To dispel even more half-truths, because for some reason people can't put drama aside even in the wake of a child's death...
I started this fundraiser for a friend going through a tremendous tragedy. There were many tiny fundraisers started, mine just happened to take off because I happen to know some incredible people who helped spread the word. From day one there have been allegations of fraud, finger-pointing, and even harassment from the biological mom's camp. I smiled and kept my head down, because I know that what I started is completely out of love and good-intentions. There have been many difficult times-- I've even had the police contacted by people who were just certain that I was up to no good. Even still, I kept my faith that in the end the truth would come out.
As far as I know, everyone has donated in good will. Nobody has been forced, no one has been coerced... there's just something about the death of a child that elicits a basic grief in people, and some of you have chosen to put that spark of grief to work through donations, page shares, and prayers. We cannot thank you enough for any of those things-- they will never be forgotten. I have done my best to keep this page updated with any new information about Bentley. Unfortunately, for everyone involved, there just hasn't been much else released. The cause of his injury is still a mystery; in fact, we may never know what started the chain reaction that resulted in his passing.
It is my personal belief, for many many reasons, that Bentley's death is completely blameless. Other people feel differently, especially those who are not close to either side of the family, but this page operates under the assumption that there is no "right" or "wrong" side. In fact, in my opinion, both sides are losers... who comes out on top when a child dies? I have kept this page completely drama free: there's no place for it. There's no benefit to it. Say something negative about the biological mom, it gets deleted. Say something negative about the father's family, it gets deleted. There is no favoritism. There's no vast conspiracy, although many would like you to believe that.
I made my first withdrawal out of this site yesterday and gave it to the father's side of the family. I did this for several reasons, mainly that they're who I'm in contact with. As far as I'm concerned, it's up to them how to distribute the money. I do know that it has been left to them to pay for transportation and cremation expenses, as well as his memorial this weekend (that will not be including the biological mother, per her own wishes.) Anyone who really believes that they are benefiting or profiting in some way from this fundraiser are truly vile human beings, and your words will be immediately deleted off of this site. A child has died. The time for drama has passed. Please let this boy rest in peace, and save the wicked allegations for your own time. This is the one and only time I'm going to address this; from now on, it will be quickly dealt with by deletion of the comment, and the banhammer will be swung.
Details for Bentley's memorial are finally set! We will be celebrating his precious life next Saturday, November 23rd. Unfortunately, this fundraiser has received quite a bit of local attention (not all good) and for that reason I find myself a bit uneasy sharing everything via this page. If you would like to attend, please feel free to send me a message on Facebook and I will fill you in! If you can't attend but would like to celebrate in solidarity, please wear a piece of superhero apparel or accessory that day in his memory.
I have been trying to keep the updates to a minimum since the website updates my Facebook FOR me several times a day-- I don't want everyone to get burnt out on seeing this! I'm asking everyone to please take a moment to hold a kind thought for the family today, especially in the wake of local news websites picking up this story and running with it. In doing so, all involved have become targets of much speculation and criticism... as if their burden has not been heavy in and of itself. I hope that we can use the unexpected publicity to reach people who may not have otherwise heard about Bentley, and may be moved to donate towards our fund. Thank you to everyone again for your donations, shares, and kind thoughts in this awful time.
And just like that, we've hit (and gone beyond) our goal. I spoke with the family and we are going to leave this up as long as it's still being shared and talked about- remember that every little bit, whether $1 or $100, is going to an awesome cause. Also, if you are doing your own fundraising, please let me know specifics and I can help spread the word! The more people donating, the less the family will find themselves scraping when the bills start rolling in. Thanks again from the bottom of our hearts
As we wrap up the first 24 hours I can't help but sit back in awe at the generosity shown to the family today. When I chose our $1,000 goal I hoped and prayed that it wouldn't be a huge flop... and here we are, 90% of the way there in a day. Obviously we would like to keep going beyond that goal, as their need will be much, much greater. But we couldn't have done this without your shares, donations, prayers, and kind words. You are all a blessing to this family, and your kindnesses will never be forgotten.
I put off checking the balance this morning because I wanted to be "wow-ed"... well, you guys did not disappoint!! I just scraped my jaw off the floor! You are all such a blessing, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. Let's reach this goal and then some
Thank you so much to those who have already donated. We got over the $100 mark in just 4 hours, and that's not even counting the cash donations that I've received in person! Please continue sharing this page and praying for Bentley's family and friends as they struggle with this incomprehensible tragedy.
On November 8, 2013, 18 month old Bentley was called home after a tragic accident sparked an extremely fast-moving chain of events that ultimately led to his passing. In addition to their emotional turmoil, his family is finding themselves dealing with an unexpected mountain of debt. Many financial details, including his funeral expenses, need to be settled sooner rather than later. All money collected through this site will be given directly to the family to help with final expenses-- anything beyond that will be applied to medical bills, and help with the time lost from work while dealing with this tragedy. Every little bit helps, and on behalf of Bentley's father and step-mother, thank you so much for your thoughts, prayers, and donations.