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Freeman Adoption- Bladder Exstrophy

Hello Beautiful World! 

     We are the Freeman family from Catoosa, Oklahoma. My husband, Donnie; and I met our last week of high school (2006) at our job in Quik Trip. We fell immediately, and deeply in love. We were married April 19th, 2008. My husband has a son from a previous relationship. He was only a year old when we met. Tray is currently 11 years old and the light of our lives, he lives with us, and we have primary custody. He has visitation with his mother, but he resides with us most of the time. He is our pride and joy. He is an amazing young man.  

     I am going to start with some background on myself. I was born with a very rare birth defect called bladder exstrophy. when I was born, my bladder was on the outside of my body. When I was a baby I had a few surgeries to repair this defect. (The original surgery was when I was 8 months old.) I was incontinent until my second reconstruction surgery at age 11. At this time, we discovered that the leaking urine was due to a fistula between my bladder and uterus resulting in urine (very often infected urine) leaking through this whole in my bladder and into my uterus, then passing outside of my body. This caused a major amount of scar tissue inside of my uterus walls, as well as; damage to the lining that is so important to being able to conceive. Not long after we were married, we discovered that I was pregnant, I was scared, but happy. The very same day that we made this discovery, I became deathly sick. The pregnancy was in my tube, it was ectopic.  It had ruptured, and I was bleeding out into my body. By the time I made it to the emergency room I was very close to death. Luckily, by the amazing, and aw inspiring grace of God I lived, but another amount of scarring, and complications were added to my ability to have a baby. A few years later we decided we were ready to begin trying for another baby, many people with bladder exstrophy have little to no problem conceiving, however; with all of my added complications my ability to have a child was basically nonexistent. Just a couple month ago (November 2016) I was also diagnosed with Celiacs Disease (gluten Allergy) this can cause infertility, this added another layer to my complications list. 

     We tried for 5 years to get pregnant. After my one ectopic pregnancy we never had another pregnancy, not even a false alarm. It is sad to think at one point in time, I was praying to simply get a positive pregnancy test, even it wasn’t a real pregnancy, just so I could have some sort of hope. My heart was broken. I wanted to foster to adopt, or to adopt but the cost is way out of our price range. I am a middle school teacher in Oklahoma, and the pay is extremely low. Fostering is something that my husband feels he cannot do. The implications of becoming attached to a child to have them ripped from us, is something that he cannot bear to live through. I had basically given up on the hope to ever have a child. I lived in a constant state of "pretend" it doesn’t bother you, pretend it doesn’t matter. All the while my heart hurt. We love children. We were approached some time last year to do a private adoption with a girl that lived in the area. The adoption fell through, so again I was completely broken hearted! This fund is to help raise money to adopt a child. We were hoping to adopt a young girl from China, but she was adopted before we could raise the money, so now we are hoping to raise money to find a child in need, and a perfect fit!

        We are not people that ask for hand outs, We are usually giving to others instead of asking for them to give to us. But it is impossible for us to afford this adoption. We can afford to care for another child, to feed and clothe, and provide a good home for her, but 20,000 dollars is not something that we just have laying around. Ha! And taking out a loan for this amount of money is also nearly impossible for our family. So here we stand, asking for help to bring a child home, and help to provide a child in need with a loving home. Thank you for everything that is given! I will keep posted all information about the process! If you cannot afford to donate, will you please share this, and ask that others also share it? 

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                Please pray for us!

                          With all the love in the world


Brittney, Donnie, and Tray Freeman
(And our dogs: Rocco, Pixie, and Scout)

From: Oklahoma, USA

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Brittney Freeman
Organizer
Catoosa, OK

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