out that time was of the essence for us). Without you, we would have never known what it was like to see our baby wiggle on the ultrasound and feel instant, overwhelming love for something so small.
We hope you know and feel how grateful and touched we are that you wanted to help provide us with a chance to grow our family. You asked no questions and wanted nothing in return except to do what was best for our family. And that is something we can never repay. This child will be told the story of how he or she came to be and how it was wanted by so many. We have not been silent about our infertility journey and we will not be silent about the kindness and love that built our family. You are forever a part of our story and we are so honored that you are.
We also want to acknowledge our tribe/best friends/biggest supporters who took it upon themselves to carry our burden and remind us we are not alone in this. God worked through them and because of their love for a child they so desperately wanted for us, this GoFundMe page and the opportunity to open up about our journey came to life and birthed an amazing story.
We will be announcing to the rest of the world soon, but we wanted you to know first! We promise to keep you updated on our journey and we will continue to advocate for those suffering from infertility and for infertility treatment to be covered by insurances across the nation. While infertility took away so much from us, we have also gained more than we ever could have imagined.
Thank you from the bottom of our overwhelmed and full hearts,
Andy, Lauren, and Baby B
"Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be."