I've jumped through all the hoops and have even paid Dr. Bowers off. There's nothing but a plane ride standing between me and my surgery now, and I've got the ticket in my hot little hand! Excited doesn't even do justice to how I feel. It's almost unreal.
Once the surgery happens I'll be keeping you all updated on my recovery, so stayed tuned for that! Thanks again, you all are my heroes!
Everything's all set. I'm so excited!
$6,000 raised by 199 people in 13 months. 200 if you count me. It took 200 people to make my dream come true, to give me the body that I should have been born with. I'm so completely humbled. Not every girl gets a chance to see generosity like this. I can hardly believe I'm worthy of all this fuss.
Either way, here we are. In two months, surgery is happening and I turn a corner in my life. I've made a decision. I'm not going stealth. I'm a trans girl and no matter how much I get assimilated into the cissexist norms that tell me I'm a "real girl" once I have a vagina, I won't turn my back on my history and my people. For better or for worse, I will stand up proudly and be counted as a girl who was designated male at birth. "ªGirls like us"¬ deserve an example to show that your dreams can come true, and I'm going to try my best to be that example. Thank you all soo much!
We're rounding the last 2 months before surgery!!! And we're so close to the goal! Let's give it one last push and see if we can meet the goal and make this life-changing event go as smoothly as possible!
Please signal boost this wherever you can! I know we can do it!
Hi all! I'm sorry I've been so quiet, I've been battling a bout of homelessness the last 4 months or so, but I wanted to give you an update:
So, I've got all the paperwork in and my insurance pre-authorization process is underway. I may still need to appeal if they decide that they don't want to pay for what they said they would. This is, unfortunately, a very common occurrence with gender confirmation surgery. I really hope I have enough time to appeal before July 8th...
Anyway, so yeah, I've got the money I need to hand to Dr. B0wers in my savings account where I can't touch it, so at the bare minimum surgery will happen on July 8th!!!!! Thank you all so much for making this happen for me.
However, there is still the matter of money I need to live on while I'm on my back in bed recovering from surgery. It can take up to 3 months to recover enough to resume normal activity, and that's 3 months I'll need money to survive!
So with that being said, I will ask again that you give what you can, and for the love of Pete, SIGNAL BOOST THIS FUND! It helps more than you can imagine!
I love all of you, you're awesome!
Just wanted to drop a line to let you all know that I'm still alive, kicking, and raising funds for this surgery.
I've been having a pretty rough time since I last updated. I went to visit my family in Mississippi (which went relatively well) but while I was there my stepdad was just gearing up for surgery of his own (on his back). He had a very rough recovery, and I spent the majority of my visit with my mom at his bedside. Needless to say, the knowledge of my own upcoming surgery made this an extra-stressful experience.
I've had a lot of butterflies about this surgery since then, and at times I've even thought, "there's no way I can do this, it's too scary!" But I've thought about it a lot and I realize that the alternative (living for the rest of my life in my body as it is now) is not a plausible option. It's just not something I can do.
So now, as we reach the 6-month-til-surgery mark, I'm digging deep for all the courage I can muster to get this surgery out of the way so I can start living my life. That being said, I still need help from everyone to finish funding this so all this courage doesn't go to waste.
If you've already donated, please consider donating again. If you can't contribute financially, please consider getting the word out any way you can: Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, shouting from open windows, whatever! Everything helps!
Thank you so much for what you've already given me. It's not just money. It's hope.
Hey everyone! It's my birthday, and the only present I want, the only thing that's important enough to ask anyone for, is to help me get this fund circulating again. Please share, retweet, blog, throw paper airplanes, shout from windows, whatever! Get the word out there for me that Jill needs to get this surgery done so she can turn this chapter in her life and get on with other stuff... like getting geared up for school again!
Thanks! Love you all!
1 year Before and After!
I will be honoring all reward levels from before I removed them, because of course I would! Can't wait to start writing, drawing, and singing for those donations!
Another update: I'm removing the reward levels for a couple of reasons. I can't really talk about one of the reasons, but the other reason is that I'm realizing how unrealistic it is for me to actually send a thank you letter to each and every one of you wonderful people. Postage alone at this point would be about a hundred dollars lol!
Reward Levels will be back when I think of some appropriate rewards. I'm sorry if you were really counting on your reward. I'll make it up somehow.
2,000!! Thank you all so much! I wanted to let you guys know that, although my surgery date is set for July 2014, they do have cancellations all the time. That means if we fund this thing before then, I can move my date up! Let's go all the way to 6,000!!!
$1, 250! We hit my deductible already folks! Thank you all so much! Starting to really think this is gonna work! We're really gonna do it!
Over $800 in one night! I am so extremely grateful and humbled by this amazing show of support! Thank you all so, SO much!
Thank you so much to everyone who's already contributed! I'm almost afraid to believe this could actually happen for me. If you've already been awesome enough to donate, maybe you're also awesome enough to bomb your social media with my fund?
Oh, and thank you letters will be going out intermittently as I have time to prettify them!
Hello internet. I've never asked you for much, aside from the occasional
cute puppy video, but today I have to ask you for something big.
I need you to help fund my Gender Confirmation Surgery.
My name's Jill. I'm a college student at Portland State
University, I work at a call center, and I'm a navy veteran. My dream
is to become a counselor for gender-variant youth. Ever since I was a
young child, growing up in Mississippi, I could tell I was different.
It wasn't that I talked different from boys. It wasn't that I acted
any different. I didn't. When you're growing up in an atmosphere
where any deviation from the norm is swiftly (and in most cases,
publicly) snuffed out, you learn real quick to know your place and
I knew my place so well that it wasn't until my 25th
year on this planet, after I had tried everything I could to run away
from it (including joining the United States Navy), that I began to
confront my gender. After a year of therapy and an extended period of
severe depression with thoughts of harming myself daily, I gave in
and took the first steps toward becoming a whole person. Steps toward
That was over a year ago, and today the woman you see before you
is far, far stronger. Stronger for standing up and telling my
friends, my family, and the world "I don't care what you think I
am. I am a woman." Stronger for losing a fair deal of those friends
and family members, including my father who will barely speak to me.
Stronger for making that leap of faith every morning that when I walk
out my front door the world will take me seriously as a woman.
And I came out the other side. A year on hormones and I am
happier, more well adjusted, and (if I may say so) much prettier.
There's just one more thing I need to be a whole person.
I need a vagina.
It doesn't get any plainer than that. The reproductive organs I
have right now are a constant source of stress in my life. There is
not a single aspect of my life that isn't affected by it.
The way I dress:
I want to wear leggings as pants! I want to wear
tight skirts without worry! I want to swim again! I can't even swim!
My sex life:
As you can imagine, being a girl with this kind of
hardware is frustrating. It is especially so for me, because after a
year of hormones suppressing the spontaneous erections that keep your
junk healthy, when I do get erect it is really, REALLY painful. TMI,
I know, but it sucks. Help, please?
All women have good reason to be afraid when they walk
alone at night. That's no joke. Trans women have even more to fear. 1
in 12 trans women are murdered in their lifetime. When I walk alone
at night (which is freaking never if I can help it) I'm worrying
about being read as trans and killed. I'm worried about being read as
a woman by a rapist and murdered when they see my genitals. When I go
on a date, I always tell the person I'm dating beforehand that I'm
transgender, because I don't want him to flip out and hurt me. This
surgery would greatly improving my chances to be one of the 11 trans
women who lives.
What do you need $6000 for?!
$6000 is my estimate for how much vaginoplasty is going to cost
me. I have health insurance from my work that covers 80% of the
operation after $1,250 deductible. I've already put down $500 with
Dr. Marcy Bowers, who is VERY respected in her field for doing
incredible work and producing vaginas for trans women that are every
bit as sensate, functional, and pleasing to the eye as any woman born
with one. I won't get into the details of how this is done because
I'm squeamish, but there's about a six week recovery period
afterwards. I have wonderful people in the San Francisco people who
are willing to put up with me while I get better, so I'm good on that
front. The money I receive from this crowdfund will go toward the
money I'll have to pay Dr. Bowers as well as travel expenses from
Portland to Los Angeles (I'll be driving) and the various expenses
for supplies and such I'll need for recovery.
What do I get?
Besides the knowledge that you literally made my life? Check out
the rewards above!
So, that's it. I really hope this fund goes successfully. My date
with Dr. Bowers is Summer 2014, and I need to have the money by then,
otherwise I have to cancel, possibly forfeiting my $500 deposit...
But that's not going to happen, because this is going to get
funded! I know you'll help me, internet! Won't you?