Help Eric get his daughter back
Before I start, I feel like the title of this is misleading. I'm not looking to take my daughter away from her mom. I just want a fair amount of time with her.
In February my girlfriend of three and a half years left me and took our daughter with her. I've spent most of my life in a state of depression, and I've become bitter and spiteful because of that. She couldnt take it anymore and found someone new. I didn't handle the loss very well and attempted to take my own life.
I lost the right to have my daughter for a few months. Not legally, but I was asked to keep my distance and I listened. I began counseling, at first with an elder at a church I used to attend, but after a while I sought out a professional. I also took a grief recovery workshop to help me cope with the loss of my family. I've been doing a lot better, but there's still a long way to go.
That's the cliff notes version of the problem that leads to a bigger problem.
In May I lost the apartment we were living in because the cost became too much for one income to handle. I moved in with my brother to save money for a new home for my daughter and I, but the debt that I fell into because of what happened has had me playing catch up.
Since the end of May I've been allowed very limited time with my daughter. I would have her almost every day after daycare and she would stay with me two nights a week. At the time we were sharing a room. It's not cramped, but it's not ideal.
Recently I was served papers and told I would not be allowed anymore time, and had all my current time taken away. It's not legally binding as of yet, but I am trying to be respectful despite being upset at losing time with my daughter. My ex believes my mental state and my living situation is having a negative effect on my daughter's behavior. Admittedly, I am still very sad for the loss of my family, but my mental state has improved greatly since seeking professional help. The time I spend with my daughter is spent watching movies she loves, playing dress up with princess dresses, and going out to parks and hunting for Pokémon together. I'm just trying to make good memories with her after a bad situation. Based on that, I can't understand why she has a behavioral problem at home. She throws fits as a two year old would, but other than that she's very well behaved with me.
With the upcoming court costs and the great need to have a place big enough for the both of us, I am in desperate need of some assistance. I'm not even sure how much I'll need when all is said and done, but if I can get the court fees settled I can get us into a new apartment myself.
I'm not a bad father. I've made mistakes but I've spent every day of the last seven months working towards fixing them. I am doing everything in my power to be there for my daughter the way she needs me to be, but I am struggling immensely. Any assistance provided will be very greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading.
By the time I go to court for this, it will have been six weeks since I've seen Addy. I have to let someone who doesn't know me or understand the weight of the things I've gone through recently decide if I'm fit enough to be in her life the way she needs me to be. The way *I* need to be.
I still suffer from depression. I lost two grandparents, my brother, my best friend, and my daughter in a year's time. I really don't know how to handle that. I'm unimaginably sad, and a little lost. None of the plans I had for my family panned out, and they will *never* be realized, and it is terrifying not knowing what's going to happen next.
But I'm not done fighting. I'm still here and I'm not giving up again. I want my family back more than anything, but I only have the option for one person and she's worth the fight. But I still need your help in this.
We're $635 into this campaign. I need $2500 for a lawyer, and another $200 per hour they work on my case. It's a lot of money. I absolutely abhor the idea of asking for money, but I do need donations if I'm to have a decent shot at getting my daughter back on better terms than I've been offered. I'm pleading for your support. Any amount is a most welcome and greatly appreciated amount.
If you cannot provide support in the form of a donation, please continue to share this page anywhere you can. And I'm going to take it a step further and ask that if you know me well, please write something with your share. If this is something you feel strongly about, please share those feelings with others. Words will help the most in this.
My daughter means the world to me. That's not a saying I take lightly -- she is my world. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her, talk about her, or miss her. Please, if it is within your means or power, help me get her back. Help me secure more time with her.
To everyone who has donated already, thank you. Again. A billion thank yous. You have no idea how much it means to me. One of my bosses donated last week and when I saw it I broke down crying. You are all wonderful people and Ad and I both are blessed to have such caring people in our lives.
P S. - I'm still accepting high fives, but hugs would be appreciated during this time as well.
Heck man, cut it out and put it in your wallet with all the pictures of your kids. "This is Janey, she's eleven. Tommy started baseball last week. And this is Eric and his daughter. Look at how fantastic they are."
To everyone who has already put us in their wallets, shared this on Facebook, donated, or showed support in any way, I just want to say thanks. Seriously. Thank you so much. From the deepest part of whatever organ means the most to you, thank you. Ad means the world to me, and I just want to be there for her the way a dad is supposed to be. The fact that so many people can see that, people that I haven't spoken to in years, people who live insane distances from me, people I've never even met -- it's just been really overwhelming, and I'm very thankful to know there are so many caring people in my life and out there in the world.
I would be forever grateful if you would continue to share this campaign on any and every social media outlet you have at your disposal. Thank you all so much for the love and support you've shown already.
Eric, do you have any income right now? I work for a program that could help rehouse you, and help a few months with rent. Even if you don't have income, that just helps. You can message me on fb, look my number up on church directory, or call me at 456-7627 ext 3209 if interested.
This is important to me. Eric is the father that I would have wanted to have growing up. He is a good dude, one of the funniest and brightest people I've ever met, and he deserves fair parent time with his daughter. Eric has been a good friend of mine for upwards of a decade. I knew him before his abusive former partner came into his life, and before his daughter came into his life. His daughter is an amazing, fun little girl who is (or was?) obsessed with Frozen, loves catching Pokemon, and is so lucky to have such an awesome dad who cares so well for her and bends over backwards to make sure that her needs are met and that she is happy. Thanks to her dad, her knowledge of Batman (notice their matching t-shirts), the Star Wars universe (see that "yoda best" note in the corner?), and Pokemon probably rivals yours. My friend is fighting for the chance to be able to spend time with his daughter after his abusive and gaslighting former partner has tried to paint a picture of him as an unfit and unstable parent. Anything that you can help put toward his campaign - $1, $2, $5, or more - would be appreciated by so many parties, myself included. To help incentive donations, if you can donate $5 or more, I will offer you a copy of my Parks and Rec poster here - https://www.etsy.com/listing/465029999/parks-and-recreation-bye-bye-lil. I will bring it to you in person if you are local or will mail it to you if you are not. This is a good, caring, selfless, funny, and creative person you would be helping. More than that, it's a deserving parent you would be helping, as well as a close friend of mine. Please help.