Get custody of my Mom.
Donation protected
My mom was born December 3, 1957, with cerebral palsy, disabling her from ever walking on anything but canes.
It didn't stop her from attending a normal public high school in Garden Grove California, and from working as a dispatcher, where she would meet my Dad.
Her disability didn't stop her either from having a child, me.
However, things got grim in 1999, when my father passed away from cancer.
My mom stopped walking on canes, stopped working, stopped really living. I was 7, and now had to take care of her, as she was supposed to take care of me. It was hard.
December 21, 2009, the bank took our house, and we found ourselves in a hotel in Texas Christmas eve.
My moms health, mentally, and physically has since deteriorated.
My mom went to live with her parents, (pictured above) until they were unable to make do with her, and she was sent back to me, where she was in and out of the hospital, because she believed she was dying. I had a newborn son at the time, and it was hard, my mom moved around about a dozen different places in the DFW area.
I came upon problems in my personal life, and moved to Houston on the drop of a dime, and told my mom to stay there at the home she was at, as I didn't even have my own place or anything settled in Houston. My moms stubborn soul, ignored my wishes, and paid a taxi to bring her from Grand Prairie, all the way to Houston. Though I couldn't stay there, my son and I moved again to west Texas to live with who would be my father in law, we couldn't too accommodate my mom.
I stayed there and my mom settled in to a nursing home in Houston, and I was able to call and keep in touch with Gwen Anderson, the head nurse/owner. At least until life went sour for me again, and I lost every possession I had other than my car, lost my cat, and even my son for some time. I ran back to Arlington, where I was still taking courses at TCC. But I still couldn't recover information about Gwen Anderson, who she was, where she was, where my mom was... I called, and called, and called, all around Houston, even some places in our home town of California as I got a lead from an old neighbor that she was back there... But because HIPPA privacy laws, I couldn't get anywhere, I had no idea where she could be, if she stayed in Houston or moved around. I was even checking the NAMUS jane/jon doe website regularly.. Social security could only tell me she wasn't reported dead, and was still receiving benefits. Police wouldn't take the case as they weren't sure what jurisdiction my mom was even in. It seemed as though the blame for losing my mom rested on me. This year, my moms parents, my grandparents, both passed, one by one, and the pressure to find her burned even harder... The only call they got was on my uncles phone in 2012, from a physical therapists personal cell phone who lent my mom his phone, only he couldn't remember anything, the place, she was at or, where, apparently he was contracted. It seemed very suspicious, and not at all helpful.
I enlisted in Adult Protective Services to find her, surprisingly she was in the same place, she had been in Houston. I thought it was at first comforting to hear a familiar voice, Gwen Anderson's voice.. She alleged she tried to contact my family again and again, but my family reports never having been contacted, which is true, because all the while, they were scrutinizing me about losing her, and finding her.
Anyways, the nursing home my mom is at now, has assumed the right of her power of attorney, and since the nursing home is out of Ms. Andersons home she has the right to refuse me to see my mother, as well as the right to make my moms medical and financial decisions. I in essence, need to get custody back over my mom. As now, I see they don't want my mom contacting her family. I practically harass them with calls that go straight to a voice mail box that is full... When I can get through by calling on a blocked number, they give me an excuse as to why its not a good time for me to talk to her, and tell me to call later. When I went to go see my mom, they tried to refuse me, saying that I didn't pre-arrange it, and tried to say it was because I filed a complaint with APS that she couldn't have visitors. So I prompted to call the police, ONLY then did they allow me to see her... it hurt to see her. They had chopped off all her hair, recently from the looks of it, as she still had short locks of hair in the carpet surrounding her bed, some parts were longer than others, but all in all, her hair wasn't more but an inch long. She asked for me to get her out there, told me to call her dad, and have him come get her, like he did before... I couldn't tell her that her parents passed away, Ms. Anderson already told me not to tell her because she worries how it will affect my moms behavior. So I lied, to her face, told her I would. And she proceeded to give me my uncles number, so she does still remember our phone numbers, the staff had just refused to actually try to contact anyone, and in the mean time assumed legal rights over her, and now feel its within their rights to alienate her from myself and family.
I need a lawyer, I need to get rights over my mom, and get her to a different facility, one that's closer, one that will allow her to have contact with me and her family, that wont alienate her, and treat her as a human being.
I don't know how practical my amount is, I've never gone to court, or had to hire a lawyer, I don't know how much it'll cost, but even if there is a lawyer reading this, that would be willing to take the case pro bono, that would really help too.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and just even considering to help.
It didn't stop her from attending a normal public high school in Garden Grove California, and from working as a dispatcher, where she would meet my Dad.
Her disability didn't stop her either from having a child, me.
However, things got grim in 1999, when my father passed away from cancer.
My mom stopped walking on canes, stopped working, stopped really living. I was 7, and now had to take care of her, as she was supposed to take care of me. It was hard.
December 21, 2009, the bank took our house, and we found ourselves in a hotel in Texas Christmas eve.
My moms health, mentally, and physically has since deteriorated.
My mom went to live with her parents, (pictured above) until they were unable to make do with her, and she was sent back to me, where she was in and out of the hospital, because she believed she was dying. I had a newborn son at the time, and it was hard, my mom moved around about a dozen different places in the DFW area.
I came upon problems in my personal life, and moved to Houston on the drop of a dime, and told my mom to stay there at the home she was at, as I didn't even have my own place or anything settled in Houston. My moms stubborn soul, ignored my wishes, and paid a taxi to bring her from Grand Prairie, all the way to Houston. Though I couldn't stay there, my son and I moved again to west Texas to live with who would be my father in law, we couldn't too accommodate my mom.
I stayed there and my mom settled in to a nursing home in Houston, and I was able to call and keep in touch with Gwen Anderson, the head nurse/owner. At least until life went sour for me again, and I lost every possession I had other than my car, lost my cat, and even my son for some time. I ran back to Arlington, where I was still taking courses at TCC. But I still couldn't recover information about Gwen Anderson, who she was, where she was, where my mom was... I called, and called, and called, all around Houston, even some places in our home town of California as I got a lead from an old neighbor that she was back there... But because HIPPA privacy laws, I couldn't get anywhere, I had no idea where she could be, if she stayed in Houston or moved around. I was even checking the NAMUS jane/jon doe website regularly.. Social security could only tell me she wasn't reported dead, and was still receiving benefits. Police wouldn't take the case as they weren't sure what jurisdiction my mom was even in. It seemed as though the blame for losing my mom rested on me. This year, my moms parents, my grandparents, both passed, one by one, and the pressure to find her burned even harder... The only call they got was on my uncles phone in 2012, from a physical therapists personal cell phone who lent my mom his phone, only he couldn't remember anything, the place, she was at or, where, apparently he was contracted. It seemed very suspicious, and not at all helpful.
I enlisted in Adult Protective Services to find her, surprisingly she was in the same place, she had been in Houston. I thought it was at first comforting to hear a familiar voice, Gwen Anderson's voice.. She alleged she tried to contact my family again and again, but my family reports never having been contacted, which is true, because all the while, they were scrutinizing me about losing her, and finding her.
Anyways, the nursing home my mom is at now, has assumed the right of her power of attorney, and since the nursing home is out of Ms. Andersons home she has the right to refuse me to see my mother, as well as the right to make my moms medical and financial decisions. I in essence, need to get custody back over my mom. As now, I see they don't want my mom contacting her family. I practically harass them with calls that go straight to a voice mail box that is full... When I can get through by calling on a blocked number, they give me an excuse as to why its not a good time for me to talk to her, and tell me to call later. When I went to go see my mom, they tried to refuse me, saying that I didn't pre-arrange it, and tried to say it was because I filed a complaint with APS that she couldn't have visitors. So I prompted to call the police, ONLY then did they allow me to see her... it hurt to see her. They had chopped off all her hair, recently from the looks of it, as she still had short locks of hair in the carpet surrounding her bed, some parts were longer than others, but all in all, her hair wasn't more but an inch long. She asked for me to get her out there, told me to call her dad, and have him come get her, like he did before... I couldn't tell her that her parents passed away, Ms. Anderson already told me not to tell her because she worries how it will affect my moms behavior. So I lied, to her face, told her I would. And she proceeded to give me my uncles number, so she does still remember our phone numbers, the staff had just refused to actually try to contact anyone, and in the mean time assumed legal rights over her, and now feel its within their rights to alienate her from myself and family.
I need a lawyer, I need to get rights over my mom, and get her to a different facility, one that's closer, one that will allow her to have contact with me and her family, that wont alienate her, and treat her as a human being.
I don't know how practical my amount is, I've never gone to court, or had to hire a lawyer, I don't know how much it'll cost, but even if there is a lawyer reading this, that would be willing to take the case pro bono, that would really help too.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and just even considering to help.
Organizer
Melissa Kaye Daniels
Organizer
Arlington, TX
