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Edgardo Alvarado's Healing

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My husband, Edgardo Alvarado-Vazquez, was seriously injured while riding his bicycle and being hit by a truck. He was air-lifted to a trauma center in Miami where he lays in critical condition. He has a few broken bones, but more importantly, he is suffering from head trauma. Thankfully, we do have insurance. However, we are not covered for day to day, week to week expenses. At the present time, I have had to leave him in Miami in order to take care of our pets and to work.  I hate to think of him regaining awareness if I am not there.
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06/23/2019. Day 254. I am hoping that there is someone out there who can help me with this "problem" . How does a person with so much intelligence find solace in the Bravo channel? Edgardo, as you all know, suffered a brain injury 8+ months ago.
A little history. I met Edgardo while he was not only studying, but teaching, at Northwestern University right outside of Chicago. A good school, right?
From day #1, I would just sit and listen to him explain to me, a layman, the workings of the world.
Here was a man who looked at the world in not just black and white, but red, brown, grey, purple and magenta. My man. We had a few issues early on in our relationship.
I was not "politically correct" often. But Edgardo took me to task. He explained to me that I could not just speak "off the cuff". Words, he said. were as harmful as weapons. I had to adapt my way of thinking. And I did. Edgardo has taught me so much.
If you ever want to meet a person who has no racial bias, I can introduce you to my husband, He has taught me more in our 20 + years together than I would have learned elsewhere. I love you, Edgardo.
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06/20/2019. Day 251.
Well, it seems, that I am not done. I may never be.
Each day brings a new challenge. Not so much in the way I am treated as a caretaker. But in the way I have resigned myself to living with two other people. No, I am not talking about our good friend, Patrick. He went back to Maine last week.
The two people are Edgardo. And, well, Edgardo.
I am never sure which one of them I will meet when I wake up in the morning, when I come back from work to give him a ride in or when he comes home from work.
I love my home. But I cannot help feeling so detached from it at the same time, There is no safe space. No shutting the lights down. No haven. For me.
Edgardo is doing the best that he can under these trying conditions. He is upset, confused and angry most of the time.
And I get upset, confused and angry right along with him. All of the time.
This is what you do for a person you care so much about.
And, no. I am not done.
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06/14/2019. Day 245.
Lost. I'm lost.
This sort of care taking is not for the weak. My life is not as it was and, I am resigned to say, it may never be.
When I came back home today, to bring Edgardo to work, I was met with the devil. Dramatic? Perhaps.
There is nothing I can say to hep Edgardo.
I'm done.
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06/06/2019. Day 237.
Wrong.
I was so wrong, according to the feedback of a few friends. I was wrong about putting Edgardo's miscellaneous papers and "inanimate" objects into boxes. Just so any of you know, if confronted with this same thing at a later date, it leaves the other person lost and helpless. Almost traumatized. I could not have been more wrong. See? Even I am still learning.
Speaking of learning, there are still many of Edgardo's friends who have a lot to learn.
No names. That has only gotten me into trouble in the past.
Please read up about TBI.
In Edgardo's case, when he is confronting you with his unrealistic reality, let him be the victor. You have no choice. You will not win. EVER! Such a small and humbling price to pay, I think.
Hell! I do it all the time.
Am I wrong? Probably. And maybe not.
Prove me wrong.
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