Allen's Memorial Scholarship Fund
On October 27, 2010, our family lost our oldest son, Allen, to suicide. We were left heartbroken, lost, and trying to pick up the pieces of our shattered lives. Without truly knowing what to do, we opened an Allen Matthew Barber Memorial Fund in lieu of flowers to enable us time to think about what we could do with any funds we received. Well, we were overwhelmed by everyone's generosity!! We used EVERY penny we received over the next 3 1/2 years to give to causes we thought Allen would like. We gave to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the Jennifer Claire Moore Foundation, our church, Daphne United Methodist Church for the handbell fund, a regional theatre, a suicide prevention walk in Spanish Fort, and many more. What we are most proud of is that we started the Allen Matthew Barber Memorial Fine Arts Scholarship. We have given away a $1,500 and a $1,000 scholarship the last two years to deserving future fine art majors attending Daphne High School, Allen's alma mater. However, our funds have now been depleted and we are asking for your help once again. We have now changed the Memorial Fund into simply a Memorial Scholarship Fund. We would like to be able to give a scholarship every year as long as we are living in this community. With your help, we can help keep Allen's legacy alive and at the same time, help a deserving student continue his or her education and one day fulfill their dream that Allen was unable to see. If you can give anything, anything at all, it will be so appreciated. God bless and thank you.
Hello everyone and Happy New Year! I haven't posted on GoFundMe in almost 22 months, and I want to thank all of our friends and family members who have donated to Allen's Memorial Scholarship fund since I formed it almost 7 years ago. The fund has awarded 6 $1,000 or $1,500 scholarships to deserving fine art students from Daphne High School. It has also helped in donating to the Daphne High Choral program, church programs, local theatre, suicide prevention foundations and programs and much more. It is my family's intent to continue this scholarship, but after last year's scholarship, we will not have enough in the fund for this year. So, I am asking friends and family who have never heard of this fund or who has meant to help with this fund, but hasn't yet, to please consider giving to Allen's Memorial Scholarship Fund. I promise your donation will go to a wonderful cause in a wonderful young man's name. Thank you.
It's been 10 months since I posted on this site. It is time again to start receiving applications for Allen's scholarship fund. I am so grateful to EVERYONE who has ever donated to his scholarship. I look forward to reading the applications and selecting someone with the same love and respect for everything fine arts that my son had! Allen loved music, writing, and theatre so much. That is something the two of us definitely had in common. I remember we went to the Saenger Theatre in Mobile once to listen to the music from Sweeney Todd. Not the musical, just the music. Yes, he was a fan. I am so happy that I was able to chaperone a NYC trip that he and his fellow students went on. We saw two musicals and we also saw Ground Zero. He was so moved by that experience. I miss him everyday but now I can smile when I think of him. His death did not define who he was . . . his life did.
Today was a special day for Jeff and I and a milestone, of sorts. We spread the last of Allen's ashes in Eastern Lake off the dock here near our place in Seagrove. Last weekend, we walked to the end of a pier on the Eastern Shore and spread them in Mobile Bay. It took 4 1/2 years for us to do it, but now it's done, and we feel good about it. He will "be with us" whether we are in Daphne or in Seagrove, or if we go back to the country he loved so much, Ireland.
Our family has the most amazing, supportive friends that anybody could have. So many of you have given to the fund and I am truly humbled. Here is the slide that is now up on Daphne High's website. I will keep this site up for a while longer. Raising enough money to be able to give every year for a while would be amazing. Thank you again, for all of your support!!!!