Making a dream come true, fertility
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My name is Kristina I am 32 years old and very optimistic about my future, I am looking
forward to what life has to hold. Like any normal woman when I was a little girl I dreamed
of getting married, having a home and raising a family; well I hit a brick wall a little before my thirteenth birthday when I was diagnosed with PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome) It’s pretty hard to hear when your thirteen and all these weird things are happening to you because of a disorder you can’t stop. Even harder to be told by doctors that one of your dreams, the dream of being a mommy will never happen that you will never have children; it was heart breaking even at a young age. Needless to say I gave up and put the thought out of my head. As I grew older it sunk in more, especially as the symptoms of PCOS became more apparent(weight gain, skin darkening, vast amounts of hair growth throughout the body, inability to lose weight, depression, anxiety ect.) and myself worth went down. Its normal for every teenage high school student to feel awkward and out of place but I felt more so as walking down the hall fuels taunts of bearded lady and every fat joke you could imagine. At this point in my life I came to the conclusion I would be alone and that no one could possibly love or care for someone who looked like me, so a child and marriage didn’t matter anymore.
As college approached and with help from friends especially my best friend Kimberly they helped me build a little confidence in myself and that is when I met my future husband Mitchell in 2008. You all have to understand at the age of 13 I was told I would never have children and in my mind with my PCOS and the way I looked I never thought I would find love so I didn’t care. Mitchell changed everything he showed me self worth and how to love myself, if you know it or not it takes a lot for me to admit but he saved my life. We feel deeply in love, he saw past the outside but before things got to serious I did make him aware of my PCOS and the issues that came with it; he didn’t care he loved me anyway. We were engaged in 2009 and for a brief time attempted to have a child but no success. Years went by and we struggled with my weight and PCOS and then my world changed in 2012 my baby sister gave birth to a gorgeous little girl my niece. As much as I love my niece is was a stabbing pain in my heart, my soul. I thought for sure being the older sister I would be the one having a baby first, starting a family but that was not so, and the struggle continued. My husband felt horrible, but was a great man always standing by my side to wipe away the tears, since when you’re in this position every ultra sound post by a friend hurts, I am happy for them but at the same time it was still very painful. At that point I had enough and couldn’t take it anymore I was going to do whatever was needed to have a child and be healthy, to fight back against my PCOS. In the late summer or 2013 Mitchell and I held as small wedding and were married as we both wanted to be married before I was about to take a very drastic step; I had started the process that spring to get weight loss surgery (we were told it would help ease all medical problems I was having and possibly help conceive). I had a gastric sleeve surgery in Nov 2014 and am 60lbs lighter. We were told it would be a long road but we are ready for it. As my one year anniversary approached we were cleared to start trying to have children again. We have tried every vitamin and every recommendation fellow friends with PCOS have given us and so far nothing has worked.
Unfortunately I work part time and they offer no health benefits so that meant I would have no choice but to have husky insurance.
[WE HAVE BEEN SAVING INDEPENDENTLY TO REACH OUT GOAL. I WORK PART TAKE AND TAKE SEASONAL AND AM LOOKING FORWARD TO A FULL TIME CAREER ONCE I FINISH MY DEGREE THIS SUMMER WHICH I AM JUST SHY 3 CREDITS FOR MY DEGREE!]
For those of you who don’t know husky will cover absolutely no type of fertility consultation, visits, meds or any procedures. I have tried to find ways around this by looking up free consults and seminars but when it all comes down to it I will need to see a doctor and with prices of over $300 a visit it is not possible. It just hurts me to my core that my insurance will pay for everything else such as sexual reassignment surgeries but will not grant a woman who wants more than anything in this world to be a mother any type of help; even though a law was passed in 2005 mandating that most insurance offer fertility assistance to woman under the age of forty. I fit all the qualifications, but it seems my only punishment is that I have the wrong insurance. I am just asking for help to make a dream come true, something that so many women take for granted.
UPDATE:APRIL 2017
I underwent a Laparoscopy on April 21,2017 at Bridgeport hospital to check and make sure there were no blockages in or around my Fallopian tubes or to see if there were any other problems such as endometriosis causing the infertility. With great regret my doctor was not even able to make it to my Fallopian tubes due to large amounts of scar tissue. He tried from three different entry sites and was not able to successfully make it in. The only way would have been to cut me open but he said it could risk my health. His advisement was to seek out adoption which I will look into but with knowing my uterus is strong enough to carry and knowing through blood tests that my eggs are of excellent quality I am not giving up just yet. I have reached out to a well know fertility group in NY, yes sadly I have no other option but to see a specialist; so I am pleading and begging with people; Please help me with my miracle. It truly is the only thing I have ever wanted that is so close but so far.
Update- As of 5/18/2017
The Doctor said IVF, egg donor, and adoption are the only option as there is no safe way to remove the scar tissue. We discussed many options but it all still came down to a specialist and fertility treatments.None will understands unless they walked mile in my shoes, its pure devastation when you have to congratulation friends on their sixth child when ll you want is one healthy one!
Please pray for us! Please help us achieve our goal for the specialist!
forward to what life has to hold. Like any normal woman when I was a little girl I dreamed of getting married, having a home and raising a family; well I hit a brick wall a little before my thirteenth birthday when I was diagnosed with PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome) It’s pretty hard to hear when your thirteen and all these weird things are happening to you because of a disorder you can’t stop. Even harder to be told by doctors that one of your dreams, the dream of being a mommy will never happen that you will never have children; it was heart breaking even at a young age. Needless to say I gave up and put the thought out of my head. As I grew older it sunk in more, especially as the symptoms of PCOS became more apparent(weight gain, skin darkening, vast amounts of hair growth throughout the body, inability to lose weight, depression, anxiety ect.) and myself worth went down. Its normal for every teenage high school student to feel awkward and out of place but I felt more so as walking down the hall fuels taunts of bearded lady and every fat joke you could imagine. At this point in my life I came to the conclusion I would be alone and that no one could possibly love or care for someone who looked like me, so a child and marriage didn’t matter anymore.
As college approached and with help from friends especially my best friend Kimberly they helped me build a little confidence in myself and that is when I met my future husband Mitchell in 2008. You all have to understand at the age of 13 I was told I would never have children and in my mind with my PCOS and the way I looked I never thought I would find love so I didn’t care. Mitchell changed everything he showed me self worth and how to love myself, if you know it or not it takes a lot for me to admit but he saved my life. We feel deeply in love, he saw past the outside but before things got to serious I did make him aware of my PCOS and the issues that came with it; he didn’t care he loved me anyway. We were engaged in 2009 and for a brief time attempted to have a child but no success. Years went by and we struggled with my weight and PCOS and then my world changed in 2012 my baby sister gave birth to a gorgeous little girl my niece. As much as I love my niece is was a stabbing pain in my heart, my soul. I thought for sure being the older sister I would be the one having a baby first, starting a family but that was not so, and the struggle continued. My husband felt horrible, but was a great man always standing by my side to wipe away the tears, since when you’re in this position every ultra sound post by a friend hurts, I am happy for them but at the same time it was still very painful. At that point I had enough and couldn’t take it anymore I was going to do whatever was needed to have a child and be healthy, to fight back against my PCOS. In the late summer or 2013 Mitchell and I held as small wedding and were married as we both wanted to be married before I was about to take a very drastic step; I had started the process that spring to get weight loss surgery (we were told it would help ease all medical problems I was having and possibly help conceive). I had a gastric sleeve surgery in Nov 2014 and am 60lbs lighter. We were told it would be a long road but we are ready for it. As my one year anniversary approached we were cleared to start trying to have children again. We have tried every vitamin and every recommendation fellow friends with PCOS have given us and so far nothing has worked.
Unfortunately I work part time and they offer no health benefits so that meant I would have no choice but to have husky insurance.
[WE HAVE BEEN SAVING INDEPENDENTLY TO REACH OUT GOAL. I WORK PART TAKE AND TAKE SEASONAL AND AM LOOKING FORWARD TO A FULL TIME CAREER ONCE I FINISH MY DEGREE THIS SUMMER WHICH I AM JUST SHY 3 CREDITS FOR MY DEGREE!]
For those of you who don’t know husky will cover absolutely no type of fertility consultation, visits, meds or any procedures. I have tried to find ways around this by looking up free consults and seminars but when it all comes down to it I will need to see a doctor and with prices of over $300 a visit it is not possible. It just hurts me to my core that my insurance will pay for everything else such as sexual reassignment surgeries but will not grant a woman who wants more than anything in this world to be a mother any type of help; even though a law was passed in 2005 mandating that most insurance offer fertility assistance to woman under the age of forty. I fit all the qualifications, but it seems my only punishment is that I have the wrong insurance. I am just asking for help to make a dream come true, something that so many women take for granted.
UPDATE:APRIL 2017
I underwent a Laparoscopy on April 21,2017 at Bridgeport hospital to check and make sure there were no blockages in or around my Fallopian tubes or to see if there were any other problems such as endometriosis causing the infertility. With great regret my doctor was not even able to make it to my Fallopian tubes due to large amounts of scar tissue. He tried from three different entry sites and was not able to successfully make it in. The only way would have been to cut me open but he said it could risk my health. His advisement was to seek out adoption which I will look into but with knowing my uterus is strong enough to carry and knowing through blood tests that my eggs are of excellent quality I am not giving up just yet. I have reached out to a well know fertility group in NY, yes sadly I have no other option but to see a specialist; so I am pleading and begging with people; Please help me with my miracle. It truly is the only thing I have ever wanted that is so close but so far.
Update- As of 5/18/2017
The Doctor said IVF, egg donor, and adoption are the only option as there is no safe way to remove the scar tissue. We discussed many options but it all still came down to a specialist and fertility treatments.None will understands unless they walked mile in my shoes, its pure devastation when you have to congratulation friends on their sixth child when ll you want is one healthy one!
Please pray for us! Please help us achieve our goal for the specialist!
Organizer
Kristina Hart
Organizer
Stratford, CT
