Cremation & household expenses

$12,180 of $20,000 goal

Raised by 135 people in 46 months
Angela & Jon's story: In June 2015, we sought medical treatment for Jon for what we believed to be pneumonia. Our family dr immediately sent us to a cardiologist believing that Jon's inability to breathe was due to congestive heart failure. The cardiologist sent us to the hospital, where he was officially diagnosed with congestive heart failure. Fluid was drained and analyzed, and we were told on the day of discharge that there were malignant cells in the fluid. Referred to an oncologist who ran tons of tests...official diagnosis: Stage IV non squamous, non small cell lung cancer. We have been blessed to get Jon into a Stage 3 Clinical Trial for Pfizer and Jon is the first patient in the world admitted into this trial. I have had to drive him to/from all testing, labs, appointments, etc due to the fact that the medications render him sleepy and unable to drive himself safely, in addition to handling phone calls, coordination, scheduling, meaning I have been unable to work with any regularity. We just completed round 2 of chemotherapy last week (8/13/15).  We have exhausted all funds for running our household and, at this point, we need some assistance just in getting our utilities up to date and basic living expenses, in addition to the shoebox full of bills from the 2 hospital stays in June.  Any assistance is so greatly appreciated and every prayer you can spare as well. Thank you in advance and God Bless!
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As y'all know, that doggone wisdom tooth that failed to ever impart an ounce of wisdom has been troubling me for close to two mos now. Saw a dentist, referred to oral surgeon with antibiotics. I put off seeing the surgeon bc I had to be able to care for Jon. The weekend before he died, the infection came back with a vengeance. Once he passed, as I indicated previously, my parents insisted I see the surgeon ASAP, who scheduled surgery the very next day (2wks ago Thur) where my tooth was extracted. Since then I've been in agonizing, excruciating pain that continued to escalate. A week ago Sunday my oldest daughter insisted I go to the ER to make sure my jaw wasn't fractured or dislocated etc. They gave me the strongest painkiller and Ct scan was negative for fractures etc. Saw surgeon last Mon, Tues, Wed and Fri where he packed the socket with a numbing agent and I've been on antibiotics over two weeks this time. My face is swollen, unable to eat, drink or talk. Saw surgeon again today. He wants a new Ct scan, thinks the infection is deeper, and that I need more surgery. Since the wait time to get a Ct scan is weeks away, I'll be going through the ER, and be admitted, put on IV antibiotics and have surgery to clear up this nasty, painful mess. I'll probably be out of work longer than intended initially. Good news is I can pick up Jon on my way and get him back home where he belongs. Say some prayers this goes smoothly and that I'm painfree soon. Much love FBF ❤️❤️❤️
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Quick update to thank y'all for your generosity and love you've showered on me, Jon and US, not just the past couple of weeks, but the past 3yrs since we started this battle. As you may have seen, prior to Jon's passing, I had a wisdom tooth that was infected and required oral surgery to extract, that I had been putting off so that I could take care of Jon. After his passing, and seeing just how swollen & infected my jaw was, my parents insisted I get to the surgeon to schedule the surgery which they graciously paid for last Thursday. Since then, I've been in excruciating pain but I am on the mend. I've been unable to make many calls because I'm unable to talk without making the pain worse; however I have paid for Jon's cremation all because of y'all and he should be back home with me where he belongs next week. I also was able to contact social security so that no one tried to take over his identity or use his Medicaid benefits, etc. I shockingly (actually by now nothing the govt does should surprise me anymore right?) found out you aren't eligible to receive widows benefits until you're 60, disabled or have young children, so on top of everything else, there's a $1038/mo loss in income (they do pay you a one time $255 death benefit). The light at the end of the tunnel is that once my jaw heals and my leave of absence is over, the time I spent caring for Jon can now be thrown into work in order to keep our home. I hope y'all know truly how thankful I/we are for all of your love, support, gestures, and kindness you've extended to me/us this past almost 2wks and the past 3yrs. As soon as I can talk and function well enough, I will let y'all know about Jon's celebration of life. As I've said to some of you privately, it will be in true "Messa" style--everyone's invited! Love, hugs & kisses ~Ang~ ❤️❤️❤️
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I've gotten so many messages, tags and comments about Jon & I. It's truly been overwhelming to know how loved we both are. Sadly, I've also gotten messages from a few that had not heard of Jon's passing. I've also gotten many messages asking how I'm doing. Honestly, and I mean this sincerely, I'm ok. I had planned to talk to Jon this week and tell him it was ok to move on...I knew he didn't want to be like he was in the end. I was concerned the pain would become unmanageable in the coming weeks. When we started this battle, Jon was very clear that he didn't want to die in pain in a hospital hooked to tubes. I promised him he would die at home pain free. I'm proud to say I fulfilled that promise. I ain't gonna lie though...it was hard and was becoming increasingly more difficult to care for him & keep my promise. Once I knew we had a "few weeks" I started arranging short visits with the longest & closest of his friends. Some of you didn't make that visit in time...I don't want you to have regrets you didn't get here timely. More importantly, JON wouldn't want you to feel that way. He knew you were coming soon because I TOLD HIM!!! I'm trying not to blame myself you didn't make it timely...the visits were exhausting on me in a sense because I also had hospice worker visits, medical equipment & pharmacy deliveries, taking care of the house and also taking care of him & myself to do. My failure of a wisdom tooth was back infected & inflamed, now to the point I can barely speak, open my mouth much, or eat. Met with the oral surgeon today and it's so bad he's doing surgery tomorrow to get it out. My wonderful parents paid for it all. My amazing children have been here, cooking & cleaning since Monday. My one day daughter in law i can't say enough about her and what a hard working, loving woman she is! Then I've had Y'ALL!!! Posting memories of Jon and I, saying prayers, sending words of comfort and donating to help pay for his cremation & our household expenses while I'm off work to have time to grieve & take care of all of the things I have to surrounding his death. He's watching down on all of us smiling broadly for the memories, kind words and generosity. Funny side note: the funeral home sent me an email & even they called him "Messa"!!!

I will be working on a celebration of life soon & in true "Messa style" you'll all be invited!!! He would have it no other way! Nor would I. Again, if any of you have pics of Jon, esp from when he was younger, I would ask you let me know esp if you need money to have copies made, or send me the photos. I have no pics of Jon in his youth & would love to have them. TYIA! Love y'all FBF ❤️❤️❤️
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I am saddened to inform ya'll that Jon passed away peacefully in his sleep at 10:39 am this morning. He lived a good, happy, fulfilling life. In the days leading up to his death, he was surrounded by friends and family, showering him with love & affection, and sharing stories of good, fun, happy times together. I will be planning a Celebration of Life soon & will let ya'll know when I have it planned.

<3 As he would say, "Peace out. MessA" <3
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Shelly McCoy Schultz
46 months ago
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No one deserves our help more than these two! Love y'all!

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Raised by 135 people in 46 months
Created August 20, 2015
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SB
$200
Shannon Bragg
9 months ago
RL
$50
Robin Labranche
9 months ago

Love you Ang!!! Love, Robin and Aunt Charleen

DB
$100
Dave & Keri Byer
9 months ago

Love you!

MT
$500
Michael Till
9 months ago

I remember john as a young man, way back when we would play hours and hours of madden. I always liked john. Time has its way with all of us. I'm sorry to hear he passed away.

AB
$100
Angela Brasington
9 months ago
$200
Trisha Jackson
9 months ago

I love you sweet girl!!! Xoxoxoxo

BA
$25
Barbara Alpha
10 months ago
KR
$100
Kristie Rouse
10 months ago

Thinking of you and your family.

DH
$100
Daphne Huston
10 months ago

I’m so sorry for your loss.

KB
$40
Kim Bounds
10 months ago

Love you. Please take care.

Shelly McCoy Schultz
46 months ago
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No one deserves our help more than these two! Love y'all!

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