I need to get my children fund
Although I was ready to leave for many years, I was hesitant because it was important for me to leave with my whole family. It’s a common practice in this religion to kick the Father of the family out of the FLDS church, only to “give” their family to another man. That was not going to happen to me.
I was trying to figure out a way to leave the church with my whole family. However, after everything I tried, I was not successful. My wife has not been able to overcome the lies and fear that she has been indoctrinated with, from Lyle Jeffs (one of the current leaders of the FLDS church). She wanted to stay in the FLDS church, and was doing everything in her power to keep my kids from me because I was considered evil.
Although I left the church, my wife stayed. I made it clear to her that I love my kids and I care about them. Our children were only going to live with me or her, not some random member of the FLDS church.
That might sound strange to someone not familiar with this religion. The FLDS church teaches that for the eternal spiritual welfare of a child, it would be better for the children to live with and be raised by complete strangers that are worthy (and go to heaven), then live with their parents who are not worthy (and go to hell with their parents). The FLDS church was telling my wife "if we did not want the children to go to hell, we had to send the kids to other worthy people.” There was no way I was going to allow that to happen.
Although my wife continues to strive to be in the church, I have kept on visiting and talking with my family. Once someone leaves the church any associations with that person are not allowed, so my wife got in trouble with the church and was kicked out. I was actually relieved that just by my wife associating with me, I was able to get my wife kicked out of the church and basically forced her to take our kids with her.
I have been trying to heal our family, and bring us all together ever since the end of 2013 (when we were kicked out of the church), to no avail. My wife has a constant fear that I will teach my children the truth about Warren Jeffs, and does everything in her power to deny me access to my children. Additionally, the church has made it clear that anyone that associates with me, is doing something wrong and not obeying the laws of God.
I thought with time, and showing my family love and support that things would be better. It's not. It is only getting worse. My 18 year old daughter has returned to the FLDS church in Colorado City and taken her two oldest brothers with her, against my wishes (they are still under age). I will probably never see my oldest daughter again, but there is hope for my other children.
All of this depends on timing. I have to act quickly so I don’t lose any more of my children to this horrific church. My oldest daughter and other members of the church are continually teaching my children to hate me, and to do all they can to make me let them go. On one of my visits with my family, my 13 year old son threatened to "beat me to death" with the rocks he was holding, unless I left. He was proud that he was doing what God wanted him to do.
So I must act, and act now. After trying for so long I now realize I’m going to have to get the law involved. I’m going to get a leagal seperation from my wife and get full physical and legal custody of my kids. It’s time to teach my children the truth and get them out of an environment that continually teaches them lies and to hate their own Father.
I have tried to do this without an attorney but it has not worked. My older children have sabotaged any visits that I have tried to have. I have consulted with four different attorneys about my case. One has agreed to help and has given me a discount, but the fees are still more than I can afford.
If I had years to do this I could work out the finances of this on my own, but I need to get custody of my kids before any of my other children leave to join the FLDS church. The only way I can do that is with some financial help.
I love my wife and know my kids need her as well as me, but until she can see the FLDS church for what it is, I need to save my kids. I need to save my kids from her and thus the influence of the FLDS church.
So I am asking for help. This is not an easy thing for me to do, but I cannot do this alone. Any kind of help is so greatly appreciated, even if that is a note of encouragement! Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for your love and support. God Bless.
Hey Ben, check your facebook email. We'll for sure help you out. Know that you are loved! We have and will continue to pray for you and your family. I'm so grateful that you were able to get out of the FLDS church, I hope getting custody of your children will give the kids (and hopefully Marg) the push in the right direction to see the light and get out too. You are a good man and a good father. Don't give up! We've got your back! Love you forever!! Greg and Gwen
Hey Ben! I'm looking at your family Picture and can't believe how much they've all grown. And a few new faces! Your family looks wonderful and I can't image the pain and frustration you are going through, I truly feel for you. I have a family of my own now, and shutter to think what I would do if this happen to me. All I can say is hang in there, you are doing the right thing. I know from experience it is hard to know that for certain but time heals all. If I might give a bit of advice to you, don't change the good Father you have always been to them that is what they know, and the truth will only be seen that way. Good luck we will pray for you. Ben if there is anything I know about you is you are persistent that is a great trait. Don't give up!
I can't give money today, but will make a donation when I get my next check. You are a brave and loving man, and you and your family are in my prayers! I will share your GoFubdMe account on my FB. God bless you and your family!
To all The Honest in Heart By Becky Jeffs Daughter of Warren Jeffs My Father masterfully led the flds by teaching strict principles of the gospel and following those principles in public while he was molesting behind locked doors. He appeared to be perfect even in front of his own family. Only those he molested knew his faults. Warren Jeffs did marry around 80 women and girls, many of whom were servants, not worthy to have marital relations with him any more than a kiss and hug , and only in public. He mostly kept the pretty ones close to him. When i was growing up, i know he kept his immoral conduct with minors secret from his wives. Many of them still think he is perfect and can do no wrong. It was very hard to understand his logic when he got one of his 15 year old wives pregnant when there were many many wives older than her who never had the opportunity to be with him. I am his daughter so i know of his cunning nature. As daughters, we were corrected severely if we talked about boys at all. We couldn't even say a boy was handsome. I thought my father must be perfect if he expected us to be. But i found out he wasn't. Being molested by my father, Warren Jeffs, when I was very young, made me wonder about him. But he appeared to be so perfect otherwise, that I always tried to convince myself that he didn't mean to do it, or it was a mistake, or hopefully it was a dream. I dealt with these feelings of wonderment and misunderstanding of him until I found out he had done the same thing and worse to some of my sisters. Oh it was a hard realization to consider that my father was such a pervert. I often ask myself and sisters the question : how can a person be two totally different people? In some settings he seemed like the most perfect man on earth. Yet, behind doors he was as wicked as can be. I think all those who have followed him and presently follow him ought to know the truth. I am grateful he is locked up where he cannot continue to commit crime. But it is heart rending that he continues to control the flds from prison. His brothers visit him every Saturday, secretly recording his words with recorders on watches and pens, then taking those recordings, typing them out and reading them to the people. I hope it can be stopped. I love my father. It is shameful to know what he has done. I pray with all my heart that he will repent and confess to the people that he really is not a prophet of God. My father only has 49 biological children. There are many others that call him father because he has cast out their fathers. I am one of his seven oldest daughters. I know of FOUR others of my siblings he has molested besides myself. And there are others of my siblings I wonder about. I have personally mingled with several girls he married at the age of twelve. I was very disappointed that my father would stoop to do such a thing. Those girls were taught that it was a privilege to be married to the prophet. Most of them still think they are favored of God to be my father's wives. They are all age twenty and older now. His wives are told that they can only continue to be his wives when he comes out of prison if they are worthy. So they fast and pray often that they may be worthy. My father did a wonderful job as I was growing up to teach us his children to work hard, be on time, learn domestic skills, etc. He took us swimming, hiking, camping. He read stories to us and we were a very musical family. He sang well and we always sang along with him. Those are the memories I cherish. When Father became the flds leader, he gradually banded all socials and entertainment whatsoever. It is a sin to have fun now. Severe correction follows those who are not spending their entire day at work. We were told our whole focus should be the redemption of zion which meant there was no time to enjoy life. It's no wonder the children there are becoming so restless. I hope and pray the best for all. I know God judges us individually. He doesn't consider us great and good just because we ununderstand and can pinpoint the faults of others. I do not post this to elevate myself and put my father down. I post this for the innocent people. Whether or not a person is part of FLDS does not mean they are good or bad. Good and bad is an individual thing. Some FLDS are good and some are bad. I know God will bless all those who honestly turn to Him. Becky Jeffs - one of Warren Jeffs' seven oldest daughters Brigham Young ,11:267 The defiler of the innocent is the one who should be branded with infamy and cast out from respectable society, and shunned as a pest, or, as a contagious disease, is shunned. The doors of respectable families should be closed against him, and he should be frowned upon by all high-minded and virtuous persons. Wealth, influence and position should not screen him from their righteous indignation. His sin is one of the blackest in the calendar of crime, and he should be cast down from t