Saving Jasmine

$4,000 of $4,200 goal

Raised by 20 people in 63 months
If you're wondering what "Saving Jasmine" is about, then we're going to tell you.

Jasmine is affected by an uncommon emotional/behavior disorder known as Reactive Attachment Disorder. For the last six years, I have been seeking treatment, counseling, medicinal, homeopathic, and any other kind of help I could find to try to bring this beautiful, super intelligent little girl into some form of normal life. 



The following is a quoted excerpt from Jasmine's latest assessment from the Center for Attachment Resources and Enrichment:

"Jasmine's scores ... indicate that Jasmine has a severe Attachment Disorder with a defiant (ambivalent) subtype of attachment problems. Jasmine is quite severely disturbed and will most likely require an out-of-home placement due to her violent behavior which makes her dangerous to family and peers unless the proper treatment is obtained. Children with these scores are persistently oppositional and defiant...

 ...children with the evasive (anxious) attachment subtype have fear as their predominant emotion, particularly fear of abandonment. These children use behavioral strategies that are designed to keep them from ever having to experience fear. They often act afraid when they are actually sad and angry. Evasive (anxious) children tend to be more persistent liars than are other subtypes. These children have a greater need for closeness with others than do children with the isolate (avoidant) or defiant (ambivalent) subtypes of Attachment Disorder. Therefore, they commonly intrude on adult space, chatter nonstop in an attempt to include themselves in conversations and try to make friends by either manipulating or buying friendships. These children seem to have lost a sense of who they truly are and don't produce real emotions. Their moods are highly unpredictable and their lies about what they are feeling are so prevalent that they seem to lack the ability to truly know how they feel. Their primary thinking error is that no one will love them for who they truly are so they must constantly change themselves to be who they believe others seem to want them to be. These children are never openly defiant but instead are extremely passive-aggressive. The little negative things they do all day long seem to drive their parents to the point of wanting to kill the child while being unable to point out any one thing that their child has done wrong. These children are skilled at being superficially charming and overly friendly with strangers...

  ...children with the defiant (ambivalent) attachment subtype express their predominant emotion of anger/rage openly most of the time. There is little guile to these children. They use the rage and anger to keep themselves from having to experience the fear, sadness, emptiness and loneliness that lurks just below the surface. These children have no regard for the consequences of their actions and engage in dangerous behaviors when something happens that brings them more in touch with these underlying emotions. They are most likely to be obsessed with blood, violence, and gore than other subtypes of attachment disorders. These children are quite destructive with their belongings as well as the belongings of others. They manipulate others and try to make them feel guilty, and are only affectionate when they want something. These children truly lack the ability to give and receive affection. They often hurt or kill animals and should never be left alone with them. They are experts at being superficially charming and overly friendly with strangers. These children often invent tales of abuse in order to manipulate others and to get their parents into trouble. ... Their primary thinking error is that there is a shortage of "goodies" available in the world and that they must take their share first. They believe that no one is ever going to give them anything that they need as was often the case in the first years of life. These children throw prolonged temper tantrums as a way of discharging excess emotions of all kinds. They have the ability to make friends but seldom keep them for more than a few weeks due to their bossy, controlling, and cruel behavior towards others. These children often mutter and use speech patterns as a way to control adults. They will change their tactics whenever it suits their needs..."

To put all these in layman's terms, Jasmine can't really feel emotion the way children usually do. Instead of confronting these emotions, especially pain and sadness, she rages to the point of destruction of her things, our house, and most importantly, herself. The things she does to herself she uses to manipulate other people into believing that someone in her life has done that to her. We have videos of Jasmine harming herself, then trying to say someone else did it. We hit our crisis point when Jasmine caused so much damage to herself that we had to go to the doctor to make sure she hadn't done something permanent. At the same time she did this, she was trying to inflict grievous injury to her two-year-old sister, Willow. You can tell she doesn't have any remorse for this and never took any thought of what could have happened when you look at her, because it's like there's no light in her eyes. It's like all through processes have stopped. 

As you can see, her smile doesn't even touch her eyes.

A little background on treatment...

In 2010, I met my wife, and long story short, we ended up in Georgia. Since we moved here in 2011, we have found nothing but hurdles and struggles in seeking her treatment. In one clinic we sought treatment, she saw four different counselors. Another clinic wouldn't even see her because my wife wasn't a gynecological patient in their sister practice. Two other places said they could do nothing for her.

Since early April, Jasmine has been in three seperate hospitals to meet the insurance requirements for inpatient care. This is something we have had to come to terms with - Jasmine MUST be placed in a residential facility for any treatment. However, insurance is trying to pay for none of it.

What's their reason? A third-party assessment person from the state "crisis helpline" who has no medical training had written down that Jasmine was autistic. So, because everywhere is contacting this company and getting that autism tag, they won't pay for anything.

We got in touch with the Center for Attachment Resources and Enrichment, which is a place in Atlanta that specializes in dealing with and treating Reactive Attachment Disorder. After just one day with Jasmine, the main therapists of that clinic had determined that Jasmine is beyond what they can do, and she would not get better without some type of systemic residential treatment. They gave us several referrals to some places. The only one that will take her is a school in West Virginia, called Miracle Meadows.

That brings us full-circle back to where we are now. Miracle Meadows has qualified us for a scholarship, but we have to get this first goal out of the way. The tuition for one month at Miracle Meadows is $2,500 (with discounts). Registration is $500, and uniform fees are $350. The last thing we need is transportation costs, either by plane or by car, which we have estimated to be somewhere to fill in the gap to $4,200. It may cost more, but we aren't greedy.
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It's been quite a while since we posted anything, and there's a lot of new developments involved with that.

First, we've had a few changes since Jasmine was in Lake Bridge - a short-term care facility in Macon, Georgia. She has a new doctor, a new therapist, and a new routine that has helped immensely with dealing with her stressors.

Second, Jasmine's birth mother visited for a while while Jasmine was in the hospital. While that was a help in some areas, it actually caused more stress for Jasmine than we realized. She's coming to terms with that.

Third, I should let you know about the original plan and how it fell apart. The school we had planned Jasmine to attend in West Virginia was more of a nightmare than it made seem at first. We were made to feel like we don't already sacrifice enough to raise Jasmine the way she needs to be raised. They wanted us to give up our second car, our cell phones, and 30% of our income just to qualify for their scholarship. They neglected to tell us any of that until we were ready to hand over money. So, we decided to look elsewhere.

So that brings me here, to this last development. Through working with Kyndle's church, we have managed to get Jasmine into a private school on a probationary basis that we have educated on Jasmine's disorder and is prepared to take on that responsibility.

Your donations haven't been touched until today, when I made the withdrawal from GoFundMe to pay her tuition to this private school.

I cannot stress at any degree how thankful we are for your help. She is making leaps and bounds of progress as she starts to mature in her behavioral decision-making, and the steps we are able to take now, with your help, will only exacerbate that process.

Thank you, now and forever.

-Franklin
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Ladies and gentlemen, we are only $245 from our initial goal.

We cannot thank you enough for the responses we've received from each and every one of you and the things you are helping us to accomplish.

The journey we are about to undertake is a very difficult one, something that no parent should have to go through. A road that no child should ever have to travel.

The end result, however, is a mending that can't possibly be explained.

And all of you helped to get us there. I wish I could do more than hit a few buttons, send a few cards, or anything substantial at all to show our gratitude or even begin to repay you all for your kindnesses.

Thank you so much. Bless you all.
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I haven't been on my computer to make the updates, and I will do so tomorrow. With that, I'm excited to say we have reached 81% of our goal at $3,400! Hopefully this time next week, we can start the process and get Miss Jasmine started on the journey that will give her the life she deserves!
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We have a few things to update.

First, we have a few numbers wrong with Jasmine's tuition and enrollment fees, which is actually increasing our goal.

Secondly, we had a meeting with the community resources with the Department of Family and Children's Services, our county Sheriff's Office, the Department of Juvenile Justice, the Health Department, and the school system's intervention specialist. We ended up teaching them more about the available resources than they knew. Another way for us to show our community how far behind they are in the mental health services area.

It's been an enlightening last few days, with the amount of support we've received from our friends and family. We can't thank any of you enough for what you're doing for us.

Please continue to share our message, and thank you so very much for what you're doing to help us.
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Christy Watkins
63 months ago

Hey Gage, so sad to see you guys going through such a tough ordeal. I've read about this disorder before, however not as extensive as your family. Will her getting accepted into this school help her overcome? Will she get to have a lovable and carefree childhood? I'm so very sorry again. And I hope that your family keeps up and strength and patience that is needed during these times. Thank you for sharing your story.

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Kyndle Newton
63 months ago

This is Franklin's Biological daughter.

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Brianna Ortiz
63 months ago

It's this your step daughter?

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Raised by 20 people in 63 months
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62 months ago
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Apryl Ready
62 months ago

She is such a beautiful little girl. I hope you can get her the help she needs.

JP
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June
63 months ago

All my thoughts and love are with Jasmine and her wonderful parents.

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63 months ago
Christy Watkins
63 months ago

Hey Gage, so sad to see you guys going through such a tough ordeal. I've read about this disorder before, however not as extensive as your family. Will her getting accepted into this school help her overcome? Will she get to have a lovable and carefree childhood? I'm so very sorry again. And I hope that your family keeps up and strength and patience that is needed during these times. Thank you for sharing your story.

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Kyndle Newton
63 months ago

This is Franklin's Biological daughter.

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Brianna Ortiz
63 months ago

It's this your step daughter?

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