Save The Jodi-GO TEAM JODI
My name is Jodi Pattrin-Hillhouse, and I thank you for taking the time to visit my page. First my story, and then a list of goals that I hope this fundraiser will help me achieve.
I am a survivor of extreme domestic violence. I lost my health, my home, my possessions, my life savings, my sense of self, my professional reputation... virtually everything but my life.
In one way, at least, I was one of the lucky ones; in the sense that I DID get out with my life, and even luckier for the fact I am not at all tempted to go back.
However, like most women who survive this sort of situation, and are starting all over, at the bottom of the heap.. my life since has been a state of hand-to-mouth survival with few if any opportunities to improve the situation. I still kept hope alive, and kept trying.
However, a cancer diagnosis has thrown me off track, and now even I must admit I cannot do this on my own. I must stop the backslide, take a stand, and eliminate the issues keeping me from getting on my feet.
I need tools for success, and I felt I'd put the request out to the universe, and pray for a response. If you wish to help, but cannot donate, please consider sharing the link, joining Our Official Facebook Page, sending well wishes, prayers, love, etc. Every little bit helps, BELIEVE ME, whether it's a few dollars, a few kind words, or a few clicks of the share button.
Raising money for
-- Medical treatment for cancer, complex PTSD , reparing abuse injuries, and assorted health issues
--Moving expenses for the forced relocation at the end of October, and the move that will occur when I rent my own place again
--A modest but reliable car,(something like a 90's Honda) registration, and a couple months operating expenses. This is a vital tool to help me get to appointments, and improve my job situation. Especially as my health is slipping and inclimate weather is coming.
--Spay and finish training my dog and complete the work that needs to be done so she may be my official service animal. (she already functions as one, I wish to be able to smooth out the rough edges, and have her legal status as a service animal, confirmed)
--A process server and lawyer to aid my effort to divorce the husband who has been dodging the disolving of the marraige. He has admitted in emails that he does this to make it difficult for me to move on, both emotionally, and on paper. For my emotional recovery, and my ability to seek grants or qualify for come assistance programs, without marital status affecting it, the divorce must happen.
--backup emergency reserve for the "little essentials" replacing work shoes, buying uniforms for new jobs, emergency vet bills, buying guaze and other supplies if I start suppurating again, etc.
--Help with bills that piled up when unable to work
-- A little extra to go to the taxes I must pay on this.
-- EXTRA SPECIAL WISH: If this reaches it's total goal, I'll not only be able to take care of the above issues, I will have money to begin attending a local community college, such as Metro.
Thank you again for your time in reading this. And thanks to all who have or who will give your love in any form.
As many of you know..I have been struggling the past few months. My PTSD had already become nearly unmanageable when I went through a series of friends and my beloved Lilliedawg dying, and some of you know one the cancer lesions is active again. To make things worse I have a friend on his way out from the same cancer...though his was untreated even longer. I saw photos of what will be my fate if this is not fixed and it was horrifying even compared to the stuff that gave me my ptsd.
As far as the PTSD goes..it is effecting not only mood, but memory and cognition, and has led to some serious backslip the last few months. It has had minor effects at work and major on managing my personal business.
This is one of the reasons I have been having trouble keeping track of meet ups and conversations or returning messages
I am behind on rent and bills and am working my ass off but still need help.
That is the bad news.
Here is the good news...the situation does have a means to improve and I have a plan how to do it.
Last month I started taking some classes at the WCA to help woth everything from mental strength to budgeting. I will be going in this week to get a personal advocate from them thelp me FINALLY divorce the ex, get help with goal setting and planning, getting more direcr therapy, and to get real medical care for the cancer. (If it were a melanoma instead of squamous cell carcinoma I would be dead already. Need to stop dragging it out)
Additionally David has started job hunting, clearing out his storage and finding homes for the strays and farms f9r the ferals he has been caring for in preparation to move here. With sharing rent and chores a lot of pressure will be off.
Also, I have figured out how I can use the downtime in the cab to both improve my cognition and make side $$ at the same time if I can get enough money to get a cheap laptop at goodwills tech store.
HERE IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN WITH MONEY YOU SEND:
I will catch up on my bills so I maintain a stable apartment. I will save for a security deposit so I can move to a cheaper place when my lease is up, if David has not made it here yet.
I will get a cheap laptop and sell articles and if needed, clickbait (but quality since I will be writing it) this way when I am sitting waiting for cab fares I can still be earning money.
If needed use some to take the time off work needed to see a doc, get the shoulder looked at...and get an gym exam as I have not had one since my 30s.
If you can contribute, know it will not go to waste.
If you want to help bit lack funds...share this...or tell friends about it.
If you are connected to any feline rescues that are willing to help with transports out of eastern Kentucky, or if you have Omaha job lead contact David Castle from my facebook friends and let him know.
Then I lost my job, had an emergency dental surgery, and got pickpocketed of my rent money within a month.
I got right back up and got a new job as fast as I could. It's one I can get by on and maybe get ahead, but it is NOT enough to pull me up from so far behind. I am about to lose my place within days if I can't come up with money fast. PLEASE HELP
I don't want to lose my home and I don't know what will happen to Lillie and Lulu if I don't work this out
Today and tomorrow are the last two days of the move.. and there is still MUCH to do, so I won't be around much.
More poems and updates will be coming soon. (I will leave it up to you whether the former is a good thing, or a threat.. LOL)
In the meantime, I need the kind words and prayers more than ever. I'm still not fully sure how I'm going to get all this done, I just need to keep pegging through, and the kind words and prayers help. (they will also help get me over the fact I don't have the time, money, or energy to celebrate my FAVORITE holiday, Halloween, this year)
Also, this has been a bit of a drain on the fiduciary matters, and I have to get back on with the medical care and other issues starting next week. Now, more than ever, I do need help. If you are able to donate, FABULOUS, and thank you. If you want to help, but simply cannot afford it... remember, sharing these links helps get the word out to other potential donors. Also, hitting "Like" and commenting will increase placement in the newsfeeds.
Thank you all for everything so far, and Thank you for all that you might do in the future. Remember, you are helping to LITERALLY save my life. (And I mean literally, literally rather than figuratively, lol)
Love you all!
Only a couple more days till the move. The depression over not having a Halloween finally set in.. but I think that just keeping going will help with that.
That being said.. it IS moving time, and as soon as I'm done I need to get back on with the medical and the employment upgrade. This move has drained the finances and the spirits. MAJOR prayers are asked, as are the kind words. If you can donate, it will help replenish what was eaten by the move, and help me get the things I need to pay for, paid for. If you can't donate, but can share or like these posts, you will be helping a lot.
I would like to thank Christopher Moore for his help and for listening to a little piss-ant from Oklahoma that asked for his support on this. It means a lot when people with high profile situations reaches down and offers a helping hand. I really have read every book that you have published and enjoyed them as well. Second, I would like to thank the lady responsible for all of this, Jodi. The lady has spent countless hours giving me therapy that has been much needed and appreciated. Thank you. I am always in your debt..... Much love......
We don't know each other but my heart was touched by your situation. I live in Canada and I'm a paralegal. I help people like you get divorces all the time - I wish I could help you in that regard but obviously not being in Nebraska is a hindrance! Have you considered finding a paralegal to help you? Also, that painting in your post, have you thought of selling them? They are intriguing and I think people would buy them. Just a thought. Anyways, I would like to help so I'll see what I can do for a donation. I hope things go well for you, sometimes we all need to reach out to strangers for the help we need. Keep your chin up and know that there are strangers out there like me who truly care.
My heart goes out to you and I wish I was able to help in some way, but with limited income now and cost of doctors and medications, even pennies must be counted now. I applaud your bravery in taking what I know had to be one of the scariest steps in your life by leaving that coward and monster of a spouse. I spent over 23 years working as a paramedic before my health forced me to retire and unfortunately I saw more than my share of similar situations, but unfortunately so many would always go back because they were convinced it was their fault, or he would change because he said he was sorry, or worse there were children involved and were afraid of losing them- always some kind of excuse. Words can't describe that sick feeling you get when you're called to that familiar residence again, except this time you're urged to just hurry or worse patient was probable DOA. Please know you are not alone and if no one has given you numbers and info of not just shelters, but programs that will assist you in getting back on your feet. Whenever you feel yourself losing faith or hope, first remember how many friends and family you have that love and care for you. In addition, remember how dark things were and the weight you carried until you took that brave first step and stepped out of the darkness and into the light and a better life. Although there should be lawyers listed who can help you with your divorce as well as ensuring you have protective orders preventing any form of contact or face being arrested for little to no cost, if you are unable to locate one, shelters often have arrangements with certain lawyers and can provide you with their numbers as well as most support groups. I know some states have made it a bit more difficult to divorce, but if you attempted to have him served and he's avoiding it, you can also post it in the paper or provide it to his lawyer if he has one, but as I understand it being served for a court date is simply a courtesy so he can defend himself, and if he fails to show then it's his loss. Regardless of whether or not your officially divorced, you are thankfully separated from him and therefore should qualify for some assistance, toward housing, utilities, food, and medical, especially due to the reason for separation and impending divorce. In addition, there should also be specific assistance for PTSD. Please keep STRONG and don't give up! You have already taken the most important first step by leaving the abuser, a step that so many others are still afraid to take. You are an inspiration and hopefully not only will you continue to see your support rise, but your bravery may also provide another with the courage to follow your example and leave their abusive relationship. I realize this is long, but I want you to really understand how much of strength and inspiration you've already shown leaving me no doubt that you will beat cancer hands down as well as become successful with any endeavour you try. And of course remember, you not only have the support of family and immediate friends, but also all of us who support you from afar.
I am Jodis cousin, Jodi has many difficult hardships in life and any help would be greatly appreciated. Please spread the word to get her story out.
Jodi is dealing with physical and emotional issues (ptsd, depression). Please keep her in your prayers. On top of this, the lease isn't being renewed and she will have to navigate a move with low income, no transportation and a large dog. I really want to see Jodi not only overcome this, but thrive. Please help her by sharing the link or contribute if you are able.
Jodi is as good of a person that I have gotten the pleasure to get to know as a friend. It kind of upsets me that people will donate buttloads of money to kickstart a salsa campaign but won't help kickstart a person's life. This person didn't ask for the problems that she has, nobody ask for health problems. Thank you to the people that have donated. Your gift has helped her immensely. I know not everyone can give, but if those people can get $50,000 for salsa, she should be able to raise the amount that she needs. Please people, help if you can. She has helped many people that needed this same type of help.
Jodi helped inspire me to get into the computer security field. She was motivation to convince me I could be a professional and a recognized part of the hacker community. She is a smart, kind person who has fallen on a bad lot. If you're browsing this campaign, please donate and help her get back on her feet.
I have known Jodi mostly through our shared experiences on the virtual world of SecondLife, for several years, though we've gotten acquainted in our "real" lives for a few now, too. She was, in times before her personal troubles, one of the primary fundraisers for Relay for Life on SecondLife. She is one of the most "real" people that I've ever met, and has fought against a great many difficulties, only to have life happen, time and time again. She doesn't deserve this, and does deserve all the help she can get, as karma for all the help she's given others. Thank you in advance, A very definite supporter.
I have known Jodi for three years plus, and in all that time, she has always strove to be herself. despite all the various trials through on her from life... she still carries on with intellect, passion, and humor. I know it is hard for her to be in this state but she still goes on. I know she will, with so many good people in her corner, she will come through this victorious.
I've known Jodi going on two years now from work. She's extremely hardworking and always goes the extra mile to make things a little easier for her co workers. She never stands around, always on the go that Jodi! I know I appreciate her and so does everyone else at our job! I've heard Jodi's story and I remember being so heartbroken for her when I heard. I would have never guessed this kind, funny, selfless woman had gone through such hell. Jodi deserves this and she deserves to be happy and I hope she gets that new start she so rightfully deserves.
Jodi is a friend from years back. She is a very kind and supportive person and was there to talk to me in my darkest days whether I wanted it or not. She has helped so many people, even the furry ones that don't talk (animals). I am not in a position to help financially, as much as I would like to, but I have donated a piece of my artwork. I work in mixed media, ranging from sculpture and jewelry to action figures and cosplay. I have donated a one of a kind necklace to her, I usually sell these from anywhere between $70-$100. That is the cheap price, I do this for fun not money and could make more if I were greedy. When it is posted, however she chooses, please help out a friend who has helped so many. Thank you.
I've known Jod for over half my life. She's an awesome, goofy gal with a heart of gold. She just needs some help right now.
I have not known her for long, but because of some traits we share, there are things I already know. This was not an easy decision. She does need the help. And, from personal experience, luck and stubborn and drive will not get you through everything. "It is not having been in the dark house, but having left it, that counts." (Roosevelt) She's trying to finish leaving the dark house. Help her finish acquiring all the right keys?
I meet Jodi back in the early 90s. She is a force of nature and the world NEEDS her! She was one of the first to really give me a reason to pursue my artistic side, and she never ceases to amaze me. Help out...and you will see great things come of it!
I've known Jodi for years. She was getting on her feet when the cancer diagnosis. She is working on her divorce to get away from a husband who beat and starved. The marriage is keeper her from getting state benefits. Please help my friend.
I have known Jodi 20 yrs and asking for help takes alot for her. She is one of the strongest independent people I know her heart know no boundaries if she decides to help. A few yrs ago her very vwry abusive ex and a friend physically tried to harm her causing her to have to relocate. Now she has several medical issues and a desperate need to sever a links with her ex and fight these illnesses so she can stand strong and healthy again. My friend deserves to be whole again I have missed her like crazy.please help her stand strong again.I love u Jodi hillhouse always and forever.
Jodi just wants a fighting chance, something we all want. She's been knocked down, hard, and is starting to pull herself back up -- but she can't do it, alone. Please help.
This is a real person and she needs help people. We spend billions sending money to other countries and never get anything back. Just knowing that you are making a difference in an human being's life should be payment enough for you. She has the kindest heart that I know...... Please help anyway that you can.....