Fund Powerful Show About Healing
All episodes here: https://youtu.be/Vea0zPhJDQU?list=PLPMPOdMIHUl1r1XA5W8VepNftQ2-SqLne
WHAT IS IT?
Your contribution will help me make a 20-episode Youtube advice show called Advice From a Loving Bitch. Each show will be 5-10 minutes long and have a theme that is interactive. The episodes will have an assignment that goes with each video so you can practice at home. The shows use emotional education, humor, and theatre to teach people about the intricacies of self-hatred and how it can be transformed into compassion, action, and love. They are aimed at breaking the isolation and loneliness that people face everyday and offering very accessible tools for healing.
Oh and the shows are funny, did I say that?
WHY MAKE THIS SHOW?
I have been a counselor with a private practice for 21 years and am intimate with the pain and challenges people live with in terms of loving themselves. I see self-hatred, perfectionism, and judgment deeply imbedded in the lives of my clients, friends, and family. It’s relentless and insidious and it comes from a lifetime of survival, trauma, and loss.
I have also had the privilege of helping people change these unconscious, internalized patterns and grow an empowered, loving inner witness. There are skills and tools that support healing and anyone can learn them. People can heal and shift how they talk to themselves in their own mind and can evolve how they see their own worth. How we treat ourselves profoundly impacts our relationships, work and family choices, personal and professional goals, our outlook in general, our health, our ability to express ourselves and our ability to heal. I can’t think of anyone I know who would not benefit from learning self-loving practices.
Tools for core change: that’s what this project is all about.
This will not be analytical, heady advice. These episodes will be CREATIVE, PLAYFUL, LAYERED, DYNAMIC, AND JUST WEIRD ENOUGH TO HOLD YOUR ATTENTION. There will be characters, songs, and special guests. FUN is the operative word. And yet, important teachings will sneak their way in.
This show will also be a great way to help the people in your life see how hard they are on themselves. You will be able to send the videos around and say “See? There is a way you could be nicer to yourself” and “Look! You are not alone.”
I am highly qualified for this job. I have been using humor and performance to wake up consciousness for a long, long time (see my website Rythea.com for biography details). In 2014, I performed my one woman show for an entire year to sold out audiences and had profound post-performance discussions with people (See trailer at http://rythea.com/peformance/dont-be-a-dick/) I’ve been a professional and dedicated artist for my entire adult life (and some of my childhood). I truly believe that the arts are where REVOLUTION HAPPENS, where communication packs a punch, where foundational change takes root.
I am a counselor, a performance artist, a teacher, a mother of a 3 year old (my favorite job of all), and a human being who knows what it takes to turn entrenched patterns around. I’ve been honing my artistic, therapeutic, and “Mommy” skills, and in this show I will use them to reach out even further to more people.
I am also a survivor of abuse and trauma and I know these tools inside out. My knowledge is hard-won. I have walked the talk…that’s for sure. This goes deep for me.
WHAT AM I FUNDING?
As mentioned, I am a working, single mother of a young child and I do not have the time/means to make this show without your help. I need you. Truly.
Here’s the breakdown.
Your contribution will pay for:
$2400 for 3 hours a show ($40 an hour) with a professional editor, 20 weeks
$1200 for 4 hours a week ($15 an hour) of babysitting for whole project, 20 weeks
$400 for marketing and tech assistance/consulting
$1000 payment to the artist for the project which comes down to $50 a week for 20 weeks
In case you need a little more perspective from someone other than me, here is a quote a collegue wrote about my work and this project:
"I’ve followed Rythea’s work for many years. The range of her artistry is astonishing; whether she’s dancing, acting, directing, writing, painting, singing, playing the guitar or making people laugh- she’s touching our hearts and making us think. The depth of her clarity, compassion and empathy as a therapist is heartening. Her competence and commitment as the mother of a toddler is inspiring. I’m so excited about this next project of Rythea’s as I know she’ll be drawing on all these gifts and strengths to make it of great value to everyone who tunes in and partakes of her brilliant offerings."
More reviews about my work at:
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE
Just the fact that you are reading this means you care about the arts. I am so grateful to all the people in my community who have supported my work all these years. For those who are just meeting me now, I am very happy to include you in my circle. Please send this video and project around! That makes all the difference.
Please read more about me on my website: Rythea.com
Up and Coming Rythea events:
Rythea's blog http://rythea.com/blog/
Special thanks to: Bryn Francis, Rose Oceania, Sarah Norrichs, Donna Jenson, Samantha Burnell, Kelly Silliman, and Dey Summer for helping with this project so far. Photo credits: Beth Fairservis (Photo 1) Kendra Rosenblatt (Photo 2) Joyce Skowyra (Photo 3)
What's happening with Advice from a Loving Bitch you might ask?
WELL, I am going to be on Susan Weed's radio show tonight(!) to talk all about Advice from a Loving Bitch, my work and vision in general, and my loving bitch-ness. Wanna tune in?
She gives herbal advice from 7:30-9 and then interviews me at 9 pm. You can tune into any part of it.
You can call in and listen if that's easier than internet at 1-646-929-2463. Or listen on line at:
I also was on a fabulous podcast recently called Sex, Love, and Superpowers where the topic was Creativity, healing from trauma, and of course, my on-line show and how that relates to healing in the world. The interviewer Tatiana Berindei is fantastic, I enjoyed our deep discussion so much.
That link is:
I just wrote a new blog entry called Abandonment and Engulfment, that is a brassy poem-like dive into the challenges of feeling both abandoned and engulfed in my life. Very provocative topic I believe. You might relate.
Go to Rythea.com/blog
I am teaching a roster of Peer Counseling classes that are going like gangbusters and our next Sacred Rage Workshop (with Samantha Burnell and I) is on April 28th. Rythea.com/teaching
So I guess I'm busy?
Thank you for caring enough to read and/or listen to my endeavors. On top of my drive to heal myself and others, the world is calling for it on every level. It's freaking hard to stay awake! Right? Ugh. Yay. Ugh. Yay.
Please stay in touch,
Here's an update: I'm honored and excited to be on this podcast, Sex, Love, and Super Powers. My particular show is called Creativity, the Awakening Process and Healing from Trauma with Tatiana Berindei. She interviews me about self-hatred, the creative process, humor in healing, and of course, the surprise super powers that can free us all. I hope you will make a cozy space to listen to this and be inspired in some way.
It's an in-depth discussion about the things I care about most. Let me know what you think.
Many winter blessings and warm wishes, let's be in touch,
It's a montage of videos sent in from my viewers (bowing in gratitude) as well as retrospective highlights from the whole season. Fun!!!
I cannot believe I made 20 episodes and had the blessed opportunity to collaborate with such fabulous guests and contributors towards healing self-hatred and learning to love ourselves. Woo hoo!
Please check this out and pass along to your friends.
Also, big SHOUT OUT to my donors who made this possible and showed me over and over that what I was doing was valuable and needed. You made this possible. I adore you!!!
Episode 19 of my on-line show is called THREE WOMEN RISING, the journey to ending childhood sexual abuse.
I'm joined by expert artists, activists, and cultural workers, Aishah Shahidah Simmons and Donna Jenson to help me tackle this topic with passion, grace, and maturity. How do we heal, how do we fight back, how do we break the cycle, how do we find joy? We go at these question head on. I'm so grateful to both these powerful women who far exceeded my expectations on so many levels.
It's taken me months to actualize this larger piece of work with great focus, love, and prayer and I'm very excited with the outcome. It is deeply educational and emotionally savvy so please share widely with people who this will help.
To reach Aishah Simmons, go to: http://LoveWITHAccountability.com
To reach Donna Jenson, go to https://www.timetotell.org
To donate to this work, go to https://gofundme/rythea
To reach Rythea Lee, go to https://www.rythea.com
Rythea on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rythealee/
RECOMMENDED READING LIST
ON SURVIVING AND HEALING CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE
Trauma into Truth by Rythea Lee
Healing My Life by Donna Jenson (being released in the Fall of 2017)
A Shining Affliction by Anne Rogers
Trauma and Recovery by Judith L. Herman
Dear Sister: Letters to Survivor of Sexual Assault edited by Lisa Factora Borchers
Queering Sexual Violence: Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Sexual Violence Movement, edited byJennifer Patterson
I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck
Repressed Memories by Renee Fredrickson
The Courage to Heal by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass
No Secrets No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse by Robin D. Stone
The Dinah Project by Monica A. Coleman
The Children We Sacrifice (companion book to the film on CSA in South Asian communities) by Grace Poore
Thriving in the Wake of Trauma: A Multicultural Guide by Thema S. Bryant Davis
I WILL SURVIVE: The African-American Guide to Healing from Sexual Assault and Abuse by Lori S. Robinson
Victims No Longer by Mike Lew (About male survivors)
Drama of the Gifted Child and/or Thou Shalt Not Be Aware by Alice Miller books (not specific to sexual abuse but about childhood trauma)
Awesome!! (Like you!) Great, meaningful, challenging, much needed topic!! I can't wait Tito see more!