Thank you so much for reading.
I'm here in a time of desperation for my family. My daughter and myself. A last resort in need of the kindness of others.
I am the sort of person that would rather give than receive, so it is
very difficult and with a heavy heart that I write to you now.
point in my life I am facing homelessness having just suffered a major
stroke and my 22 year old daughter who has been fighting cancer since
she was 17.
Our story goes back quite a ways. the early 90's to be exact. In
short; over the years, we have been burglarized.. lost all of our
furniture (couches, beds, tables... everything...) been foreclosed on,
lost jobs, my husband passed away leaving me 10's of thousands of
dollars in debt.
The last couple of years it has just been my daughter, myself and our
2 pugs. We've been homeless intermittently throughout all of this
time. We've moved nothing but boxes full of what little we have
salvaged over the years to one apartment to a storage unit to another...
In fact our last storage unit was auctioned off because while being
homeless I could no longer afford it. In the years prior to that I had
regained some semblance of a life, purchased a new bed, and some
furniture... gone once more....
5 years ago, my daughter at 17 years old was diagnosed with breast
cancer. The cancer went from one breast to the other... soon it had
spread to her ovaries and has since had one removed. While dealing with
all of this, she was then diagnosed with masses on her brain, kidneys
and currently it was recently revealed that she has 5 holes in her heart
as a direct result of the massive amounts of chemo and radiation she
has received over the years. She wears a heart monitor and is being treated for that now as well.
I suffer with severe rheumatoid arthritis
bone spurs in my heals which makes it next to impossible to walk, fluid
build up in my legs, under-active thyroid, Clinical Depression, IBS and
in November of 2012 I suffered a major stroke.
We have been living in a small 1 bedroom apartment, with no
furniture, no beds, for the past couple of years, and on my salary alone
(my daughter is unable to work, though she would like to contribute) to
say that we are living paycheck to paycheck is an understatement. I
constantly have to go to the check cashing
store to get an advance so I can pay the bills on time. Our lease is
up come early Spring, the rent is increasing and upon hearing the news of my
stroke... the apartment complex has made it clear that they expect us to
leave. It's not an official eviction, not yet anyhow, but they don't
feel that I can afford the rent (which is... unfortunately true). I
can't even get them to fix everything that's broken. The dishwasher,
the washing machine and dryer, the air conditioning.
I have no savings, so I couldn't afford to move, I do not own a car,
so everywhere I go is by bus or taxi and paying what they expect me to
pay at this community... near $1100 is ridiculous for what I have and
what I'm forced to deal with. A 2 or 3 bedroom is just a few hundred
more a month and with newer appliances that probably work.
In early 2013 I was able to go back to work full time. I force myself
to go to work and despite how I feel... I feel very blessed to even be
able to; although my coordination and memory are not what they used to
be. I have frequent dizzy spells, migraines and coordination issues.
Since going back to work, I realize that I am just not able to keep
up this pace. I'm exhausted all the time, stressed out and I can't
afford to be on the regimen my Dr's want me to be on. Organic food for
example... I would love to be able to eat healthy, but I can barely
afford the processed foods I'm supposed to stay away from.
If I go part time at work... I lose my health insurance. If I lose
that... I can't even begin to think about what might happen (not just
with my health) but my daughters. I wish so badly to provide for her
and give her everything she needs to not only get well, but to go to
college and have the life the she deserves. She wants to become a chef
and is looking into school's like Johnson and Wales. I'd love more than
anything for her to go, but that's a huge expense even in this early
Personally, I don't care about sleeping on the floor, having little
to no clothes, no eyeglasses (which would help me work among do other
things, the cheap knock-off glasses I wear I think are actually hurting my vision even further). I care about my daughter more than anything in this world. I
am here asking for your generosity. Please help me, help her. If you
can not help financially, I ask that you share my story with others.
That is another issue in fact... my daughter is against my doing this,
she wants to keep her privacy (which I respect and completely
understand) so I am doing it without her knowledge. I don't believe
she understands the severity of the situation and given her specific
health issues, she is naturally uncomfortable with people knowing.
To ensure her privacy, I am not using my main facebook account which I
would use to help promote. Additionally, my mother whom lives up North
has health issues including heart disease... if she knew the extent of
how bad things are for the both of us... I fear what the stress might do
to her. That combined with my daughter finding out about this page is
why I have to take the more difficult route and appeal to the generosity
of strangers over friends.
I will do everything in my power to update this page on a regular
basis. I will upload photo's of bills, receipts from Dr. visits etc...
whatever I can so that you know that 100% of donations go directly to
What is most important to me are paying the medical bills, and paying
for treatments whatever they happen to be, and however frequent.
Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or comments. I'd be very pleased to speak with you.
Thank you so very much even if all you can give is a kind-hearted word. G-D Bless!
Update. April 12, 2013
Sadly, I was just a victim of a recent real estate scam. As you know, I am needing to move, and I was feverishly looking for another apartment or similar when I found a small house being rented out partially furnished for little more than an apartment rental. Thanks to my donation page making rounds, I had received donation outside of the website by people in the local area which was used to pay towards moving into this home.
After speaking with the alleged home owner and having a long email correspondence spanning over a month and paying 1st mo plus sec dep and HOA fees... he neglected to send me the key's.
I pleaded and asked time and again but he cut off communication stealing almost $3,000. As if things weren't bad enough... now I have even further to go than before.
If I could have just one wish it would be to be in a situation where I had the means to help others rather than to be the one asking for help. I pray this wish will soon become a reality and hope that all of you whom have helped me out receive equal kindness from others.