Help Me Meet My Sweet Daughter Ashton

 
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Goal: $5,000.00
 
 
 

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Derick Wesley Owens

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My name is Derick Owens. I'm a 23-year old man with a beautiful two year old daughter named Ashton Novalee of whom I've never met. Most men where I'm from turn and run when their girlfri... more

 
 
 
 
 
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Updated posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago

Here's a photo of Ashton and her cousin Kennedi. The resemblance is uncanny! Kennedi's mother left the following comment earlier today: "Hi, my name is Amanda and Derick is my brother in law. I have known Derick since I was in kindergarten. I remember when he and Brittany found out they were expecting, he was so excited! He couldn't wait to be a dad. He would talk about how he couldn't wait to see her face and hold her. Every time Brittany broke up with him, it would leave Derick devastated. He would be so upset, and it wasn't even because he was losing Brittany (Ashton's mother). He was worried about not being allowed to have a part in his child's life. She is Dericks daughter. Anyone with eyes can see that. She is a spitting image of him, and bears a strong resemblance to my children. Ashton has a cousin not much younger than her that she could be playing with if she was able to know this side of her family. Ashton is my niece, without even meeting her I love her and want the best for her. Seeing Derick with my 3 children is so enlightening until I realize he is missing the opportunity to be a dad to his own child. While being an uncle is a wonderful thing, nothing beats being a parent to your own flesh and blood. I whole heartedly believe that Derick deserves the opportunity to love and care for HIS daughter. I know he has nothing but the best of intentions for her."

 

Ashton and her cousin Kennedi

 
 

Updated posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago

Photos from the little birthday celebration we held for Ashton.

 

 
 

Updated posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago

Happy late birthday to sweet Ashton! We may not have been with you in person, but we were with you at heart.

 

Happy birthday to our Owens sweetheart!

 
 
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Created by Derick Wesley Owens on July 6, 2012


My name is Derick Owens. I'm a 23-year old man with a beautiful two year old daughter named Ashton Novalee of whom I've never met. Most men where I'm from turn and run when their girlfriend finds out she's pregnant, but that's not me. I want to be in Ashton's life more than I've ever wanted anything - She was planned by both her mother and I, I've loved her from conception, and I've never stopped loving her. Her mother, however, has alienated me completely by blocking me from all contact and installing a new man as her daddy. This man also signed her birth certificate. Ashton is my world and I've not even met her yet - I can't possibly imagine how wrapped around her finger she'll have me when I do. I just want that chance - That's why I made this fundraiser. I want the ability to be the Daddy that I planned to be to her when she was conceived.




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My name is Derick - I’m a 23-year old college student. I currently have a steady job as a tutor at my college and a wonderful relationship with my long-term girlfriend. The one thing that I don’t have is the ability to see my now two year old daughter, Ashton.


Mid-2010, I found myself with a well-paying job and a girlfriend of whom I wished to begin a family with. My daughter wasn’t an accident – She was planned, adored upon discovery, and highly anticipated. I remember attending an appointment with the mother of my child, where we were shocked to be told of the blood clot, a subchorionic hematoma, that had formed inside of her. We were devastated – I remember crying and praying to God that nothing would interrupt the pregnancy, and that this baby would come into the world, safe and sound. My prayer was heard, and the blood clot disappeared. We were thrilled, excited, anxious, to name a few emotions.


Shortly after, my girlfriend at the time split up with me, despite the fact that she was 3-months pregnant with our child. I honestly am not sure what triggered the sudden change in her behavior - day by day, she began to resent me. I worked full-time and cared for her young daughter on days I was off, but it was never enough for her. She told me that she hated everything about me. I spent months trying to repair whatever I had done wrong, going through break up after break up, getting back together, and then repeating the process no less than five times. She finally ended our relationship and blocked me from all forms of contact with her.


Soon after we broke up, I lost the well-paying job that I had. She also worked with the same company, higher up the ladder, and to this day I believe she had a hand in my termination. I was depending on that full-time job (paying $11 an hour) to support myself and my endeavors to see and support my baby girl. I tried to contact my daughter’s mother on numerous occasions post-break up. After countless attempts, I realized that trying to contact her was futile and decided to focus on what I needed to do to make sure I was in my child's life. While we were together, I went to every single doctor’s appointment that she had scheduled. After the breakup, however, I was never asked to attend the appointments. I thought maybe her pregnancy hormones were just affecting her and that she would change her mind towards the end of the pregnancy and allow me to be a parent for our child’s sake. That never happened.


During those six months, I decided to go back to college to earn a degree in Computer Science. Since I started college, all of my money is being drained that I am able to earn from working. I’ve tried so hard in college; I have made the president’s list thrice and the dean’s list twice out of five semesters so far. I was also named a commencement marshal for my school and have earned the respect of many instructors at my college. All this is of course an effort to someday support and secure a future for Ashton.


Inevitably, the day came when Ashton was born – I found out 9 days later through my grandmother, who reads the local newspaper often. I was shocked that her mother hadn't contacted me to tell me that our child had been born (I still had the same phone number). I was even more shocked to find out that another man, her boyfriend of 4-months, had signed the birth certificate and my daughter had taken his last name. I then realized that it was going to be a long time before I would be able to be involved in my daughter’s life.


Since the mother of my child and I had been living together at the time of the break up, I was forced to relocate. I had to start from scratch – I had nothing. I had a car that I could no longer pay for, a minimum wage job, and no stable home to bring my daughter into. I’ve had to rebuild my life. Now I’m ready to bring Ashton into it, but it’s taken such a long time. Ashton just recently celebrated her first birthday, of which I was able to see pictures of through my current girlfriend’s Facebook (My ex, of course, has me blocked). I’ve never seen my daughter’s face in person. I’ve never been able to hold her or tell her how much I love her. I didn’t get to wish her happy birthday. I didn’t get to see her dive face-first into her first birthday cake. These are all things that a willing, decent father should have the chance to experience.


I'm not someone who asks for hand-outs. In fact, I hate doing this more than I have ever hated anything. My desire to see my daughter overwhelms that of my pride, though. I want nothing more than to see Ashton and be a father to her.


There’s a huge problem with that though; the other man’s name is on the birth certificate. Not only will I have to get a DNA test , but I will also have to go to court for joint-custody (which I am adamant about pursuing). These are the reasons why this page has been created. I don’t want any more time to go by without being able to be a part of her life. I am currently saving every penny that I don't put toward my car, my insurance, and my living expenses, but it just isn't adding up to be enough. Please, help me meet my daughter for the first time – any amount that you donate will be extremely appreciated and you would have my thousand thanks for eternity for helping me meet my baby girl.


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Hey, Emily. I just felt like I needed to say a few things as well. I understand that you dislike Derick because Brittany is your best friend, and I understand that you dislike me by association and because I think Derick should be able to see his daughter. That's okay. Honestly. Im a mature adult. Im not offended, it doesnt hurt my feelings, and I don't need anyone's acceptance in order to know right from wrong. I know that you've wanted to talk to me, and I know that you wanted to tell me that Derick is using me just liked he "used" Brittany. I would have been more than happy to meet with you and speak with you when you wanted, but unfortunately you were the one wanting to speak with me and I personally didnt feel like I needed to meet with you on your terms. I offered to speak with you over the phone or via message on Facebook, but it seems that you only wanted to meet with me in person to argue and to plant seeds of doubt in my relationship. If I had faith in your ability to talk with me in a civil manner, I would have spoken to you in person. If you were genuine, however, I appreciate your concern. There's no need to warn me about anything of the sort, however. I've been with Derick for three years in October, and Brittany was with Derick for what seems like a span of about six months. The one question that I have for you is, what exactly could Derick have used Brittany for? That's a genuine question. The only thing he got out of the entire relationship was a daughter he's never been allowed to see and a lot of heartbreak. He lost essentially everything after they broke up, and its taken him this long to build his life back up from the ruins such a destructive relationship left him in. Im sorry that you feel like you know Derick better than someone who has spent every moment with him for three years. Theres nothing more important to me than having a family and raising children with someone who loves them and knows how to teach them from the heart, and Ive found that in Derick. Believe me you that I would have dropped him like a hot potato if he didnt meet my every requirement for a wonderful dad. With that being said, I dont understand what this fight is even about. There are so many children who have dads who completely drop the ball as SOON as they hear that the woman theyre with is pregnant. The fact that Derick wants anything to do with his daughter despite the difficulties Brittany is presenting and the hassle itll be for him mentally in the future alone says that his love for that little girl trumps any preconceived issues that might be between him and Brittany. Ive heard that Brittany wished to preserve Ashtons innocence in keeping Derick away, and to keep her out of a broken family. The sad fact is, by keeping Derick out of Ashtons life, Brittany has CREATED a broken family. Derick is completely willing to co-exist with Brittany and Brett and respect their morals, decisions, and wishes, and the fact that theyve as a couple decided to alienate him and ignore his wishes says that they respect their child less than Derick. Parenting is about sacrifice Im not a mother yet, and I know that. If Serenity is allowed to see Justin, theres no reason why Ashton shouldnt be allowed to know Derick. As Amanda said, she has an entire other side of the family that is absolutely in love with her and wants to spoil and adore her. Wheres the harm in letting that happen? A child can never have enough love and we, as a family, have more than enough to give her. I honestly cannot comprehend what kind of evil either of you think is behind a family trying to meet and care for a child that theyve loved since they learned of her existence.

posted by Destinee Ashley 8 months ago

The one thing that really puzzles me and breaks my heart is why Brittany would want to hurt her child like this. Of course it isnt hurting her now, but she MUST know that Derick will persist until hes able to see Ashton, be it within a few years or when shes old enough to have a Facebook. Hes not just going to disappear. This issue cant be buried and resolved by simply blocking people on Facebook and ignoring messages. I dont understand having so little respect for your child that you lie to her from birth. Its wonderful that Brittany has found love and a man who very clearly cares for her and her children, and theres nothing wrong with her wanting to have this man as a positive influence in the lives of her children. There is, however, something wrong with trying to keep Derick out of Ashtons life when hes willing to provide for her and care for her. Nothing would be hurt were Derick to be allowed into Ashtons life besides Brittanys pride, and the fact alone that she lets that determine her decision compromises her as a mother. I understand that Derick probably said some things that he didnt mean when they were on rocky terms, but who doesnt do that when theyre desperate to fix something broken? Im sure youve done it and youve regretted it, just like any human being. Its been three years, and people change. Derick isnt the same broken, stubborn man that I met three years ago. Hes determined and compassionate and he knows where hes going in life. Hes not a no-good sorry excuse of a man, and he certainly isnt using anybody to get where hes at besides himself and his own mind. As far as him using me goes, he pays for 90% of the things that we have and has since we started dating. The only thing I pay for is rent and our household bills, which is provided for me through a scholarship I was very lucky to receive. So, if youve actually read this far into what Ive said, thank you. I know you probably wont absorb any of it because youre stubborn and Brittany tells you otherwise, but thats okay. Derick is a wonderful person. Nothing that anyone can say will ever change my mind about that, and were I to have a child with him and were we to split up, he would be involved in every moment of that childs life because I can swallow my pride and have respect for my child. Thats what being a parent is all about. And yes, as you posted on your Facebook and Brittany ever so ironically chimed in agreement, theres no room for selfishness is parenting. Unfortunately there are some parents who dont understand the true meaning of selfishness.

posted by Destinee Ashley 8 months ago

Hi, my name is Amanda and Derick is my brother in law. I have known Derick since I was in kindergarten. I remember when he and Brittany found out they were expecting, he was so excited! He couldn't wait to be a dad. He would talk about how he couldn't wait to see her face and hold her. Every time Brittany broke up with him, it would leave Derick devastated. He would be so upset, and it wasn't even because he was losing Brittany. He was worried about not being allowed to have a part in his child's life. She is Dericks daughter. Anyone with eyes can see that. She is a spitting image of him, and bears a strong resemblance to my children. Ashton has a cousin not much younger than her that she could be playing with if she was able to know this side of her family. Ashton is my niece, without even meeting her I love her and want the best for her. Seeing Derick with my 3 children is so enlightening until I realize he is missing the opportunity to be a dad to his own child. While being an uncle is a wonderful thing, nothing beats being a parent to your own flesh and blood. I whole heartedly believe that Derick deserves the opportunity to love and care for HIS daughter. I know he has nothing but the best of intentions for her.

posted by Amanda Dancy 8 months ago

Sweet little lies? Please, tell me what devious things I could possibly hope to accomplish by trying to have a part in my child's life. I've put myself out there since Brittany and I split up and offered to pay indefinitely for anything Ashton needs, only to be completely ignored and have my name drug through the dirt. So, please, enlighten me to all of the evils that I have in mind by trying to make things right by helping raise a part of me that I created. I'm sure you can tell me, since you seem to know more about what I think than I do.

posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago

sweet little lies you tell.

posted by Emily Adams 12 months ago

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Recent Donations (7)

$110 raised by 7 people in 21 months.

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Jessicah Mesa

8 months ago

 
 

I hope this helps at least a little.

 

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Katherine Stiehm

13 months ago

 
 

I know this isn't much, Derick, but it's what I have right now. You mean the world to Destinee - As her best friend that means, by default, you also mean quite a bit to me. Your daughter is precious and I know you'd be an amazing Dad, and you deserve to be one, too. I hope you guys can raise enough money to be able to finally see that beautiful baby girl. I wish you the best of luck. My heart is with you!

 

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Jessica Rambo

13 months ago

 
 

Derick, you are a wonderful man. I honestly don't understand how anyone could treat you in this manner. I've known your girlfriend all of my life and I've heard her say nothing but praise in your direction. You deserve to see your daughter. This donation isn't much, but I'm here for you. God is with you and I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

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Katie Waugh

21 months ago

 
 

I know what it's like to not have a Dad around, or have a good Dad- there's no point getting caught up in that, but helping means your little girl gets an amazing Daddy in her life, then that's the least I can do.

 

$10.00

Lauren Broadstreet

21 months ago

 
 

My boyfriend has a similar situation with his two sons. I hope this helps and I'll try to donate more soon! God Bless :)

 

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Samantha Coffman

21 months ago

 
 

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Anonymous

21 months ago

 

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