Updated posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago
Here's a photo of Ashton and her cousin Kennedi. The resemblance is uncanny! Kennedi's mother left the following comment earlier today: "Hi, my name is Amanda and Derick is my brother in law. I have known Derick since I was in kindergarten. I remember when he and Brittany found out they were expecting, he was so excited! He couldn't wait to be a dad. He would talk about how he couldn't wait to see her face and hold her. Every time Brittany broke up with him, it would leave Derick devastated. He would be so upset, and it wasn't even because he was losing Brittany (Ashton's mother). He was worried about not being allowed to have a part in his child's life. She is Dericks daughter. Anyone with eyes can see that. She is a spitting image of him, and bears a strong resemblance to my children. Ashton has a cousin not much younger than her that she could be playing with if she was able to know this side of her family. Ashton is my niece, without even meeting her I love her and want the best for her. Seeing Derick with my 3 children is so enlightening until I realize he is missing the opportunity to be a dad to his own child. While being an uncle is a wonderful thing, nothing beats being a parent to your own flesh and blood. I whole heartedly believe that Derick deserves the opportunity to love and care for HIS daughter. I know he has nothing but the best of intentions for her."
Created by Derick Wesley Owens on July 6, 2012
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Hey, Emily. I just felt like I needed to say a few things as well. I understand that you dislike Derick because Brittany is your best friend, and I understand that you dislike me by association and because I think Derick should be able to see his daughter. That's okay. Honestly. Im a mature adult. Im not offended, it doesnt hurt my feelings, and I don't need anyone's acceptance in order to know right from wrong. I know that you've wanted to talk to me, and I know that you wanted to tell me that Derick is using me just liked he "used" Brittany. I would have been more than happy to meet with you and speak with you when you wanted, but unfortunately you were the one wanting to speak with me and I personally didnt feel like I needed to meet with you on your terms. I offered to speak with you over the phone or via message on Facebook, but it seems that you only wanted to meet with me in person to argue and to plant seeds of doubt in my relationship. If I had faith in your ability to talk with me in a civil manner, I would have spoken to you in person. If you were genuine, however, I appreciate your concern. There's no need to warn me about anything of the sort, however. I've been with Derick for three years in October, and Brittany was with Derick for what seems like a span of about six months. The one question that I have for you is, what exactly could Derick have used Brittany for? That's a genuine question. The only thing he got out of the entire relationship was a daughter he's never been allowed to see and a lot of heartbreak. He lost essentially everything after they broke up, and its taken him this long to build his life back up from the ruins such a destructive relationship left him in. Im sorry that you feel like you know Derick better than someone who has spent every moment with him for three years. Theres nothing more important to me than having a family and raising children with someone who loves them and knows how to teach them from the heart, and Ive found that in Derick. Believe me you that I would have dropped him like a hot potato if he didnt meet my every requirement for a wonderful dad. With that being said, I dont understand what this fight is even about. There are so many children who have dads who completely drop the ball as SOON as they hear that the woman theyre with is pregnant. The fact that Derick wants anything to do with his daughter despite the difficulties Brittany is presenting and the hassle itll be for him mentally in the future alone says that his love for that little girl trumps any preconceived issues that might be between him and Brittany. Ive heard that Brittany wished to preserve Ashtons innocence in keeping Derick away, and to keep her out of a broken family. The sad fact is, by keeping Derick out of Ashtons life, Brittany has CREATED a broken family. Derick is completely willing to co-exist with Brittany and Brett and respect their morals, decisions, and wishes, and the fact that theyve as a couple decided to alienate him and ignore his wishes says that they respect their child less than Derick. Parenting is about sacrifice Im not a mother yet, and I know that. If Serenity is allowed to see Justin, theres no reason why Ashton shouldnt be allowed to know Derick. As Amanda said, she has an entire other side of the family that is absolutely in love with her and wants to spoil and adore her. Wheres the harm in letting that happen? A child can never have enough love and we, as a family, have more than enough to give her. I honestly cannot comprehend what kind of evil either of you think is behind a family trying to meet and care for a child that theyve loved since they learned of her existence.
posted by Destinee Ashley 8 months ago
The one thing that really puzzles me and breaks my heart is why Brittany would want to hurt her child like this. Of course it isnt hurting her now, but she MUST know that Derick will persist until hes able to see Ashton, be it within a few years or when shes old enough to have a Facebook. Hes not just going to disappear. This issue cant be buried and resolved by simply blocking people on Facebook and ignoring messages. I dont understand having so little respect for your child that you lie to her from birth. Its wonderful that Brittany has found love and a man who very clearly cares for her and her children, and theres nothing wrong with her wanting to have this man as a positive influence in the lives of her children. There is, however, something wrong with trying to keep Derick out of Ashtons life when hes willing to provide for her and care for her. Nothing would be hurt were Derick to be allowed into Ashtons life besides Brittanys pride, and the fact alone that she lets that determine her decision compromises her as a mother. I understand that Derick probably said some things that he didnt mean when they were on rocky terms, but who doesnt do that when theyre desperate to fix something broken? Im sure youve done it and youve regretted it, just like any human being. Its been three years, and people change. Derick isnt the same broken, stubborn man that I met three years ago. Hes determined and compassionate and he knows where hes going in life. Hes not a no-good sorry excuse of a man, and he certainly isnt using anybody to get where hes at besides himself and his own mind. As far as him using me goes, he pays for 90% of the things that we have and has since we started dating. The only thing I pay for is rent and our household bills, which is provided for me through a scholarship I was very lucky to receive. So, if youve actually read this far into what Ive said, thank you. I know you probably wont absorb any of it because youre stubborn and Brittany tells you otherwise, but thats okay. Derick is a wonderful person. Nothing that anyone can say will ever change my mind about that, and were I to have a child with him and were we to split up, he would be involved in every moment of that childs life because I can swallow my pride and have respect for my child. Thats what being a parent is all about. And yes, as you posted on your Facebook and Brittany ever so ironically chimed in agreement, theres no room for selfishness is parenting. Unfortunately there are some parents who dont understand the true meaning of selfishness.
posted by Destinee Ashley 8 months ago
Hi, my name is Amanda and Derick is my brother in law. I have known Derick since I was in kindergarten. I remember when he and Brittany found out they were expecting, he was so excited! He couldn't wait to be a dad. He would talk about how he couldn't wait to see her face and hold her. Every time Brittany broke up with him, it would leave Derick devastated. He would be so upset, and it wasn't even because he was losing Brittany. He was worried about not being allowed to have a part in his child's life. She is Dericks daughter. Anyone with eyes can see that. She is a spitting image of him, and bears a strong resemblance to my children. Ashton has a cousin not much younger than her that she could be playing with if she was able to know this side of her family. Ashton is my niece, without even meeting her I love her and want the best for her. Seeing Derick with my 3 children is so enlightening until I realize he is missing the opportunity to be a dad to his own child. While being an uncle is a wonderful thing, nothing beats being a parent to your own flesh and blood. I whole heartedly believe that Derick deserves the opportunity to love and care for HIS daughter. I know he has nothing but the best of intentions for her.
posted by Amanda Dancy 8 months ago
Sweet little lies? Please, tell me what devious things I could possibly hope to accomplish by trying to have a part in my child's life. I've put myself out there since Brittany and I split up and offered to pay indefinitely for anything Ashton needs, only to be completely ignored and have my name drug through the dirt. So, please, enlighten me to all of the evils that I have in mind by trying to make things right by helping raise a part of me that I created. I'm sure you can tell me, since you seem to know more about what I think than I do.
posted by Derick Wesley Owens 8 months ago
sweet little lies you tell.
posted by Emily Adams 12 months ago
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