Raj Fund, to help our family with bills!

$1,725 of $3,000 goal

Raised by 36 people in 32 months

Hello my name is Heidi, and I would like to share with you, what our beautiful little family has been through in the past couple of weeks.

My boyfriend Raj, daddy to Jameson almost 3, and a wonderful guardian to Trent 17 and Brett 14, is at this moment fighting so hard, and is lucky to be alive, but he is getting a little bit better each day.

Raj had quite a bad case of the flu, at the beginning of January, but instead of getting better his condition just got worse , and then 2 weeks ago ended up in the ICU ward completely dependent on a ventilator. I did not realize how serious it was until I was told to make arrangements to come and see him, because the Doctors were not sure if he would make it through the day. He was diagnosed with Pneumonia, an then the infection went into his blood (Sepsis), with his lungs now already weak (ARDS) set in, Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome. 11 days later after being in a sedated state, and assisted by oxygen Raj came off the ventilator and now has a mask, and more importantly is still with us, miraculously. He is working hard every day to recover, but not without the ever roller coaster ride, of ups and down, and because of the severity of his illnesses, complications along the way. He makes progress daily, but little little baby steps.

It is uncertain as to when Raj will be home, it could be months, and even then he will have a mountain to climb with regards to gaining strength in all areas. My car has already been repossessed, and without Raj's income it is very hard to pay bills, and unfortunately they are beginning to mount up. 

 Hence this is why I came to this site, to reach out to family and friends, to ask for your support as Raj continues to recover from this dreadful sickness.

We miss Raj so much, and some days are hard to get through. Trying to stay strong for family, and just dealing with life in general, doesn't seem to be as difficult until faced with anything that disrupts, what we all come to call our routine. 

Out of bad, always come some good, in this case just realizing how precious our lives actually are, and I find myself slowing down a little, and letting things go, that once may have seemed so pressing.

I would like to thank  you all for taking this time to share in our story, and for the many that will read this and who know Raj, it is evident that he has touched your lives in a special way also. 

Thank you

Heidi Davies

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Update 36
30 months ago

Good morning, Raj has been home a week now, and is getting stronger each day. He has not done much but relax and enjoy being home. So far doing okay without oxygen, just takes his time doing things as he puffs out quickly. Incision sites still very sore and being in the car with bumps can get painful for him. He can't sing high notes anymore! Lol and laughing hurts his chest. When you think about how sick he was and how close he came to not a good prognosis, these "minor" changes are easy to overcome. We take each day at a time and enjoy being together. Pulmonary will be a part of his life now and we have the next appt set up for the 31st, for xray etc etc. I will keep the fundraising site open, and ask that you share it with your friends, and also as mentioned before a very close friend of ours it doing a fundraiser on May 18th for us, I will share info again on Facebook. Raj and I have been very content living as girlfriend and boyfriend, but as situations change so does your thinking, and once we can situate ourselves and figure out new ways to bring in an income, we will tie the knot and get married, I will be very happy to be his wife! Happy Thursday everyone, live each day like its your last and cherish your love ones and try not to take them for granted!
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Update 35
30 months ago

Good Afternoon, been a while since I updated, and I'm without phone also, but this is a good one. Raj coming home tomorrow, and we have been bringing him home everyday for the past 4 days, just to see how we all do. It was a great transition, from hospital to rehab, so he could build some strength.
It also looks like he is coming home "without" oxygen. Between rehab this morning, and his appointment with his Cardiac Thoracic Surgeon, they have been experimenting with him without the oxygen, and it looks like it may happen. He is out of breath while doing it, but like the surgeon said, his life of running around and lifting heavy stuff, and go go go is done, and he will be short of breath throughout his daily life. But putting it into perspective, from what his lungs have gone through with almost every complication that could happened did happen, the Surgeon is absolutely ecstatic with how the lungs look now. The left lung that was peeling down off rib cage has expanded bigger and therefore now standing up straight, and the Surgeon is comfortable with how it looks. He will always have "hard" lungs now, and not the nice soft spongy ones, hence the reason he will always have to do things slowly now, no high elevations, no diving, and absolutely definitely no smoking. Pulmonary Fibrosis "Hard" lung and scarring of the lungs, which in Raj's case happened, just because of all the other illnesses he had. I'm sure if any of you have read about it, it doesn't always give a great prognosis, but the Surgeon was so happy with how they looked, he said you'll be fine. Just got to slow down with everything you do, and listen to body!
So that is it for now, hopefully in the winter months, we can keep him healthy, away from crowds, and just take each day at a time. Please remember May 18th the fundraiser for Raj here in town, and I will continue to update on this site even once Raj is home.
Thank you all for coming along on the journey with us, there were some hills to climb, and some sharps turns here and there, but for now have managed to get back on the straight and narrow. So for now we are going to try and enjoy this straight and narrow, until it curves off again, which hopefully wont be for a while. Thankss

Heidi
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Update 34
31 months ago

Raj continues to build strength each day. He is walking, very slowly unassisted and do the stairs in rehab. He is exhausted after he is done, which is due to the reconditioning of his body, and his lungs. He remains on oxygen and does not look like he will be without for sometime
. Depending on how much the lungs heal will determine, whether or not he stays on oxygen, and surgery will be based on that also. ARDS is what had weakened the lungs, if you look at an image of a healthy set of lungs, and then Raj's his look like hamburgmeat, and this is where time will tell
Anywhere from 1 to 2 years, and wherever they are then is what he will be living with! If your interested Google ARDS, SEPSIS, PNEUMONIA AND PNEUMOTHORAX "COLLAPSED LUNGS".

Have a wonderful Wednesday!

Heidi
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Update 33
31 months ago

Raj's upcoming week involves, appts in pulmonary, etc, and maybe another tooth to come out, lol
He will continue therapy twice daily focusing on steps, walking, and overall strength. Oxygen is more than likely coming home with him whenever that is, he has been there three weeks now.Saturday is his birthday and he will be a whopping thirty three, yer yer yer he's younger. ! Lol
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$1,725 of $3,000 goal

Raised by 36 people in 32 months
Created January 25, 2014
SB
$25
Scott Burland
29 months ago
JH
$100
Jackie Hughes
31 months ago

Thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recovery.

$75
David Morris
31 months ago
JH
$20
Jennifer hahn
31 months ago

Hello Heidi! I am Jennifer Hahn, Raj's second cousin from his dads side. My mom is Sundarbassi Hahn. I'm sorry that I do not have more to donate but I hope it helps. I wish nothing but happiness for the both of you. Raj is an amazing person although we haven't seen each other for almost 10 years. Tell him we say get better from Miami!

RB
$30
Rachel Beechey
31 months ago

Hi Heidi Sorry to hear of your partners illness, your little updates of positiveness are truly inspiring considering what your going through. It puts a lot of people to shame you are being a rock. I wish him a speedy recovery xxxxx

$20
Monique Lussier
31 months ago

Heres to you and Raj! Love the poem

$5
Anonymous
32 months ago
$40
David Morris
32 months ago
LT
$100
Lloyd Tucker
32 months ago

Thinking of you all. Get well soon Raj. Keep strong for everyone Heidi. Love and hugs and good wishes being sent your way, Lloyd, Lauren, Adelle & Eleanor xxx

A(
$50
Amanda Stewart (Miceli)
32 months ago

Hi Heidi, It's been ages since I've seen you. I'm sorry your loved one is so ill. Praying for a speedy recovery!

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