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To Support My Wife Through Cancer

My wife was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer during pregnancy last month (June 2015), and our new baby boy, Logan, was delivered by C-Section at just 31 weeks gestation (July 9th 2015) so my wife could begin her Chemotherapy. He remains in the Neonatal Special Care unit at our local hospital.


My wife had a masectomy before our son was delivered, and now faces Chemotherapy over a five month period before undergoing another surgery to remove cancerous Lymph Nodes. With four other children already at home aged 8 and under and my paid leave from work nearing it's end, I have created this GoFundMe to raise funds which will allow me to remain home from work to not just care for my wife during her treatment, but also our five children as my wife will struggle to do so. It will mean I can take care of my wife. I can be there for my kids through the school holidays while my wife is unable to do much. I can help my wife to visit our hospitalised baby boy regularly. Family means the world to us, and this would allow me to do all I can to keep everyone as happy as possible through such a tough time.
I'm a proud man, and this is not something I would usually do. But I am determined to be by my wife's side when she needs me most and this is my attempt at preventing her from worrying about the bills while I do so. Please consider making a contribution - it will mean the world. Thank you.

Update: July 27th 2015
With so many people sharing and donating I thought the least I could do was shed a little more light on how we all are at the moment.

My wife: It's not often that she is pain-free. Her masectomy wound is okay now (unless pushed on) but she's still rather sore following her C-Section on July 9th. She also finds herself aching pretty much all over, and getting tired fairly early each night which is hardly surprising. Despite her own plight she is by Baby Logan's side every single day without fail. Once her chemotheraphy begins though the simple task of visiting our premature baby boy will become much more difficult, and at times not in her own best interests as she will need rest to recover from each bout. Her chemo will be given in six lots, three weeks apart. Her next appointment with her Oncologist is on Wednesday this week where we hope her treatment plan will be fully explained, and finally acted on. Before that though she has a nasty trip to the dentists tomorrow night. So, so brave! All this on top of her depression and anxiety. My wife is an inspiration to me.

Baby Logan: After being very sick at birth (although we weren't fully aware of this at the time) Baby Logan has since come on leaps and bounds. The day after his delivery he was transferred to Norfolk & Norwich Hospital for more specialist care, where he spent 4 days. I visited him daily, but my wife remained bed-bound at the James Paget and had to miss out. He was eventually transferred back though with continued assistance for breathing and various medications including antibiotics, morphine and caffeine. He also had a vapotherm machine helping his lungs to remain expanded to aid his breathing further. Now he's almost unrecognisable - he's doing brilliantly well and is attached to nothing but a feeding tube, which is only there for when he gets too tired feeding from a bottle. He's shot up from 3lb 15 to 4lb 4 in the last four days and is taking most of his feeds from bottles. We're hopeful that he can be home with us within three weeks.

Rhianna, Lacey, Lucas and Connor (other children): It would be all too easy to forget that our other little ones are heavily affected by everything that's going on as well. They are aware Mummy isn't well, but after losing their grandad to cancer last year we've decided to keep "the C word" from them. Mummy's going to fight and win, and we don't want them fearing otherwise. Considering my wife and I haven't been around all that much of late they are handling everything well under the care of grandparents and other family members. They have all met their new baby brother and are excited to have him home once he's ready.

Me: I'm okay because I feel I have to be. I too have suffered from depression since my Dad passed away last year but my family give me so much support and strength, and never fail to be there, so I'm okay. As mentioned above asking for help in this way is something I would never have considered had it not been the only option I could see at the time - and I'm gobsmacked at the number of people who have been sharing and donating to help me be there for my family. I now want to reach our target as soon as possible so my wife has the reassurance that throughout her treatment, I'll be there. For helping me make this happen, you are all incredible, just like my wife. Thank you.

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  • Anonymous
    • £40 
    • 7 yrs

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