Help disabled man achieve his dream

 
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My name is Thomas Hemingford. I'm raising money for a friend so he can achieve his very personal dream, whilst he is still able to do so. He's a disabled man, who happens to be a talented musician. He wishes to write and record some songs f... more

 
 
 
 
 
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Updated posted by Thomas Hemingford 21 months ago

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Updated posted by Thomas Hemingford 21 months ago

My name is Tom. I am writing this as I am trying to help a disabled friend achieve his music related dream whilst he still can. I am writing to ask if you can help with this.

My friend is called Darren. I have known him for several years. He is physically disabled. He has a number of conditions, including CMT (peroneal muscular atrophy) and several oedemas.

Darren is married and has children. However, he is now unable to work due to his disability, and his wife is his full-time carer.

Darren has always been musical, playing keyboards and guitar since a very young age.

However, after leaving college, work took over and music was forced to take a backseat. Darren's priority was always work and family, ensuring he was bringing home the bread and putting his wife and children before himself.

Sadly, over time, his disability got worse. His condition is a progressive one. He had to cut back on the hours he could work and focus on making sure his family had enough income.

Eventually, however, his disability got so bad that he had to give up work completely, and his wife became his carer.

Darren's disability had mainly affected his legs and feet. In recent years, though, the condition has started to affect his hands and lower arms.

He had wanted to get back into music, at least as a hobby, and therefore did keep his interest up. However, he was never in a position where he could buy instruments or equipment, as paying the bills and family always came before his own needs.

Unfortunately, after Darren could no longer work - and with his wife being his carer too - he lost everything he had worked so hard for. They exhausted their savings and had to sell their car and lost their house, just in order to survive. That also meant none of life's little luxuries and no family holidays. They have not been away for years. Now, they are dependent on a small fixed income, with little hope of that changing, as Darren will always now need care.

Darren wants to write and record some songs and music. He wants to do this and share this (via the internet). However, he also wants to write and record some songs for his family. He wants to write a song for his late sister (who died very young), and songs that his wife and children can remember him by in years to come.

But Darren is up against time. His condition is worsening and affecting his hands more. The prognosis means that he probably has only 2-3 years to be able to play guitar or keyboards and be well enough to do this. Time is against him, which is why I am so keen to help him try to achieve this goal.

Initially, I was hoping to get Darren some studio time in a studio. However, this is logistically very hard because Darren's condition fluctuates daily and even throughout the course of a day. As a result, it is hard for him to make arrangements he can stick to. He even misses certain clinic appointments sometimes if his condition is bad on a given day.

Darren's condition also means that his muscles tire very easily. So, for example, he may only be able to record a piano part for a verse on one day, and have to wait until later that day or the next day to play/record again.

There's also the problem of transport, access and managing inside somewhere. Darren can't travel long distances without becoming tired.

Given all this, a small home studio seems to be his best option and chance.

I am writing to you to ask for your help.

If you are reading this, please share or retweet.

I am seeking donations in order to buy an instrument, equipment and software OR donations of such items themselves.

I am doing this for Darren as a friend, and I want nothing in return myself but to see him fulfill his dream, and hopefully listen to something he has written on my CD player at home.

If you can help in any way on this, you will be doing something wonderful for a disabled man and his family. I know Darren would be eternally grateful.

Thank you for your time in reading this.

Best wishes,
Tom

 
 
 

Updated posted by Thomas Hemingford 21 months ago

Hi. My name is Tom. I am writing this as I am trying to help a disabled friend achieve his music related dream whilst he still can. I am writing to ask if you can help with this.

My friend is called Darren. I have known him for several years. He is physically disabled. He has a number of conditions, including CMT (peroneal muscular atrophy) and several oedemas.

Darren is married and has children. However, he is now unable to work due to his disability, and his wife is his full-time carer.

Darren has always been musical, playing keyboards and guitar since a very young age.

However, after leaving college, work took over and music was forced to take a backseat. Darren's priority was always work and family, ensuring he was bringing home the bread and putting his wife and children before himself.

Sadly, over time, his disability got worse. His condition is a progressive one. He had to cut back on the hours he could work and focus on making sure his family had enough income.

Eventually, however, his disability got so bad that he had to give up work completely, and his wife became his carer.

Darren's disability had mainly affected his legs and feet. In recent years, though, the condition has started to affect his hands and lower arms.

He had wanted to get back into music, at least as a hobby, and therefore did keep his interest up. However, he was never in a position where he could buy instruments or equipment, as paying the bills and family always came before his own needs.

Unfortunately, after Darren could no longer work - and with his wife being his carer too - he lost everything he had worked so hard for. They exhausted their savings and had to sell their car and lost their house, just in order to survive. That also meant none of life's little luxuries and no family holidays. They have not been away for years. Now, they are dependent on a small fixed income, with little hope of that changing, as Darren will always now need care.

Darren wants to write and record some songs and music. He wants to do this and share this (via the internet). However, he also wants to write and record some songs for his family. He wants to write a song for his late sister (who died very young), and songs that his wife and children can remember him by in years to come.

But Darren is up against time. His condition is worsening and affecting his hands more. The prognosis means that he probably has only 2-3 years to be able to play guitar or keyboards and be well enough to do this. Time is against him, which is why I am so keen to help him try to achieve this goal.

Initially, I was hoping to get Darren some studio time in a studio. However, this is logistically very hard because Darren's condition fluctuates daily and even throughout the course of a day. As a result, it is hard for him to make arrangements he can stick to. He even misses certain clinic appointments sometimes if his condition is bad on a given day.

Darren's condition also means that his muscles tire very easily. So, for example, he may only be able to record a piano part for a verse on one day, and have to wait until later that day or the next day to play/record again.

There's also the problem of transport, access and managing inside somewhere. Darren can't travel long distances without becoming tired.

Given all this, a small home studio seems to be his best option and chance.

I am writing to you to ask for your help.

If you are reading this, please share or retweet.

I am seeking donations in order to buy an instrument, equipment and software OR donations of such items themselves.

I am doing this for Darren as a friend, and I want nothing in return myself but to see him fulfill his dream, and hopefully listen to something he has written on my CD player at home.

If you can help in any way on this, you will be doing something wonderful for a disabled man and his family. I know Darren would be eternally grateful.

Thank you for your time in reading this.

Best wishes,
Tom

 
 
 
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Created by Thomas Hemingford on May 13, 2012

My name is Thomas Hemingford. I'm raising money for a friend so he can achieve his very personal dream, whilst he is still able to do so.

He's a disabled man, who happens to be a talented musician. He wishes to write and record some songs for his wife and children - something they can remember him by in years to come.

Anyone who helps will be transforming the life of a man who suffers with pain 24-7.


He’s called Darren, and you can read more about him (and his diary entry) via the blog entry link below:


http://innervoice2011.wordpress.com/2012/05/12/a-day-in-the-life-of/


I’d really like to do something to help Darren if I can. It’s incredibly frustrating, though, as I’m limited myself by disability, not to mention being the 24-7 carer of my own dear wife.


Recently, Darren has been looking at how we could write and record some songs and music. Darren has always been into music, and played guitar and keyboard from being very young. He was taught when he was younger too.


However, Darren’s disability is getting worse and in around two years time, he won’t be able to play anymore at all.


Aside from his family,  his passion has always been music.

He has a passionate and profound ambition to write and record some songs whilst he still can. He is a very gifted songwriter and I would love to be able to help enable him to fulfill his dream.


I can totally sympathize with his race against time and disability; he, like many others, won’t have a long and healthy life. His condition is progressive and degenerative.


He has wanted to do this for years. But when he was younger, fitter and able to work, all of his efforts went into working and providing for his family. He was very successful.


When his disability worsened, he found he couldn’t work as much. Eventually, he had to stop altogether.


Over time, he watched all the fruits of his labour vanish – his house, car, holidays, savings.


It’s upsetting for me personally too, as pretty much the same

thing happened to us. It’s awful, and it makes you wonder what the point was?


But Darren gave up his music to do the right thing. He put his family and work above his own passions. He worked hard and long hours, missing out on time with family and friends, socializing and hobbies, just to bring home the bread.


That is selflessness.


His very limited and fixed income make saving very difficult, despite his best efforts.


He has significant costs due to his disability. I do too, but his far exceed mine. I think most people would be shocked at how high the extra costs are that many people with disabilities face.


I have given him a little money to help but can’t afford to give him more. I want to, I really do, and I was planning too but I couldn’t really afford to give him what I did. I had to not pay a bill to do it. I have to confess, it would take me months and months to save a tiny amount, as we too have a limited, fixed income.


I’ve looked on the internet myself now at music equipment and instruments. I didn’t have a clue really before. It’s quite expensive, and you need a reasonable quality guitar with a solid top for recording, plus a case, strap, mic, cables, audio interface, preamp, and something to record on and with.


He needs to buy something as soon as possible, though, as he is up against time. I know he’d save and save for years but he doesn’t have the years. That thought has terrified me, so I don’t know how he copes with it.


I’d like to help him get what he needs to write and record some songs. He sees this as his legacy, something very special and personal that he can share but also leave behind in the world for his wife, children and the grandchildren he may never meet. In many ways, it has kept his spirits up and kept him going.


Music and songwriting is in his blood. I think when someone has a talent, though, a gift, they shouldn’t be denied the chance to do something with it just because of disability and time constraints placed upon them through no fault of their own. I’d find it quite scary to imagine that I’m alone in that thinking.


But having also read some of Darren’s diary entries, I’d also like to be able to help him do something (or buy something) nice for his wife. I can totally relate here, though I think Darren’s wife has far more to do throughout the day every day than I do because of the nature of his disability and how badly it affects him. She is a full-time carer to Darren, as well as being a housewife, wife, and mother of three children. All the usual aspects of parenthood but with much more.


I don’t know how to begin helping. He’s like me: disabled, unable to work, can’t get loans, credit etc, despite paying lots into the pot when we were younger and able to work.


Darren’s musical and songwriting abilities will soon be consumed by his disability. He has genuine talent, and it would be so awful for him to not be able to do this.


He’s been denied so much through disability in his life, with worse to come. He shouldn’t be denied this.


I wrote an additional blog (which Darren didn't know about at the time). You can read this here http://innervoice2011.wordpress.com/2012/05/12/how-can-i-help/


I couldn’t just sit back and do nothing. I have to try to help somehow.


All donations go directly to Darren. I know times are hard for everyone, but if you wish to donate, please give as much or as little as you are comfortable with.


Thank you for reading this and helping a wonderful man and  talented musician to achieve his dream.


I am more determined than ever to try to help him raise the money needed to buy the gear he needs and achieve his dream. This means so much to him. I know he feels really bad and guilty because of his disability. That he can no longer help his wife around the house with jobs, go out to work, play out with the kids, take them out or go places. They've not had a holiday for many, many years.

There's so many things he is just unable to do, and few left which he can, which is why the guitar and recording is important. He also feels bad because it means that, for most of the time, they can't go out and do things as a family due to his care needs and how his disability affects him. He feels bad because they miss out on things week in week out.


I think, though, it would be great if he could treat his wife and children to something nice too.


I am appealing unashamedly for help.


I'd appreciate to hear from anyone who might be able to help with some room treatment or recording equipment.


If anyone would like to donate directly (ie not via this site), then please contact me and I'll give you the details etc.


If there are any music companies, music shops/stores or musicians out there who might be able to help, it would be greatly appreciated.


Please contact me via Twitter at @THemingford or via email at themingford@gmail.com


If any can help or donate, please, please do so. Every bit will help.


I am appealing for donations and any help. Anything helps, every little helps, and if anyone reading this can help at all, you will be doing something very special that will mean so much to this man and his family.


Thank you so much for reading this.


 
 
 
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Recent Donations (28)

14% raised by 28 people in 23 months.

£25.00

Anonymous

20 months ago

 

£5.00

Jan O'Malley

22 months ago

 
 

Hope the dream comes true ;o)

 

£5.00

john

22 months ago

 
 

hi - i've used pcs for making and recording music on a budget for years - email if you want advice

 

£10.00

Tim Bennett

22 months ago

 
 

£5.00

Anonymous

22 months ago

 

£10.00

Mike Muscroft

22 months ago

 
 

Bless you and I am sure you will achieve your ambition. Best wishes.

 

£5.00

Trish Ormerod

23 months ago

 
 

With my very best wishes, only wish it could be more but you will be my first stop should any extra funds come my way. Good luck to you both.

 

£10.00

Sue Howe

23 months ago

 
 

All good wishes. You will achieve it!

 

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Chris M

23 months ago

 
 

All best

 

£10.00

Anonymous

23 months ago

 

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