Baby Falkenburg's Adoption Fund
We are so excited to share with our friends, family, and the world, that we are embarking on an exciting journey to adopt and bring home Baby Falkenburg!
As many of our friends and family know, Brandon and I have been together for 14 years now and just celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary this month. We couldn’t be happier but we have always wanted a family.
Three years ago we started our journey to expand our family but during one of my early doctor’s visits, I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). I was confused. I had gone my whole life not knowing I had this. With this new discovery, we were told conceiving could be quite difficult and that I was also at high risk for miscarriages along with other complications, but we were so hopeful. We were determined to try, as many families are successful with this syndrome. After a few months, we had a positive sign on the pregnancy test! It was one of the most amazing feelings and after our ultrasound we were in complete bliss. It felt like all of our dreams were coming true.
Sadly, we later had some complications and following a trip to the emergency room, a few hours later, we lost our sweet little baby we had already begun to love so much. That was the most difficult day of my life. We were so ready to give our hearts to that baby, but it was gone too soon. Our days were dark after that. I am so thankful for Brandon and all of his love for being there for me on the worst days.
Over the following two years after our first miscarriage, we sadly faced two more. Each time we made it further into the pregnancy, which broke my heart even more with the losses. After many test and different doctors, I found out that I have several genetic and blood clotting disorders, all of which make it very difficult to carry to term and could potentially compromise my health. With this knowledge and our three difficult years, we have finally found some clarity. It has been a very difficult road but we are now certain adoption is our destiny!
As many of you know, Brandon was adopted by two amazing parents. They raised him as their own and love him with all of their hearts. They were able to give him a life that he would have only been able to dream about. Brandon and I both believe we can do the same. We can love and nurture a child that for whatever circumstances will not have a biological family of their own to care for them. It is so clear to us that this is what we are supposed to do. Sometimes difficult roads have the most beautiful destinations.
Adoption can be costly and we are saving every bit we can but are asking for your help to hopefully get us one step closer to our goal of bringing our baby home. We are planning on adopting domestically but there are still numerous expenses with applications, home study fees, and legal fees that on average amount to $35,000 - $40,000. We have set our goal for $20,000 and hope to save for the rest.
We thank you in advance for taking the time to read our story and helping us get one step closer to bringing Baby Falkenburg home.
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To our amazing support system, it saddens us to share this devastating news with all of you but we feel you all deserve to know the recent events that have transpired today.
We received an email late this afternoon from our adoption agency, Independent Adoption Center, stating as of today they have filed for bankruptcy and are shutting down effective immediately. This of course was startling and came out of no where. We were/are beyond shocked (still). This means that hundreds of currently awaiting families in all stages of the process are without an agency and out of support at all levels. This also means that these families, including us, currently do not have answers at this time as to what is being done with our personal information and our money paid up to this point.
As many of you know, we were scheduled to have our home study on the 12th. This was the final step to becoming in rotation with birth mothers (getting us even closer to having a family). We reached out to our social worker and unfortunately my email to her was how she found out she had lost her job. She received and email shortly after mine stating the current affairs. She is beyond devestated and is trying to help as well and hurt for her current loss as well. It is to our finding that many other employees in the company did not know this was happening until today either.
We have tried making contact with several representatives within our agency (currently we have not heard back) and have reached out to a local adoption attorney. We are now a part of a Facebook group with other families and we are banding together for help and answers. Several have reached out to media outlets and others have offered legal help in different states.
We currently do not have any other information at this time but we feel that you all should know what is happening right now as you have all invested so much in us and we value each and every one of you. We are diligently seeking answers and help while trying to stay positive at this very difficult time.
We ask that all of you please continue in being our rock, we really need you right now. We are experiencing so many emotions right now as I am sure you are as well. We love each and every one of you and can not begin to tell you how much we have valued your support. We are so sorry to deliver this news but hope that you will continue to be here for us in this dark, unknown time.
We will continue to post updates as we get them. Thank you again for everything each one of you has done for us.
Ashley and Brandon
Ashley & Brandon
Link to Facebook page
On December 14th we were notified from the adoption agency that our application was approved! YAY! Next step was to attend one of their adoption workshops which they hold monthly. Of course we decided to get in any necessary paper work to attend their next workshop which was just held this weekend (Jan. 29th & 30th) in Houston.
We made it and survived the workshop!! ;) It was very informative about the rest of the adoption process and the next steps we must take. While we were there, we signed our contract and also got to meet other families hoping to adopt. It was an exciting and exhausting two days but we are so excited for the next few months to come!
Next step... finish gather documents and fill out paper work for our home study while also working on our profile booklet. Our profile booklet is sort of an "About Us" brochure that is presented to birth mothers. Once all of our forms are in and our profile book is done, we meet with the social worker to conduct the actual home study. Once approved, we are in circulation for birth mothers to view our profile!!! :)
We still have a ways to go, but we are so excited that the process is moving along. We can not wait to grow our family and have a little one in our lives. We can not thank each and every one of you enough for all of your love and continued support. We are forever grateful and can't wait to share the rest of this journey with you all.
Ashley & Brandon (and future Baby Falkenburg)
That being said, the process is just beginning for us. Once we are approved we still have to go through the home study, then the actual adoption process. We will still need all of your love and support through these times as these are the hard times for adoptive parents. Things don’t always work out on the first try and we will still need you to be here for us emotionally, through the good and the bad. We will keep you posted along the way and we a so incredibly excited for this journey.
Thank you all again for everything from the bottom of our hearts.