A Better Life
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We all know that not everything in life goes as planned. Sometimes, though, it goes far from planned.
My fiancé and I thought we were set. He was a full time assistant manager making about $1600 a month, and was talked to about being promoted soon. I was working part time making some of the extra cash. We just got our own apartment, which was luckily inexpensive- and had 2 bedrooms.
We then took another step in our relationship- I was pregnant.
We weren't millionaires, but we were definitely financially stable enough to have a child .
But then, my fiancé lost his his job unexpectedly. My job was a good supplement, but not nearly enough to support us. So then, he had to quickly find a job to pay the bills. All he could get was a job which pays about half (or less) of what he was making, which is because of it being part time-much less hours- and significantly less hourly pay.
We tried our best to pull through with what we had, which only led us to constantly being late with rent, in debt with bills, and no money left at the end to save.
After having our beautiful baby boy, we ended up moving in with my dad and family to pay off our debts and save money until we can get our own place.
Although this helps financially and we have their help to watch our son while we work, we have been completely stressed out with our living situation- 6 people living in a small, 2 bedroom home.
All 3 of us share a small bedroom that hardly fits anything but a bed, dresser, and a small napper for our munchkin to sleep in at night. And that is just the physical stress.
Our emotional stress, however, is a different story. Living in a small place with family with much different views gives us stress on top of the normal "new parent" stress. This is the stress that I feel is very unhealthy, especially because we have been trying different things that end up with the same unfortunate results.
I try my hardest every second of every day to be the best mother I can be. My fiancé, the same to be the best father he can be. But I feel like these extra stresses are putting a lot of extra weight on our shoulders- and hearts- in which we need to get away from.
I hate asking for things, because I would rather give things away. But right now, I need to think beyond my pride and think about our son, and that's why I am starting this. I want my son to have the happiest life possible, so I am asking for help. Even if we don't make our goal, every dollar- even cent- will be more appreciated than you can ever imagine.
I'm sorry in advance to anyone that might be against or find negativity in this. I will accept and respect everyone's opinion on us and our situation.
Thank you to anyone who is willing to help us out, and even to those who can't that even just wish us luck.
My fiancé and I thought we were set. He was a full time assistant manager making about $1600 a month, and was talked to about being promoted soon. I was working part time making some of the extra cash. We just got our own apartment, which was luckily inexpensive- and had 2 bedrooms.
We then took another step in our relationship- I was pregnant.
We weren't millionaires, but we were definitely financially stable enough to have a child .
But then, my fiancé lost his his job unexpectedly. My job was a good supplement, but not nearly enough to support us. So then, he had to quickly find a job to pay the bills. All he could get was a job which pays about half (or less) of what he was making, which is because of it being part time-much less hours- and significantly less hourly pay.
We tried our best to pull through with what we had, which only led us to constantly being late with rent, in debt with bills, and no money left at the end to save.
After having our beautiful baby boy, we ended up moving in with my dad and family to pay off our debts and save money until we can get our own place.
Although this helps financially and we have their help to watch our son while we work, we have been completely stressed out with our living situation- 6 people living in a small, 2 bedroom home.
All 3 of us share a small bedroom that hardly fits anything but a bed, dresser, and a small napper for our munchkin to sleep in at night. And that is just the physical stress.
Our emotional stress, however, is a different story. Living in a small place with family with much different views gives us stress on top of the normal "new parent" stress. This is the stress that I feel is very unhealthy, especially because we have been trying different things that end up with the same unfortunate results.
I try my hardest every second of every day to be the best mother I can be. My fiancé, the same to be the best father he can be. But I feel like these extra stresses are putting a lot of extra weight on our shoulders- and hearts- in which we need to get away from.
I hate asking for things, because I would rather give things away. But right now, I need to think beyond my pride and think about our son, and that's why I am starting this. I want my son to have the happiest life possible, so I am asking for help. Even if we don't make our goal, every dollar- even cent- will be more appreciated than you can ever imagine.
I'm sorry in advance to anyone that might be against or find negativity in this. I will accept and respect everyone's opinion on us and our situation.
Thank you to anyone who is willing to help us out, and even to those who can't that even just wish us luck.
Organizer
Ashlee Nicole Derby
Organizer
Clifton Park, NY
