Its been 8 days now that Steven has passed away and it still seems so unreal right now. But my family and I would like to say Thank you to everyone that has showed Steven and our family all the support and love this past month. From people putting fundraisers together (as I've heard there is 2 more fundraisers being put together) to tee shirts to raffles to raiser and meals and hygiene prducts . Steven's funeral is going to be on Saturday march 1st at 1pm. Details on church location and church is on Stevens profile. Also please sign the guest book (keep it clean) with memories of steven so his daughter. The first fundraiser at the Silver Star Saloon was a total success. So thank you all for everything and hope to see you all at the funeral Saturday. And I know Steven would be honored to have his funeral on the 9year anniversary of my dads passing. So steven and my dad will be together again and remember on this Saturday. And please wear your tee shirts if you got one.
Since the day my brother went into cardiac arrest it has been very hard to come to terms to why this has happened to him. Someone so young and loving, caring, kind hearted guy that people cant help but become close to and call him a great friend or brother. He has showed many of us what a true friend is and how to accept others for who they are and not by there looks or their problems or their past. I've heard many of his friends say he has shown them how to be a true friend to someone and no matter what the problem is work it out and move on and let the past be the past. And if anyone of us needed anything he would give his last $1 to if you needed it or the shirt off his back. And I know even though he isn't able to tell anyone of us thank you; I know he would be thanking everyone of you guys for the love and support you have shown him these last few weeks but also us his family that you didn't have to do anything for or be there for us. I know now why he loved all of you guys and gals you all are a bunch of loving, caring, and giving bunch of people. And we his family cant come up with the words to say to you all but thank you from the bottom of our hearts and its been easier for us having you here to support us and Steven in this difficult time.
So now the sad news. As many of you all know last week we talked with the care team of his and they have told us its not looking good. They are not able to take him into surgery to have the peg tube inserted (feeding tube) its just not possible because of him still in critical condition and he wouldn't make it through the surgery but also because of his size its just not able to be done. They also showed my mom the CT Scan of his brain and his brain is swollen and is pressing against his skull and because there is no more room to swell its causing other problems now. His body isn't able to control his body temperature anymore so he is constantly running a fever of 100.0 or more and he is given Tylenol to bring the temp down but it can only control it for a short time. And then the other night when we got up to tell Steven goodnight the doctor pulled us aside and stated that his heart was showing signs of v-tech which tells us his heart is getting weak and his heart is about to give out and also his organs are starting to show signs of them shutting down so the doctor told us it can be any time now that he can pass. So after that information he set a meeting with a palliative care person so my mom could talk her on what the next step will be. So knowing that Steven would never wake up and he would be put into a nursing home until his body would give up and knowing what Steven wishes are and that is not to be kept alive on tubes and machines we have now made the choice nobody should have to make for someone at the age of 34yrs old.
On Saturday we are going to take Steven off the breathing machine and let him pass peacefully. The doctors said it may be minutes to hours to a day or so it just depends on how his body handles it. Anybody is welcome to come by and see him from now till the day he passes if you wish to come say your good byes. But thank you all again for the love and support you have shown Steven and our family
Sadly tonight when mom and I got up to the hospital the doctor asked us to come talk to him. He stated Steven's heart is getting weak and is in v-tech which is not good news so this means his heart is failing. And the rest of his body is starting to show signs of shutting down as well. So from this point on we are just ensuring that Steven is comfortable and is in no pain. The doctor said its just a matter of time til he passes and it proably could hsppen at anytime. But Please don't put your life or your kids life in danger to come see him because you know Steven would tell you to stay home and be safe. But if you wish to come to see him to tell him good bye you are more than welcome. But please take extra time to get there to see him. Thank you to all his friends and our family for all the support you have all given us over the last few weeks. And the funds that have been or are collected from this time on will go to funeral expenses. And if left over funds will be put away to make sure his daughter gets what she needs. So please pray for his comfort and his daughter during this difficult time.
Its been a long and hard road these last 19days. Steven is still fighting this fight and holding on. There hasn't been any changes in his condition and they n have him as a level 3 in ICU which his critical condition. As I look outside with all this snow we got it brings so many memories as we were kids. Like the time Steven took a snowball and threw it at a passing car and when the car stopped and the man got out of his car Steven threw the rest of his snowballs down and ran to my mom crying saying" I didn't do anything!" But as we all know or most of you know Steven was known as " the trouble maker". Haha. Then the time he his behind the tree and when I stepped out the door he started huffing snowballs at me and laughing. There are just to many to say one other that came to mind I think he was in his sophomore year we took a rope tied it to Brad Russell's truck with a water tube. As Steven was on the tube Brad rounded a corner and the rope snapped and Steven plunged right into a full size truck tired and tore his leg all up and ended up with pins in his knee and leg. And he told the AMR people that "they say Chevy's are built like a rock and now he knows it's true" and they had to stop and redirect themselves because they didn't expect him to say that with the pain he was in. Or the time a few of his friends made yellow snowballs and as they threw them they yelled "yellow balls". But once he got older and he had Shelby he would spend hours outside with her until she wanted to go in or he would have to bring her in as her fingers and toes were vlue for being so cold and she cried all the way in but he would take her out once she was warm again. He loves the snow but hated to drive in it. But please be safe and don't worry about visiting because you know he wouldn't want you or your family getting hurt to see him. So please continue to pray for him. And thanks to everyone that has helped him out with donations every dollar counts.
There hasn't been any change in Stevens condition. We are still taking it one day at a time. On Sunday we went up and watched the Superbowl with him and even though he wasn't alert we know he was hearing the game and at points he had his eyes open so we believe he knew they were playing. And I can tell you he was yelling inside that head of his saying "hell ya" lets go Hawks. One of his friends left his seahawks shirt up there for Steven so we drapped it over his chest as if he had it on. Family and friends are still coming up and showing Steven how much he is loved and cared for. And we can't thank you enough for all the support given to him and us during this difficult time. Steven will give this all the fight he has left in him to get back to hisself . And I think Steven is the hawks #1 top true 12th man for the hawks if there is one because he was so stubborn to not watch the playoff game with the 49er's at the hospital and said after the game on the 19th of January he would go up to the ER. Sadly he didn't get to watch the game nor the Superbowl because of him being so stubborn. But like we all said it could of very well happened if he was in the hospital but his chance of a better come around would increase trumencly. But thanks for everyone support and everythings else it has not gone unnoticed. Abbi
As many of you know on Sunday January 19, 2014 around 2:45pm Steven went into full cardiac arrest and was given CPR by his family until the paramedics arrived. After they arrived the emergency personals took over doing CPR and had to shock his heart three or four times to get a heart rate. While doing CPR they tried to incubate him but wasn't successful because of his narrow throat. Once they got to the ER the doctor that was taking care of Steven was able to get the tracheal intubation tube in right away and was able to get his oxygen back into normal range. But the doctor stated his throat was so narrow for a guy his size and is smaller then most kids is the reason why the emergency personals had trouble getting it in so Steven's brain and organs went without oxygen for around 20 minute's if not a little longer. Do to the lack of oxygen for that 20 minutes his brain swelled and his liver and kidneys started to show signs of them failing. So to revise the damage to his kidneys and liver they did a treatment called a "Therapeutic hypothermia" that cools his body temperature down to 32.0-34.0 degrees. They did this for 24 hours and then after the 24 hours they slowly reheated his body 0.03 degrees per hour until his body was at its normal temperature. After his body was warmed they redid his blood work and thankfully his liver and kidneys showed no more signs of damage and was back to working they way they should be working. Days have passed by and we know Steven is still here because he's a fighter and is going to fight with everything he has to pull through this and to recover. He still hasn't woken up since the day he went into the cardiac arrest but it can take sometime for someone to heal and recover from this. On January 30 when we walked into his room they had his breathing machine off and he was breathing on his own for about 2 hours the nurses said. After the 2 hours his body got really weak and was worn out and so they turned the breathing machine back on. But we were so happy to see that he was breathing on his own. On Friday January 31,2014 Steven went into surgery to have a tracheostomy done. This is when they make a small cut in his throat to insert the tube to assist him in breathing since he will need help with breathing. Next step with be to have a feeding tube put in so he can get the nutrition he needs until he can eat on his own. He has a long road of recovery and we will all be by his side to help him with every step of the way until he can do it by himself. Although Steven has medical through the state and most of everything is covered that he may have to have but there is some things his insurance will not cover and we want to make sure we can get whatever it maybe to help him recover from this. Steven hasn't had much income since an early age when he was placed on SSD at the age of 26 after suffering a massive heart attack. He also has a daughter that is 15yrs old and doesn't live here in Vancouver, WA anymore and is living in Newport, WA with her mother and we want to make sure we can help her out with plane tickets to get here to visit her dad whenever she would like to. As we know Shelby is Stevens world and the best medication in this world for Steven would to have Shelby here to root him on whenever its possible. Thank you all for the support you have given to Steven and the family since this has happened. It has been totally unbelievable the amount of love you have shown all of them by sending prayers, blessings, dinners, visiting and whatever it may have been it hasn't gone unnoticed to any one of us.
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