Adoption- Bringing Home Baby Jordan
$14,150 of $15,000 goal
First and foremost thanks for taking the time to check out our page! Blake and I are excited to announce that we have chosen to expand our family through adoption! This decision has been on our hearts for several years, but the Lord really made it clear to us in recent months. We have been trying for a healthy pregnancy (on our own and with assistance) since 2010. It has taken us awhile to heal from our fertility battles, but we know that God is good and He placed us together for such a time as this!
Our journey leading up to adoption started in July of 2010. During Year 1 we tried on our own, but were unsuccessful in conceiving naturally. Year 2 consisted of 4 cycles of Clomid and eventually referrals to fertility specialists. At some point during this year, we were informed that for various reasons the chances of us conceiving on our own were 0%. We left the practice filled with sadness and emptiness along with a brochure for IVF. At the 3 year mark, we embarked on our first cycle of IVF. Joy and happiness filled our hearts as we learned on September 11, 2013 that we were expecting! Two weeks later, we saw not 1 but 2 small heartbeats on the screen to confirm what my gut had told me- we were having twins! Unfortunately, on my birthday, I miscarried one of our twins and our world turned upside down. We were sad at the loss, but remained thankful and positive for the remaining life inside of me. We literally held our breaths though the first trimester knowing that once we made it to 13 weeks we would be “in the clear”. That was not the case. At our 13 week appointment, we were referred to UNC Chapel Hill’s Maternal Fetal Specialists team. Over the next 7 weeks we learned that our baby had multiple rare deformities and life threatening conditions as well as a significant chromosome deletion and on January 2, our baby boy went to be with his Heavenly Father.
Although Blake and I have suffered a lot, we have gained a lot. Our marriage is stronger than ever and we are excited about the opportunity to grow our family through adoption. We do not look at adoption as a last resort. There are many people who have a desire to have children, but we feel that God has given us the desire and the gift to love anyone’s child!
Many of you may know that adoption can be expensive and an emotional roller coaster. With private domestic adoption costs ranging from $25,000-$35,000++, we are asking for financial assistance! Every little bit counts; whether it is $10 or $1,000 your contribution is greatly appreciated! If you can’t donate right now, we ask that you pray for us and our future child! It is crazy, but not impossible to think, that he/she/they could be growing in the womb as we type this!
We have so much love to give and can't wait to share our lives and become parents to the perfect child(ren) God has in mind for us! Heartfelt thanks to all of you who have taken the time to read our story. Your support in our decision means a lot!
Blake & Jessica
*For nothing is impossible with God~Luke 1:37*
We are long overdue for an update regarding our adoption process! In November, Blake received and accepted a promotion that is relocating our family to GA at the end of January. We braced ourselves for the reality that our home study would need to be amended once we got to our new home and we prepared to put our adoption process on hold during this time. But God’s timing is perfect…
On Saturday, December 20 my phone rang and our lives changed. Our attorney called to let us know that a birth mother had picked us and there was a baby girl that was 2 days old! I still remember looking at Blake in shock. We had a daughter in an instant.
Blake and I packed our bags and headed to SC to meet her. On Monday, December 22, at 4 days old, she was discharged and sent ‘home’ with us. The first night was exciting and terrifying! I couldn't believe the hospital let us go home with a baby! We spent the whole night looking at her in awe debating baby names. We probably would still be doing that, but we had a bit of a deadline with the attorney’s office so that paper work could be filed. After much debate and minimal sleep we settled on Ivy Grace. (I should note for the record Blake chose Ivy and it couldn't be a better fit for our little one.)
We spent the next 2 weeks in SC waiting on the official green light to go home! We had a wonderful first Christmas together complete with a meal at Hardees (the only restaurant open) and almost made it to midnight on New Years Eve! Friends made it possible for us to stay throughout our time in SC for FREE and I cannot tell you what a blessing that was.
Finally on Monday, January 5 we got to go home! Since then we have been excited to introduce her to friends and family before we move! Max and Sam (our dogs) have quickly gotten used to the new addition even though they still aren't sure if they like when she makes noise. We’ll continue to work on that!
Many people have asked about the birth parents. For now I will say this little girl has a birth mom who made an incredibly selfless sacrifice for her. I can't fathom having the strength to do what she did. She is our hero. She made us parents to the most beautiful little girl and nothing can describe how amazing that is!
Over the next few months we will be getting moved and working towards finalizing Ivy’s adoption. We have been so blessed throughout the adoption process with prayers, encouragement, financial contributions and gifts. Ivy has so many people who love her so much already!
When I look back over 2014 and the pain I felt at this time last year, I am in awe of God’s timing. I know now that in some of my darkest days, Ivy was being formed in the womb. That is incredible! God knew long before we did that we would be parents to this little girl who was 200 miles away and that we would bring her home one year from the loss of our child. Today a lot of people don’t believe in miracles, but I can tell you she is ours!
As always thank you for your continued support through financial contributions, prayers and encouragement. Each day we are one step closer to meeting and bringing home Baby Jordan!
Update: Since we made our announcement, Blake & I have completed the MAPP class for parents wishing to foster and/or adopt. We learned lots of valuable information about the process, the importance of connections with birth families and tips for preparing our house for a home study visit!
Love Grew Our Family Tree: We have also started our Adoption Tree. We wanted Baby J to have something that showed how many people contributed to him or her becoming our part of our family! For each contribution we receive, we fill in the donor's name on a leaf and eventually this piece will be framed in the nursery for our little one.
Next up: We are working on completing our home study, creating a profile book and finalizing our agency selection.We can't wait to see what the next 30 days have in store!
Lots of Love:)
Blake & Jessica