Signed papers yesterday ...basically custody shared by both...boys primary residence is with me, Zoe primary with her dad. She is graduating early and wants to go.to.Coastal like her mother.....
I figure all I have done over the years that as always as it has been.
Sorry for the delay of updates...sometimes I find It easiest to.just try and ignore what inevitably is fast approaching. Hoping to be able to come to a legal agreement at least providing status as to.whom is where and whom they are with. He sees no.need to.provide support and at this point....I have no legal fight . Marital property not split but at this point it can be replaced and I have survived just fine without it! Stuff is stuff....and ultimately doesn't mean much. It doesn't define who you are....and happiness is something you carry with you always! Nobody can take it away forever.....so Hope and pray that Thursday will be settled Wednesday and no court will be needed. I will keep everyone posted!!!!
Thanks and my gratitude to all......
I have been hoping, praying that things would be able to trudge ahead to keep the peace. What I thought was an agreement was not! Of course It was all what he wanted it to say, and I had no input. He did not agree and now has thrown things into full force action. It has become has become his way or no way... it is not about the kids. He is now trying to come back and take full custody of the youngest... I have gone every avenue I can to get assistance. If you have any attorney friends that will do this for an initial fee... please, please let me know. I have court in 20 days... and NO ATTORNEY.... had to use little bit of tax money to pay bills...... I would hope all the truths would prevail, but the first court date did not prove in my favor, and I do not know that I can go through this again.... I thank those for the character witness letters, and I am soooo thankful for all the support I have had! Greyson is very, very happy.... and his visit to SC opened his eyes. He is where he truly wants to be.... he loves his father but knows at this time, education, and what he gets is what he needs ! PLEASE help me to fight this in any way you can..... I do not know what to do from here. I have so little time to take action.....
HOPE, STRENGTH, LOVE..........
Holiday weekend in retail proved me ill one day and cleaning the next....but got a weekend with Greyson ...was nice. He was my caretaker Saturday. Trying to come up with an agreement according to his terms as an attorney still can not be retained. Trying figure out all means possible. I suppose to have the rights legally set and allow him to pay me nothing...is the way to go. I just wanted the children to be separated from the divorce. It is still what I want and ultimately the best way to go.
Xavier is on a car hunt. His grandfather graciously loaned him his vehicle. One day at a time is all I need.....thanks to all helping out there.!
Today I had a day off. It was a busy but slow weekend at work. Unfortunately only pulled in very little ucks for two.weeks.commission before taxes and insurance. One day at a time, and.money can't cure all. Trying to make and agreement with the kids being first and foremost....figure no support will keep.things calm. I have support for.survival of my day to day and very thankful for.that. just don't want to do.the wrong thing and have a fight in court about the kids. It should have been settled n Juvenile court but has been moved to the circuit court now. Thanks for.all.the letters about my character and just the notes of reasurance.
One day at a time. wish us luck to head this off and agree before hand....please oh please!!!!
Homework and the day to day grind are back in full force... training for middle school is beginning. Still am leery that nothing is set legally..... hopefully with taxes ( if get!) and all the generous support I can get ball rolling. Commission sales not working in my favor these days!!!! Keeping my head held high and full of hope!! Thanks for all the help and support! Greyson is doing well, and even wrote a weekly paragraph about Grammar, he is really getting into the school work!
Heading into week three. Greyson is really focused on grammar and school. He is coming out of his.shell. I believe all the changes have had some good effects. Taking things one day at a time. Thank you for all the support. Trying to get all in order....reaching out to Zoe as often as I can. Xavier hanging in there too. He is becoming very independent. Growing up....
Thanks for.all the.positive vibes!
We have made through one more week. Sent my legal response to.the divorce accusations. Greyson is back in the game at school...and having a growth spurt. Xavier is doing better and we are still trying to.get.his.car towed. Nervous about getting an attorney on time. It's stressing me out! As to why for the past several months I have developed.a weird.tongue swelling with stress....not fun! Thanks to all the support from everyone.....
Enjoyed a wonderful day off yesterday! After homework we went to the park and broke in Xavier's new frisbee. Trying to get Xavier's truck running... but to no avail.... a tow is in its future. Fortunately his grandparents loaned him their truck to use till we get his looked at!
It is always something but am so thankful for everyone helping me get closer to my goal...
I had lunch at school with Greyson today.... he very much enjoyed my visit, and he is already thinking of Middle School. He is glad to be back with his friends, and in his school.... just a few short months until he graduates 5th grade....
Xavier is soul searching.... and just taking things one day a time.
Thankful for a peaceful calm around us for now!
Greyson is re-adjusting to being back in his school! He had a wonderful welcoming "back" to his home school. He was even escorted to his classroom by the principal!!! He has not discussed much of the past few weeks events.... and has not been very open with conversations with the other party. I am feeling a bit of concern. I really want to keep things in place as they are. The court date is 3/21/13.... have to retain lawyer before then.... or just wish me luck the justice system will be on my side......not the case the first go round... so not having much faith in it! Xavier is searching to find his calling in life... he is 17 going on 18.... he knows the situation and wants to plead the fifth! Please keep us in your prayers.. and hope. Zoe is reaching out.. slowly. She needs time.... 15 and this entire event has been very trying. Definitely think counseling is in order... maybe for us all!!!
Thanks again for everyone reaching out to me..... thank you for the donations... thank you for being there!!!
My children have meant everything to me to the point that I was accused of giving them too much attention over the years.
After 17 years, it is time to end a marriage that has been unhappy for too long. My hope was for an amicable and inexpensive "˜do it ourselves' divorce. I filed for custody, visitation, and support with the state in July 2012. Just days prior to the court hearing on my filing my husband filed through an attorney for divorce and asking for sole custody of our children. He now lives in South Carolina.
Obviously, the amicable divorce will never happen. I now must have an Attorney to protect the most precious gifts life has given me. I have been and am working full time but every penny goes to housing and food for us. I have continued to pay Health Insurance for the entire family until recently. Any savings that existed were in a bank account that did not include my name. Without legal help, I am powerless to fight for my children. Most lawyers do not have payment plans, and my tight budget cannot fit another payment.
The boys and I have been surviving without any support since July when he suddenly packed up everything in the house, had the utilities cut off, and moved out of state with our daughter. I had to borrow enough towels for the boys to shower, and a mattress and sheets for their beds. The house was listed for sale in August. While it was my home, my name was never on the deed.
I am reaching out to anyone that has the compassion to understand my situation. Please help me keep my children home!
Due to recent events, and recent comments....I will need to retain legal defense sooner than later, just to keep what is in place in place..
My family and I appreciate any help you can provide to keep us together. I thank you with all my heart for your continued support. I just want the kids to be separated from all the adult issues for the divorce...tried to make that understood in the first place. I want to continue to make it as simple for the kids as I can. I love my children and want the best for them all!
Thanks to all the support and prayers. I was able to meet Greysons father amicably and bring Greyson home. He missed friends , his school, and mom. Now to keep all legally n place.
Heard from Greyson last night.....miss him so! I keep my hope going he will be home soon and never have to feel this way ever again!
One day closer and my hope only grows more....thank you to those that have reached out!