Funeral for a family
Yesterday, I was informed that my cousin, who I considered my last living brother, Vitaliy, and his family were killed in a car accident.
(Link to news article http://rusdtp.ru/76056-semya-iz-podmoskovya-razbilas-v-dtp-na-nosovihinskom-shosse.html)
Vitaliy, despite being on the other side of the world, would always help me at my worst and we would always stay in touch to keep the family bond despite the distance. He was the closest thing I ever had to a brother, and that's how we would always refer to each other, always.
For most of my life, I did not understand the meaning of family, growing up on the other side of the world, I only ever had my mother and father.
A few years ago, my family and I scrounged together for flights to see our relatives for the first time in 20 years outside of a Skype call, Vitaliy introduced me to the rest of my family, showed me where they lived, showed me where they grew up, and how they grew up, Vitaliy showed me what it was for the first time in my life to be part of a family.
Vitaliy married his high school sweetheart, Eugenia, and were ready to start a family of their own. After 15 years with no succcess, the doctors said it would be nothing short of a miricale if they managed to have kids given that they are now approaching their mid 30s with no prior success.
That miricale came in the form of Dasha, three years ago, followed by Grisha, one year ago. But as two miricales were given, three were taken away.
I received news yesterday that my brother was in a head on collision with a truck, and the news that followed next would crush me to the core.
Vitaliy, his wife Eugenia, and their son Grisha (aged 1), were killed, Dasha (aged 3) despite survived the crash but with serious injuries.
Dasha is currently in intensive care with a broken jaw, arm, collarbone, spleen, and ruptured stomach.
With the remaining surviving family being elderly and on a pension, the only person left to bury Vitaliy and his family is his mother who is currently trying to organise arrangements on her own, we've all chipped in as much as we can, but a burial for three is proving to be very difficult to afford.
And if Dasha survives, we are unsure where she will go and who will take her on to raise her.
This page has been created to help Vitaliy's mother with the funeral costs as well is to help support Dasha's medical costs, and if she survives, to help the remaining family to get through raising his surviving daughter.
If you are able, please donate to help the surviving family of my brother.
The money put towards this has helped so much, no matter how much or how little you have or will be putting forward, each and every one of you will impact Dasha's life and the lives of those around Vitaliy, you are all friends in my eyes and the eyes of my family, years from now when Dasha grows up she will come to understand what all of you have done and will grow up knowing that despite the tragedies and hardships this world has dealt her, that there are good people everywhere with a kind heart.
We would also like to thank each and every one of you who were not able to donate but have liked and shared the Facebook post. With all of your support, the Facebook post and this page is reaching THOUSANDS of people from across the world, complete strangers who have never met me or anyone involved have donated hundreds and hundreds of dollars, your help has been just as valuable as those who have donated, thank you all again.
I have some further updates below on Dasha's situation and more.
Dasha had her first surgery today on her stomach and the procedure was a success. Today, she will be taken out of her induced coma and will be getting an MRI. It was initially thought that Dasha may have suffered brain trauma, but doctors believe this is not the case, an MRI will be performed today that will confirm this.
While luckily the Russian public health system has covered most of this, some further tests and procedures will be at a cost, and part of your donations will be going towards her recovery.
Some of our family who were able have arrived in Moscow to help my aunt, so she now has a few extra hands of support helping her with organising the funeral arrangements as well as the mountains of paperwork required for such an event.
My aunt went to the morgue today and while this is by no means a pleasing situation, I am relieved to announce that Vitaliy's wife Eugenia was NOT pregnant, the news report was incorrect.
We've also received multiple reports, that it appears the driver of the truck was at fault and had veered into Vitaly's lane, either while asleep or trying to overtake. Vitaliy had a dashcam mounted to his car which the authorities currently have and we are waiting for an official investigation report.
We've also received news that it turns out Dasha was in the front seat of the car, how she was the sole survivor of the crash is nothing short of a miracle.
The funeral arrangements are almost finished, the total cost at this moment unclear as each part of the funeral is a separate cost and process, but the family is aiming to hold the funeral on Wednesday. The initially quoted cost was close to 30,000 AUD, but appears that Vitaly's friends have stepped in who know a few people who may be able to get some of these costs down.
We still have a long road ahead with Dasha, as she will be in hospital for at least the next 3-4 weeks and also the initial funeral costs. So please friends, if there is anything further you can do to help this page and the Facebook post reach out further, it would be appreciated.
Also, Gofundme has advised that I need to notify all of you in writing on here of where this money is going and how it will get to those involved.
Withdrawals made from this GoFundMe will be withdrawn to me (Alexander Zavgorodniy) to my Australian bank account (as only citizens of Australia and a few select countries are able to be nominated for a withdrawal on GoFundMe). This money will then be sent to my Aunt (Eugenia Sidorov/Евгения Сидоров) who will be paying for the funeral, medical expenses, and any expenses related to Dasha.
Again, thank you all, I cannot express my gratitude enough.