Two Cancers, One Goal

$19,350 of $22,000 goal

Raised by 137 people in 61 months
Cancer never rests; cancer shows no favorites, takes no prisoners. My husband, Robert, has recently been diagnosed two different cancers. Despite a double diagnosis of cancer, he is committed to fight both cancers head-on. Robert sees the smile on our daughter's face and knows he must face the battle; he is determined to watch her grow up.

Robert is early in his battle against metastatic melanoma and prostate cancer. He has endured one surgery already and is facing another, in addition to treatments and recovery. Robert is seeing many different doctors in an attempt to cure these terrible cancers. Despite medical insurance, the medical bills are beginning to overwhelm our family. Any donation will help us defray the costs of our seemingly endless doctor and hospital visits and costs. Thanks so much for taking the time to read our story.
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Hello family and friends,

Just a brief update as there isn't much to tell at the moment. Robert's oncology appointments were moved to the 21st so we're delayed in that information. We saw his nephrologist this past Tuesday and it went well. His kidney function is holding steady and his blood work isn't indicating any additional failure at this time. It is nice to hear some "positive" news. I do wish he was more comfortable; his kidneys are so large that he has trouble breathing and eating most days.

Angeline and I visited my dad and step-mom over Memorial Day weekend in Kentucky. We had a great time and my dad is doing very well post surgery. It's been 10 weeks since his bypass and open heart surgeries and he looks great. His rehab is going well and hopefully he'll be able to drive in another week or two. He is on strict orders to not overdo it, though. :)

Back to Robert...he is holding steady but struggles with a bit of depression and hopelessness each day. He feels like he doesn't contribute to the family and that he is a burden. I understand it is easy to fall into that way of thinking but he does so much for us that he just doesn't see it. Angeline has her dad and that is the most important part of our lives. I can handle any problems that arise. I am currently working on appealing the loss of his long term disability, although I'm not terribly hopeful. Still, I'm going to do it and hopefully his doctors can be persuasive.

I hope everyone is having a lovely late spring/early summer! I am happy for the hot, sunny favorite time of the year. I'll post again once we finish with Robert's next three appointments.

Kathi and Robert
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Good day everyone,

Just a quick update as GoFundMe has had issues sending out updates lately. I have no idea if has been resolved. One can only hope.

Robert heads back to Indy for his nephrology appointments at the end of May. His oncology appointments are the first week of June. Trying to fit everything into one day is a bit too much for him, as he tires very easily. Even an hour in the car is a lot for him most days. If he is feeling okay to be left alone for a couple of days, I plan to take Angeline to visit her grandpa in KY. I'm eager to see my dad again and Angeline hasn't seen him since February, prior to his surgery and recovery. She is finished with school on 5/23 so we should have a couple of free days going into the holiday weekend. :)

More to come once we get to Indy for the next round of appointments and tests. If you do see this and did not receive the last update, please go to the website to catch up. I'm not sure what the issue is/was with GoFundMe.

Take care,
Kathi and Robert
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My apologies if you receive this and an update via email. The email posting is either not working or very slow. Please click for the update. :)

Thanks, Kathi
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Good day to all!

It's been a very hectic month and I'm finally getting a chance to post another update. As I mentioned in my last post, my dad had open heart and bypass surgery at the end of March. He is home now and doing well with in-home rehab. He sounds very positive and upbeat and mentioned that he feels like he has a new lease on life. I speak with him every day, as he feels it helps his healing process; it also alleviates my anxiety a bit each day to know he is okay and improving a little every day. :) I plan to make another trip to KY to see him after the semester ends at Purdue.

Robert is pretty stable most days but struggles with the ups and downs of blood glucose levels. Some days are better than others; his sugars are well-controlled some days and others they are wildly ranging from high to low. He's been experiencing a great deal of weariness and having some trouble getting out of bed each morning. I think the chronic pain , the weirdness of the glucose levels, and his failing kidneys all contribute to his chronic fatigue. There are some days when he tries to do too much that he staggers a bit and I have to support him as he walks to sit down. It scares me to think what he does when I'm not home. I only hope he doesn't injure himself.

The next round of oncology and nephrology appointments are at the beginning of June. It appears we are now playing a delicate game of cat-and-mouse with insurance and possibly social security down the road since Robert's kidneys haven't completely failed yet and no new tumors have arisen. We just learned that long term disability has decided to drop our coverage, as they feel Robert can so "some kind of work". Right. Despite all of the doctors reports and statements saying he is permanently disabled, it seems insurance gets to decide if one is disabled. There goes another chunk of our income. Our guess is they are gearing up to look at SSI and make a case that Robert doesn't qualify anymore. It is truly sad that for any of this to go unquestioned now would be for Robert to have another tumor appear or have his kidneys fail now. Huh. It seems the insurance companies and our government don't believe one is disable unless one is actively dying from cancer or in end stage kidney disease. WOW. If Robert could work, he would. It simply is not an option. He nearly faints after 15 minutes of walking a slow pace. I feel utterly beaten down and terribly discouraged. I know Robert feels the same way. When he texts me to say he's very worried and scared, I know it's BAD. We are in trouble.

Enough of the rant...attached is a photo of Robert and Angeline at the Girl Scout Pinewood Derby earlier this spring. He helped he build the car and she raced it. Angeline was fourth place overall and we were so proud of her! Robert managed to make it through the competition but was off his feet for a couple of days after that. Angeline was happy to have he dad with her for the race. :) Just a nice father-daughter story and pix to end the post.

Enjoy the spring weather, everyone...peace and love to all.

Kathi and Robert
Robert and Angeline--Pinewood Derby
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Raised by 137 people in 61 months
Created June 4, 2013
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Dan Zielinski
1 month ago

Praying for Jesus' Peace and Hope for Robert and the whole family. As a father with 3 daughters, I know how special it is to be there for them.

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Mike H.
6 months ago

Hope to see you soon.

Summer Lashley
7 months ago

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